5 yrs we've been together.things started to worsen wen i've become over possesive.my bf had cut ties with me coz of my jealousy. i was incessantly calling and texting he was replying hardly.recently he told me its over coz i pressurize him too much and i wont change my attitude he wont be able to live with me.afterwards i set a target of 2months and asked him to think,he agreed!! please advice
2006-09-20 23:30:50 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he said he'd think over now he's fed with my attitude?i wana no if i give him peace of mind if he mite come back
2006-09-20 23:52:22 · update #1
The first thing you have to work on is your ability to be happy and content with yourself.
Your issue of trust, your neediness, your clinging - those are things that will chase most friends and lovers away. For whatever reason you have these issues, you have to learn to let go, relax, and accept what comes. Constantly checking up on your lover is not only an annoyance to the other person, but it is also insulting in the fact that they know (deep down) that you don't trust them, even when they've done nothing to create that lack of trust within you.
Find out what it is that's the true root to why you feel and react this way. Work through this, and better yourself before you try to seek out another relationship.
As for this man you've split with - Let him be. After the two months, do not seek him out. Work on you. Work on your happiness and move foreward. Show him, and everyone else, by example that you are improving yourself.
Perhaps one day, he might venture back into your life for another chance after you've truly changed. When that happens, you'll be able to decide if you do actually want him and you'll have the knowledge that you will not make those same mistakes again; with him or someone else.
2006-09-21 00:00:33 · answer #1 · answered by eedoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i began out out slightly extra polarised i think than i'm now, and lots extra open and trusting. Age has given me experiance, sturdy and undesirable, and there are episodes in my existence I desire Had executed in yet differently, by i don't have be apologetic approximately issues I even have not executed. Why waste a while regretting activities you probably did no longer start up, and might in no way trully be attentive to the path of that selection, are you able to. in case you spend you existence in reflection of no longer turning impressive on the crossroads 5 years in the past, you will possibly no longer hit upon the perspectives on the line you have chosen, or waste your existence reliving one discision that could have led to a vehicle crash, so which you eventually finally end up questioning some dream, no longer a fact. rigidity is something i got here upon with age. The extra funds you attempt to earn, the extra rigidity others think of is suitable to heap onto your shoulders. i do no longer respond to different peoples time limits now, I set my own aims, and forget approximately people who flap approximately and attempt to handle me like i replaced into born the day earlier today. i'm additionally surprised on the depths some unhappy persons will hunch to in the back of your back, and how the human beings with very just about no longer something to furnish will provide freely, yet people who've a cushty existence, will cheat, lie or maybe scouse borrow from you in the event that they think of that they could escape with it.
2016-10-17 09:22:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, sweetie......you have not really changed because you did nothing to change. You just decided to be on your best behavior for awhile. You have to seek help for the root cause of your problem. You have not done that and you will be right back into your "old" behavior if he does come back. You need to find out why you are the way you are. Usually is is low self-esteem, insecurity etc. Again, NO, you have not changed.....you have only put your bad behavior on hold. Most people don't understand what "change" is.......period.
2006-09-20 23:36:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really need to think for your relationship seriously, coz. The more you dominate on a men/women in ur life, more u send them away from you emotionally. Keep faith, if you realize that it was your mistake, you've got enough time to work on it.
2006-09-20 23:41:04 · answer #4 · answered by PRIYA M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to work on ur insecurities is what you need to do if i was him i would leave you. I wouldnt want to be hounded every min. of every day.
2006-09-20 23:34:51 · answer #5 · answered by shelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Not at all!
2)Don't do it---tricky stuff....
3) don't bother...move on!
Ciao..John-John.
2006-09-20 23:34:07 · answer #6 · answered by John-John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need help sweetie!
2006-09-20 23:32:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋