I'm looking for serious advice here.I did some things in my local area that were very wrong(but I have no prison record or anything) and people see me as "the local nutter".I've finally beaten drugs now but people are still scared of me.Should I leave my area and start off in a hostel somewhere else?Should I change my name by deed poll?What on earth should I do?Any suggestions welcome.I really didn't realise how bad my reputation was till I gave up my bad behaviour.It's very widespread for a few miles around!
2006-09-20 23:14:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
The WORST thing you can do is believe the things that others say about you. However, people can be very unforgiving. Especially if you live in a confined space.
I would suggest you go away to work for a time. A nice fresh start will make you feel like a million dollars. The stress of being judged is probably getting on your nerves. I may also be detecting a smidgen of guilt.
Not being reminded every day of your past will be good for you. Good luck
2006-09-20 23:18:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reputation is hard to shake off at times, but you know you own these people no favours and they have no right to look down on you, you have changed you life around and are trying to move on, do you like the area where you live, do you think you would be much better off starting over somewhere else, if so then move from the area and get the support you need from the DSS, they should be able to put you in touch with people who can give you a fresh start and the help you need to make a better life.
2006-09-21 01:56:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good that you've turned your life around and seen the error of your ways. Some people have long memories though and especially so in a small community. You don't need to change your name unless it makes YOU feel better by reinventing yourself, but probably a fresh start somewhere else where anyone would be unlikely to know you or have heard of you would be a good idea. Perhaps you could visit a few places to see if you'd like to live there, and look at the job market, if you think it looks promising, then look around for accomadation. It can be exciting starting a new life, so if you do it, do it properly. Good luck!
2006-09-21 00:16:54 · answer #3 · answered by coolbythepool23# 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a credit to you for changing your ways. I think if you genuinely have changed your ways, given time, and proving it to the locals in your area you will be re-accepted. Do you want to stay there, or do you want to move away? Will moving away help you remain a reformed character, or are you more likely to slip back to your old ways? Can you get a local job, so people get used to seeing you, and can see the New You? Whatever you decide, I will you all the best.
2006-09-20 23:32:37 · answer #4 · answered by PhoenixRights 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to leave your area. If you have done something wrong and you're truly sorry about it, just stay where you are. Let that issue "die a natural death". Face the truth and the truth will set you free. Also greet the people around you. Even they ignored or disregard you, do be ashamed of yourself. Show them that you change for good. Anyway, you are but human. Everything will be OK in God's TIME. Always be of good cheers. GOD BLESS US ALL.
2006-09-20 23:30:00 · answer #5 · answered by Mutya P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couple of hundred miles should do it. France /Belgium/Wales/Tyne and Wear or Scilly Isles.
Try religion, Jehovas Witnesses are always pretty desperate for members or if you fancy playing Euphonium there is always the Salvation Army.
Again if you are a "Nutter" then Islam may suit you as they dont condem a bit of violence now and again.
2006-09-20 23:55:43 · answer #6 · answered by "Call me Dave" 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Changing your name won't help. It's going to take you a long time for you to build back up the trust people have lost in you. You have no one to blame for that but yourself. Sometimes moving to a new area might help. Moving away from the people who helped you get into the mess you are in can be a good idea.
2006-09-20 23:55:38 · answer #7 · answered by lady01love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me that you want to start a new life i would bite the bullet and move on, what would you be leaving behind anyway?
but if you have something to stay around for then do so,
well done and good luck
best wishes
xxxix
2006-09-20 23:20:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont need to move, listen m8 it wont be long before theres another nutter to fill your shoes and the limelight will be taken from you so just get on with yer life and dont worry about it.
2006-09-20 23:50:47 · answer #9 · answered by sleepwalker69 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My days of going beyond the beyonds is long gone, beyond retrieval even. However, 'twas not that long ago I would go beyond even the beyonds to the furthest gone. It is a wonder I returned to the anon.
2016-03-27 00:09:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋