What are the pro's and con's for a natural birth or a cesearean?

Question

Im worried that when i have children i wont want to have a natural birth because im scared i mean a head coming out of me!!! RAR and it stretches you therfore sex isnt as good and did i mention the pain!!

But a cesearen you cant drive or do anyhard work for 10 weeks becasue of the stiches but you dont strecth there's no head being pushed out

advise please

i have a phobia of needles therefore will not have an epidural

i have a phobia of needles therefore will not have an epidural

Answer 1

I've had had 5 babies! I have had 4 natural births and one emergency ceasarean. I think it depends on the person what is best for them. However, I would recommend trying for a natural birth rather than a ceasarean. It might seem like an easier option at the time. But there is a lot more risk of complications. You can't drive for 6 weeks. Lifting and caring for your new baby is extremely painful too. Yes, childbirth does hurt, but there are other pain relief methods available apart from epidurals. Your midwife can discuss these with you. I thought the gas and air was great. I also found that being allowed to move around and feeling in control during labour helped me a lot. The good thing about a natural birth is that it hurts at the time, but as soon as the baby is born the pain stops! Not everyone needs stitches. If you listen to your midwife during labour and don't push until she tells you to, then you should be all right. Also I have had no problems with sex after 5 kids. You will go back into your shape after a few weeks and pelvic floor exercises will help with this.
Good luck!

Answer 2

I had a natural birth and it was the best experience ive ever had and id lover to do it again - but unfortunately hubby said wait 3 years so thats what we are doing.
The sex is still good cause you can make it good. Just becuase youve pushed a baby out of you doesnt mean you have to give up on sex. Be adventurous - have sex outside, on the stairs, in the bath, use lotions or toys.

C-sections - I cant advise on them as ive never had one but if you get advise on people that have had one then listen caefully and take some of it in.

Every birth is different - one could last 16 hours where another could last 2 days - it all depends.

I found that only the contractions hurt, the pushing and the head popping out wasnt a problem.

My advise - go with the flow - I thought the worst but got the best

Good luck and hope this has helped

Answer 3

Women are designed to give birth naturally, else they have a zip so that there's not be a need for c-sections.
:)

The pros and cons for the mum have been described.

I just wanted to add what my ex-boss, a very spiritual lady believes. She believes that it is important for the baby to go through the birth canal, do experience the birth in a natural way and sort of feel the light at the end of the tunnel and travelling towards the light.

Personally I was a c-section kid due to complications; I am not that maladjusted...

Also you might consider water births if your gynae has some experience or can recommend someone. It's supposed to be less painful and also better for the baby, an easier transition, less traumatic.

Answer 4

OK

As a dad I cannot begin to describe the experience but please note that a cesearean is a major operation whereas a standard delivery is excatly that.
There are other considerations for you health that the hard work and stitches.
Many women feel nervous about first (and other childen) but feel assured that many women wonder about ceseareans the same as you.

I hope you get some good answers to help you understand the process here. But these are things you can discuss with a health care professional etc. In most cases ceseareans are performed where medically necessary and not by choice.
Put is this way, your body already knows how to give birth, but it is your body.

Good luck and be confident in your choice !

Answer 5

I feel I must be one of the few people who have experienced both. I had my first 2 children via elective c-section due to them both being breach. I had no choice. My third child had enough sense not to be breach and I had him naturally. The c-sections were tough. It is not a natural procedure and my husband got to hold my first two children before i did as I had passed out with my daughter and then was being sown back up and pretty much the same with my son. My third child was put straight into my arms. I got to watch my third child be bathed, but was too out of it with my first two. With the first two kids I was in a terrible lot of pain and there I was with a baby to look after. The doctor wanted me to go home on the second day but I stood my ground and stayed for 5. I think he thought I was wonderwoman. But with my third child I was almost running down the hall of the hospital the second day after having him, even though it was quite a difficult birth. I recovered much quicker from the natural birth. I bonded with all my children the same way, but I know I would pick a natural birth first if I was able. A c-section has its place, for safety or when the mother is worn out or just not capable, but I would not select it as an option. Oh and as for not being able to drive and do much for 10 weeks I think someone forgot to tell my doctor, husband and baby that!
Hope this has helped

Answer 6

OK, I have had both, I had my 1st two babies naturally. I had a c-section with my last baby (she was breech). If I was to have any more babies I would go natural all the way.

I had stitches after the birth of my 1st baby and left the hospital a day after he was born and I was a little sore but was fine. My 'bits' soon healed and are now fine. I had my 2nd son naturally too I had no stitches and was home 6 hours after his birth no pain at all.
The C-section was ok didn't feel any thing while being done but as soon as the spinal wore of I was in pain. I couldn't pick up my baby on my own as I was in too much pain (I had morphine too). I couldn't change her nappy for days, I came home 4 days after having her but still in a lot of pain.
My baby is now 21mth and I still get a sharp pain in my c-section scar.
So no a c-section is NOT an easy option.

Answer 7

Ignore all the scare stories about giving birth naturally. It's the easiest and fastest way to recovery you can get. C-sections take ages to get over as it's a major operation and not to be taken likely. Ok so there may not be any head to be pushed out but you'll be cut across the stomach and have your insides cut and messed with, before sealing you back up, leaving you with a lovely big scar across your stomach which you'll have for like. No one can tell if you've given birth naturally and the healing time is MUCH faster.

Answer 8

Are you crazy??

The only good thing about a Cesarean is that it might save the life of you or your unborn child in an emergency!!

A Cesarean is major surgery and when you have a new baby to look after the last thing you want is to be recovering from major surgery as well!!

What is a bit of vaginal stretch compared to having a knife slice through your skin, fat, muscles, womb etc etc. The pain from this lasts a hell of a lot longer than your average labour and you also risk infection, my sisters friends scar split open when they were on holiday and had to rush to the hospital with her womb and bladder held in with a towel!! It took 4 years for her scar to heal properly!!

I gave birth naturally and my sex life is fantastic thank you!! Much much better than before I gave birth. I'm more sensitive down there, and being slightly looser (and it is only very slight) it takes my man a bit longer to climax - which is great for me!!

Answer 9

I have had two children one a "normal" delivery and the other was a section.

I would prefer out of the two to have a "normal" delivery, you are more likely to be able to care for your baby straight away. yes I needed stitches. But I was able to care for myself and walk around

When I had the section I had to buzz for a nurse to come and let me have a cuddle then buzz for her to come and place my baby back in the crib, I was also catherised for 24 hours I couldn't get up, I had loads of stitches and have huge scar across my belly.

Just because the celebrities have sections doesn't mean its great!

You don't get the free liposuction and tummy tuck after the baby's birth, and that's another thing you have to wait 6 - 8 weeks before you do any gentle exercises, when after a "normal" you can start straight away (your midwife will tell you if you should or shouldn't)

Go for the normal delivery its better for you and your body!

And.... another thing.... Contractions finish when the baby is born, no more pain, when you have a section you have a full operation site and you are in pain sitting up, going to the loo, walking around, holding your baby etc

Answer 10

NATURAL IS EASIER FOR YOU AND THE BABY UNLESS THERE ARE MEDICAL CONCERNS THAT REQUIRE YOU TO HAVE A C SECTION. NATURAL YOU CAN DO BASICALLY ANYTHING STRAIGHT AFTER / C SECTION AND YOU WILL BE VERY SORE AND HAVE LIMITED THINGS THAT YOU CAN DO LIKE HANGING CLOTHES OUT AND THE RISK OF INFECTION IN YOUR WOUND. THE STAPLES COME OUT USUALLY 3 DAYS AFTER THIS CAN ALSO BE PAINFUL. YOUR MINIUM STAY WILL BE 5 DAYS C SECTION KNOWING ALL IS WELL WITH BABY WHILE NATURAL ALLOWS YOU TO GO HOME THE NEXT DAY. THE OPTUNES YOURS AND EVERYONE HAS A DIFFERENT OPPINION SO IT REALLY IS UP TO YOU AT THE END OFF THE TIME WHAT YOUR WISHES AND BELIEIFS ARE. MAKE SURE THAT YOU VIEW DVDS ON BOTH PROCEDURES AND EVELUATE FOR YOUR SELF THE BEST MEANS OF LABOUR FOR THE SAFETY AND WELL BEING OF YOU AND YOUR BABY.

BEST OF LUCK AND ENJOY YOUR NEW LITTLE TREASURE