I miss all my old friends and my family... Everyone hates me now...
2006-09-20 22:06:40 · 39 answers · asked by Michael 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
make new friends youcant be ashamed of who you are!! If they don't like you for you then they are not true friends i know you miss them but make friends with people who accept you for you
2006-09-20 22:08:52 · answer #1 · answered by aimzinch 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Firstly, how can true friends hate you? Family, well, you can't choose them, and they probably envisaged a different path that you would followed in your life.
Now something else I would like to ask you, how can you say you are gay, and not be proud? Is it not who you are? Would you be happy with sneaking around and pretending to be straight again. I am not judging you, because I do not know your full situation.
Are you in a relationship at them moment, do you have anyone to support you? To help you? Someone who understand you.
If you truly want to go back into the closet, it would mean lying, say that you were confused, and sorry if you caused any hurt.
Good luck, and remember there will always be people out there who will support you when you are true to yourself.
2006-09-20 22:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by natasha * 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you wanna take it back. Ok so you lost some friends and some of the family don't talk to you anymore. If they were true friends it wouldn't matter if you were straight or gay and your family will come around, might take a while but I think they will. Make new friends that except you for who you are. Never try to change your self for everyone else just be who you are,
2006-09-21 02:59:25 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, the thing is, you are gay. Thats not a choice, or a phase. Its who you are, and you cant change it. Now, when you're gay, the worst kind of people you could possibly be around, would be homophobes and fascists, as it sounds like your old friends and family are. I know it stings to be shunned, but people around the world are seperated from their family for many reasons. I live 4000 miles from everyone i ever knew, and sometimes get so lonely my throat closes and my chest hurts...........but life is only as good as your best memories, so dedicate yourself to making some, and forget about those wankers. Party, have fun, volunteer for charity and do meaningful things! Good luck.
2006-09-21 04:23:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw them. Why would you want ANYONE in your life that can not accept you for who you are? Good for you showing the world who you are. Be happy with that. I know a BUNCH of people who have no clue as to their true identity you do, do not be ashamed.
And do you really think "going back in the closet" will change their prejudice view on you? What if you should run into someone you want o spend the rest of your life with, then what are you going to do? Hide that person in the same closet you are wanting to go back in and hide from them, what about holidays?
I am straight, but I do have a number of gay friends. Sexual orientation should hold no baring in what people think of you, or how they treat you.
If people love you, they love you, no matter what your personal life choices may be. If you have people in your life that judged you over your personal choices, they were never there for you anyway.
In a world as messed up as this one we live in, what difference does something like that make? Instead of treating you like you are the plague, they should be taking that energy and channeling it into something positive, like loving you for who you are.
If they do not accept you how you are, let them go, they are not worth it, no matter how bad you may feel about it today. Not being true to yourself and who you are will hurt you a lot more in the long run.
Hold on, you will be just fine honey, I can promise you that.
2006-09-20 22:20:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sadly there is no easy way back, Clearly you hurt your old friends deeply when you "Came Out" get a girlfriend they say, o.k. but can you treat a girl right after 3 years of Gay play.
Can you work around her physical and emotional needs as dictated by her hormones, can you treat her right, "Love" her, support her if she desires to reproduce.
And will you find anyone desperate enough to go out with a former queer, with all the percieved additional risks of HIV infection, if you do will will such a person be sufficiently near your intellectual level to be a life partner or would be better off just paying a prostitute while you get backinto the swing of things.
2006-09-20 22:49:46 · answer #6 · answered by "Call me Dave" 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay gay, I support gay people and their rights and am a registered Liberal voter in CA. Many of my friends are gay guys and girls. I do not care about their sexual preference it is none of my business and such a small part of who they are. I see people for who they are, the only people I do not like are jerks or violent individuals. If my children were gay I would never disown them or try to change them that is bull s**t! Your family is WRONG and so are your friends! Be yourself and if noone likes it too bad, anyway I know not everyone hates you, there are so many other people out there. I do not hate you and neither do all these people who wrote you. Get new friends, your old ones do not deserve you.
2006-09-20 23:09:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its possible you would only be lying to yourself and this would not make you happy.
I came out last year and my family gradually rejected me and it does hurt, but I have accepted that I have to get on with my life and live it as I want not as they want me to be.
Move on make new friends and you will find the old ones don't really matter. Real friends would still be your friends regardless of your sexuality. Most of my friend at work are still my friends since I came out and they say I seem better for it.
So try and move on as its really impossible to go back.
2006-09-22 00:52:13 · answer #8 · answered by THOMAS S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure no one hates you. You sound like a very nice guy. Don't feel down about this. I know it must be hard for you but you must now carry on and look to the future. Be there for yourself and look after number 1. If these people love you they will come round in time. Good luck and big hugs too.
2006-09-20 22:25:34 · answer #9 · answered by bobbi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to go back to them if they hate you for what you really are? Friends stick with yuo no matter what, so they could not have been very good friends to begin with. If you get back in the closet, whos's going to be worse off, you or your so called "friends"?
2006-09-23 10:44:49 · answer #10 · answered by Scorpius 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no way back,once your out,your out,all the people that were close to you know,so what's the point?It's sad they don't accept you as the person you are,the fault is theirs.Just get on with your life,& hope that some-day your family will realise how unfair they have been.Good luck.
2006-09-20 23:43:05 · answer #11 · answered by michael k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋