Why do people have affairs? Is it because there is something missing emotional missing from their marriage?

Question

Or is it greed? Or the excitement? Or is it in their nature? Or is just for extra sex?

Answer 1

People often slip into marriage and then take each other for granted.
Often women are made to feel unattractive or unloved simlpy becasue they no longer get the attention that they were used to. An affair reassures and exictes them , making them feel alive again.
Men tend to resent the responsibilities and simply want to have a good time with a pretty girl, without the hassles and nagging.
It's not really about morales, it's about the disillusionment that comes when the fireworks finally fade.
Marriage is hard work, and a lot of people aren't prepared to give it the committment it deserves

Answer 2

Any of those to different people. Some people are just after something different, others extra sex, some people want out of there marriage and want the whole romance thing. Other are just lacking in self control and morals and cant help themselves.

I think pretty much every human likes to look, and maybe imagine, but not everyone takes it any further - I know that if I were in a situation where i was to commit adultery, my marriage would be over because there is no way i could do it to my wife, but some people don't work like that, they can separate the two and happily cheat.

Answer 3

That's a very difficult question to answer, I think there are lots of reasons depending on the individuals circumstances.

However I think a common reason is down to people missing the excitement that happens at the beginning of a relationship.

When you first start going out with someone there's that whole excitement/pit of the stomach feeling. It's amazing getting to know someone, lusting after them, hearing their opinions, touching their skin for the first time.

After a while you get comfortable with them and some of the excitement goes. You no longer lust after them all the time, get excited when you are about to see them, find their little habits and ways cute or amusing. Instead those feelings are replaced by trust, comfort, companionship, security and if you are lucky a much deeper emotional bond.

Some people aren't ready to accept that or are not with the right person to move onto that stage. Maybe they can't admit this and go on to seek out the excitement of those heady first few months by having affairs.

But that's a woman's point of view, maybe for the guy it's just about sex and sowing his seed :-)

Answer 4

Its a little bit of everything I think.There is alot of excitement meeting someone new, and it does your self esteem the world of good.For some couples it may be the extra sex,and the excitement that brings, but for others, it depends whats missing in their own marriages, to what they go looking for. Emotional/mental stimulation is just as important, and that's what lacks in alot of relationships, and is why people start looking outside of their own marriage.

Answer 5

After marriage affairs are considered as immoral. But still some people involved in affairs.Most of the time reasons are circumstancial. Emotional as well as unsatisfactory sexual performance, economic reasons are also contributing factors to affairs.

Answer 6

I think it's excitement. When my hubby cheated on me we had been together 7 years ( married for just a year). There was nothing wrong in our relationship at all. They way the affair started was some young tart threw her self at my hubby and he felt good that a young girl 'liked' him, but the grass was not greener and he soon came back with his tail between is legs.

Answer 7

they is something emotional missing in the individual. and what that something is is humility. they are selfish and emotionally and spiritually immature. They always have the notion of some type of entitlement. the truth be known, if whatever they said was missing from the marriage was present, they still wouldn't be satisfied. It is not external. It is internal, within them.

Answer 8

It' Just For Extra Sex!

Answer 9

I'd imagine that the reasons are as varied as the people involved. In all my life, I've been in many relationships, but I've only cheated on one person - my abusive, drunk ex - after 4 years of abuse that made me feel like I had the value of a piece of furniture.

I met someone that spoke to me with respect, that made me laugh and laughed at funny things I said, that was tender and gentle, and that made me smile just spending time together. I didn't tell him that I was married because I didn't want it to end. After 4 years of abuse, suddenly being treated like a beloved, sexy, funny, intelligent human being was a wonderfully unintentional aphrodisiac.

Answer 10

Depends. Al ot of people feel different after they marry. They miss the excitement of meeting someone, first time sex and the secrecy