how to influence ppl?

Answer 1

Reflect their beliefs and interests back at them and they will feel more able to trust you. Try to show great interest in the things they find most important.

Patience is a virtue. Spend time identifying common concerns and discuss these at length. At this point you will begin to learn what you will need to get this person to act/move in the direction you might want them to proceed.

Make it seem as though they were the ones who actually wanted to make these choices.

On a larger scale this can be done only if you have a deep understanding of what the majority of people desire and lean towards these beliefs in your public addresses.

They crave comfort in knowing that their desires are important to others as well. And that they are part of something "larger" than themselves. This may be the best way to "use" them for you own will.

How's that?

Answer 2

"Gosh bhgyth, when I was a young man, my attempts to influence those around me were one dimensional, in other words, very juvenile. As I aged, I learned that nothing can be one dimensional when dealing with fellow human beings.
Take friendship, for example. Making a good friend means much give and take. You must assume responsibility to treat your good friend well. Good friends will offer compromises so each will come away from the table with many things they like, and a few things they must do without. Friends make it happen much faster than acquaintances. What does all this mean?
Anyone hoping to influence others must make a friend of them or offer mutual benefits which will reward the attempts for gain.
Successful politicians learn these lessons well in their attempts toward elections or re-elections. They remain in the public eye trying to satisfy all their constitutuents demands (they keep trying to make more friends) to remain in power.
The methods of influencing, or, controlling others has a long history in economics, law and psychology. There are plenty of other methods to influence, but, the attempts to garner friendships produces better results than coercion."

Answer 3

shown respect for others to build rapport, then ppl will start to hear. build credibiility for ppl to listen. walk the talk and talk the walk to build lasting trust. naturally ppl will follow

Answer 4

Do what you say and say what you mean. It builds self-respect. You can't influence anybody without a healthy understanding of respect.

Answer 5

when u interact show concern for the other.
be natural. don't put on airs. it puts the other off.
if you are genuine, ur genuinity wins over.
be humble. ur humility wins the others heart.

Answer 6

Speak softly, carry a big stick.

Answer 7

1. you can convince them logically to do something
2. you can convince them sentimentally (they love you enough to do it for you)
3. you can force them (but this doesn't work most of the time and it always backfires)

Answer 8

giving the right arguments.