A friend of mine, who is fairly young, was just told by her husband that he is not physically attracted to her any more, and not interested in being intimate. Should she leave him, or stay & try to be more attractive, they have young kids, and she says he is a good dad, etc. What do you think? Have you ever been where she is and what did you do about it? What would you do?
2006-09-20 21:13:12 · 10 answers · asked by shardf 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would get the heck out of there if the intimacy is still imprtant to her. And she certainly should not put up with him telling her that she is no longer attractive. My wife and I better still have a physical relationship for the rest of our lives. I understand that it decreases with age, but if I have to tap and stick to it to keep it there I willl just make sur ethat we can still....(ha ha) But you know what I mean, if she isn't getting what she needs then she should discuss it with him and is unwilling to give her the support and intimacy that she needs then she should find a guy that will.
2006-09-21 01:33:40 · answer #1 · answered by ????????????????? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I advice your friend like this :
1)try to get information from his husband why he is not physically attracted to her anymore
2)try to get to know why he is not interested in being intimate
3)after get those informations she should try to improve her appearance in line with her husband criteria or needs
4)if he is a good dad,try to collect of his reason why he is not responsible to his wife and kids in maintaining a hamonious family
I think a forced marriage is not good and intimacy is a biological needs for her and her husband too.Without intimacy for a long time their marriage will be dry and no love between each other is a misery.If after those effort they failed to make a happy family,I think it is a right time to be divorced peacefully and their kids should be raised ,loved and financed by sharing of both their mother and father..
2006-09-20 21:38:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She shoud leave him.
If he's not physically attracted to her, he will become attracted to someone else.
Would you want to serve and love someone who was not attracted to you? It is unfair to her.
I lived 9 years without sexual intercourse from my husband of 17 years.
It doesn't work, and when they finally do find someone else instead of you, you get left feeling like you are to blame.
No woman deserves that. Worse yet, I wasted 17 YEARS of my life. I hope she doesn't make the same mistakes I made.
Talk her into leavin him. Find another fish in the sea. They are out there...good men who love you for who you are!
2006-09-20 21:16:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can exist without sex, but not without intimacy. She should move on. Staying for the sake of the kids doesn't help the kids, it only relieves the guilt.
2006-09-20 21:17:03 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
unless he is 90 years old and can't get it up...... he's not physically attracted? Could be it is another way of saying he is wore out from his on-the-side-attraction. He may not be screwing his wife.... but odds are he is screwing someone. She should dump him
2006-09-20 23:19:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and ulitmately marriages should evolve into that, as people grow and give up their carnal natures. Most people won't understand that, of course.
2006-09-20 21:15:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
this wont last in there marrage when this happens it isnt good beter divorced than live in hell . my opion?
2006-09-20 21:52:46 · answer #7 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and I kicked his sorry butt to the curb.
2006-09-20 21:33:11 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her that her husband is gay cause no man wants no intamacy he is a fudge packer,fruitcake,
2006-09-20 21:24:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to divorce him. OR ignore it and carry on.
2006-09-21 00:38:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋