We are having serious problems in our relationship of 3 years. We are at a standstill, moving nowhere except tp break-up. I do not know how to move forward together. He is greek and does not beleive in therapy. We also live in Greece. I am frustated by the fighting going around in circles. We need help or this will end. We love each other and do not want it to end but i have had enough and am so tired. I have tried everything i know and have no other ideas. We need an outsider to teach or show us some things but he will not consider it. It is private and not culturally acceptalble. So? Any ideas? please?
2006-09-20 21:07:26 · 16 answers · asked by xenosgrrl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sweetie, I have faced the same dilemma in my experience...
you need to express to him that the therapy will be done w./ the utmost discretion- and if he wont consider then he is not willing to face the problems in your relationship (perhaps he is unwilling to confront his own faults?) therefore, is not willing to do all that it takes to keep your relationship together- leaving you w/ only one option (to leave) because continuing in an unhealthy relationship w/ a partner who is unwilling try in every way does not leave you w/ a very promising future- in any respect. is his pride stronger than his love? think about how many other subjects that may come up in your marriage that will be affected by this..... good luck to you.
2006-09-20 21:14:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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However, at that point where one partner is at the brink of abandoning the relationship, how can the remaining partner save their marriage? If you are at the point where your spouse has asked for a divorce, what can you do?
You must realize first that, you do have a choice. Often, when confronted by a crisis, we find ourselves backed into a corner thinking we have no choice in the matter. How can we change the situation when it involves another person's feelings or decisions? While we cannot, must not and in no way manipulate, blackmail or threaten our partner into changing their mind, we can actually control how we react to the situation. If anything, you must realize that you still have control over yourself. You have the opportunity to look inward and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions and even have the chance to take personal inventory of what your partner is trying to tell you. Are there points in your marriage that must be changed? If so, respond appropriately and proactively.
2016-02-10 23:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. that's really a hard situation..
Trying to have a therapy or counselling for both of you is good.. try to talk more and be really open to him on how you feel. Having cultural differences is really hard, but everything can be fixed if you will be very open to each other.. Communication is very impotant!
This might also help.. listed below..there are a lot of articles about relationships on my blog.. I hope some of the advice there will help!
goodluck!
2006-09-20 21:14:45 · answer #3 · answered by yummy _me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion;you have not givin enough information to answer your question correctly.Some times when two good ppl who love each other are at odds;it is the simple things that can and usually will rectify the situation.It sounds like you are a great gal,and really he is probably a great guy.
He is who he is;just like you are who you are.Try discussing this issue with him in 2nd or third person.Tell him how it is making you feel."without putting the blame on him" He seems to be a logical guy...kill him with logic...Have him understand your logic and he may let you understand his emotion....
good luck!
2006-09-20 21:15:50 · answer #4 · answered by Robert P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answers are in what you have said,maybe you need a break or sadly your relationship has come to an end.Have a think about what you are fighting about.your going to have a sit down with him and talk about what you don't agree on.If a compromise doesn't work ,then theres no point.
2006-09-20 21:24:12 · answer #5 · answered by Countess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you guys are going to Disneyland then take him to therapy without telling him...Just kidding...
Tell him that you believe that the only way you can make the relationship work is to get some help if you guys cannot solve your problems on your own.
2006-09-20 21:12:22 · answer #6 · answered by pureessence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If at three years your not married and you want your man to see a therapist you should take your own hint.
2006-09-20 21:10:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously ... you need a therapist.... pack your bags and move away FAST.... I wouldnt go to a marriage therapist with someone I wasnt married to... wake up smell the coffee pack a bag move on !!!!!
2006-09-20 21:13:04 · answer #8 · answered by Life_aint_easy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put a blindfold on him. Tell him you are driving to a hotel for a three-way with another women. (can't believe how many times I have fallen for that one)
2006-09-20 22:54:07 · answer #9 · answered by foghat77 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you are not married so you dont need a mariage therapist-any will do.
go yourself by yourself work on you.
then maybe later you can get him to go to "help you out with your issues".
any good therapist will know how to get him there.
2006-09-20 21:10:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋