that if our relationship doesn't change and his lack of doing things for my daughter doesn't change he's going to have to leave without sounding completely mean and arrogant. My daughters 6 weeks and the only thing he's done was donate sperm. He barely sees her and the only reason he's been calling is because he got a letter stating that child support will be served. I closed the case. I'm at my breaking point. I can't contuine to do this. I want him to change and I don't know how to make things work anymore. I'm fine if he stays and I'm fine if he goes. He just needs to decide but I freeze up when I talk to him. Help!!
2006-09-20 21:07:15 · 6 answers · asked by Ain't my baby gorgeous 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He won't choose so you're going to have to. Like you said, he's only hanging around to avoid child support payments, so that means you have 2 kids, one of them grown.
2006-09-20 21:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his mind is already made up. he is only being nice because he want the child support case closed. you open it again and he will be gone. then you will just how much of a jerk he is. He does not care about you or his daughter. he is only being nice so he does not have to support his daughter. do you really want someone in your life who comes and goes. someone who is not a consitent father. but a father when it is convient for him. your daughter does not deserve a life like this. your daughter should have to pay for your mistakes.your childs father has already made it clear to you he wants not part. he may have not said it. but actions speak louder then words.
2006-09-20 21:19:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 05:10:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what is best for your daughter and your self. You need to let him know that his actions and his lack of his responsibility's are a problem and it's going to end now. Let him know how important it is for a father to be in their daughters life. However you are not going to let him walk in and out of her life when he feels like it.He needs to make a choice now if he is going to be a part of her life or not.
That is his daughter and he needs to be there for her and be a part of her life just as much as you do. Tell him it's time to man up and step up to the plate he is a father now and it's time to act like it. You are fed up and will do what is best for your daughter. So therefor you will no longer except his lack of parenting, he is either going to step up or move on with his life.
2006-09-20 21:13:59 · answer #4 · answered by larrys_babygurl_4life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing get that child support case opened again. This is for your child, trust a mom you will need it! Kids are not cheap.
For your baby's sake you are going to have to make up your mind...
Write your thoughts down, give a copy to him. He can read?
Good luck!
2006-09-20 21:13:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that now that you have a child she is your first priority. You have to be a real adult now and you need him to do the same. If he can't then he needs to hit the road.
2006-09-22 01:49:59 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋