Ok, been married 11 years, but have stopped having sex, that's by her wish... I hate it, cause I love having sex. Now we sleep in different rooms, and barely talk to each other. Been like this over a year now, and I'm getting depressed. She tells my son that she doesn't love me, wants to separate, and basically wants me to disappear, even tells me I need to start dating other girls.... WTF?
2006-09-20 20:25:04 · 28 answers · asked by FearDragons 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
instead of complaning have u tried understanding WHY she behaving like that?have u spoken to her as in a heart-to-heart conversation as many times as u think u should have?just give her a hug and be kind to her.
she is upset with u for something hence she has retrieved into a shell........
send her flowers, take her out for a romantic dinner, give her a nice back rub, but most of all RESPECT HER for being a woman, RESPECT her for being an individual, RESPECT her for being your child's mother, RESPECT her for being your W.I.F.E.........
LOVE her coz LOVE never fails......
2006-09-20 20:35:50 · answer #1 · answered by choilein 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
YOU ARE NOT THE ONE THAT'S GIVING UP. HE IS! He's the one with absolutely no love, no respect, no control, no responsibility and no idea how to act like a man. He's the loser. You obviously tried and because he failed you have to move on. You have to save your children from watching a completely screwed up marriage. They should be watching their parents showing only love, respect, trust, communication and always making each other happy. You don't even have a marriage if he could treat you with no love and such disrespect! Get that loser out of your life and let him suffer for all the damage he has caused in your life. He will suffer if he can't take care of his own wife and children. He will eventually realize that he made a major mistake, probably when you and your children are with a real man who is making you all happy. GET RID OF HIM! You and the children deserve so much more than he can give. I wish you all the luck and have a Merry Christmas.
2016-03-17 23:29:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U don't even have a marriage anymore. Sleeping in different rooms? Well, you're more like roommates than couple. She must have fallen out of love with u and this is probably been a while in the making. She can't just suddenly feel this way. Something must've happened along the way. If this is what she really wants, there's nothing u can do but to let her go. It takes two to make a marriage work and if she's an unwilling partner, I'm afraid u can't save the marriage all on your own.
2006-09-20 20:35:00 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,
If she is telling you these things then maybe it's not worth saving. You deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you. If possible leave the home for awhile and see how that works out.
2006-09-20 20:29:34 · answer #4 · answered by D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry after 11 years things seem to be falling apart. It seems to me after 11 years a marriage should really be getting solid. I have heard of changes in life being hard on a marriage. It would be nice to know why she feels this way and if anything could help her feel differently. Maybe she herself is going through depression and is not coping effectively with it. I do wish you good luck either way it goes, but I do hope it goes the way you want it to.
2006-09-20 20:47:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not that it's not worth saving but it will take two to keep it together.And it sounds like in her mind your already gone.
2006-09-20 20:30:13 · answer #6 · answered by jean 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The marriage is definitely over in her eyes. She's just trying to get you to date in the hopes of leaving her, to make it easier on her.
Have you tried counseling, or is she even willing to try that?
If not, then I'd give her her wish and file for the divorce.
2006-09-20 20:30:03 · answer #7 · answered by ♫☼♥ ≈ Debbi ≈ ♥☼♫ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about that, but it sounds like it's over, take the initiative and move on even though it hurts. Who knows she might change her mind later. Don't date anyone until you are divorced. If your children are young be prepared for custody issues. When you file get a temperary order for custody and the property.
2006-09-20 20:43:14 · answer #8 · answered by whatshisface 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What don't you get? She's sending the message loud and clear: she is not interested in continuing with the marriage. See a lawyer.
2006-09-20 20:34:43 · answer #9 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long r u supposed to try? a year is long enough. and it might have worked if she had tried too. she obviously wants out. It will be hard, but go. Who knows what will happen after that. After all doesn't absense make the heart grow fonder?
2006-09-20 20:32:28 · answer #10 · answered by penelope 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WTH! a wife must know how to serve her husband well and that is including sex..if she cannot provide sex..than i think you should think of divorce..since she told your son that she does not love u anymore..there is reason for you to stay loyal..it wont worth it anymore for you to keep on trying saving your marriage..
but i wonder why she did that..it must have been caused by your action somehow somewhere..try ask her the reason she done that..if you could fix it then save it for the sake of your son..but if you cannot fix it anymore..why live in the same house anymore..
2006-09-20 20:34:22 · answer #11 · answered by atokboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋