2006-09-20 19:45:33 · 21 answers · asked by Subconsciousless 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1. Know yourself well before you marry, and know what you want (and don't want) in a partner
2. If your potential partner exhibits a habit you can not live with, walk away, do not marry them (it will not be fixed by the marriage). This not only includes bad habits, but habits that are simply disagreeable with yours.
2a. Discuss future kids, money, in-laws, religion, sex, and any other major potential disagreement to assure that there are no dealbreakers.
3. Don't move in together without a ring and a date. Why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free.
4. Commit to the marriage. And commit to your partner. Do at least three things a day just for them, not for you. This could include doing the dishes, having sex when you don't really want to yourself, walking outside to belch, or hug them spontaneously. And don't ask for recognition for doing them, ever.
5. Always kiss hello and goodbye when you part.
6. Stay married for a year, at least, before you have kids
7. Don't sweat the bad small stuff. Make it a habit to cause the good small stuff like fill her gas tank for her, bring him some chips during the game, a massage without reciprocation.
2006-09-20 20:08:19 · answer #1 · answered by freebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first marriage fell apart due to him not knowing how to stop using me as a punching bag. Second time around, I found my soul mate. First and foremost, honesty is very important. No matter how bad you think it might be, always be honest. Never cheat, no matter what. If you are unhappy then leave. Last, but not least, communication is key. Sure we argue, but we discuss our problems instead of shouting and fighting. There is no need to call anyone you love names. People are happily married because they found that person who shows them love and they don't need to be distracted by other forces. Good luck.
2006-09-21 03:55:52 · answer #2 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For us, the big one is communication, no matter how trivial the subject. We are also learning how to listen effectively to what each of us have to say to each other. It helps avoid misinterpreting the other. Honesty is also a big factor, along with patience and understanding. Last but not least, we joke around and have a lot of laughs together. Most importantly, my husband is my best friend and that has got to be the best thing in our marriage.
2006-09-20 19:51:05 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage is like a dish dat u prepare,the more u add ingredients to it the more ur dish tastes better.The best ingredients are trust, proper communication and coorperation ( understand the person ur living with) and spread love over its bound to be a success.( its not easy,patience also is needed)dont seek results today or tomorrow u have to work on ur relationship otherwise it will deteriorate.
2006-09-20 19:53:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sydney has it right but I need to add that my wife and I are married 7 years now and another key ingredient to marriage is FRIENDSHIP. My wife is and always will be my best friend and that is something that I believe alot of marriages are missing.
2006-09-20 19:49:23 · answer #5 · answered by Ren Hoek 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication and honesty are key to a successful marriage
2006-09-20 19:46:37 · answer #6 · answered by Sydney 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I learned this in a college class ( it was called interpersonal communication). The reason so many do well and so many don't is their commitment to one another. It's got nothing to do with Love (or rahter it's not the only thing putting them together) but rather how well and willing they are to stick to the relationship till DEATH
2006-09-20 19:47:26 · answer #7 · answered by Amber skie (22/f/ca) 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Learning to 'pick' your battles is the key for my wife and I. We have been married for almost 16 years. We used to argue about the most insignificant things...then gradually we learned not to argue about the little things like - toilet seat, up or down. Also honesty and communication...you have to talk so you are not keep things to yourself.
2006-09-20 20:15:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents have been married for nearly 35 years, they say communication, respect, honesty and still being able to be your own person.
At times they are sickening to watch, still like two lusty teenagers. But it's also great to see.
2006-09-20 20:11:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give space to different aspects to your wife.
Respect,communication,love and creativity on the nights.
Understand are two different persons and needs space to be together, no cause is your wife is your daughter, or your mom.
she is your associate on one company name family, and be side by side.
2006-09-20 19:57:11 · answer #10 · answered by wong6933@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋