There is this girl that I have liked for a long time. I know that she is engaged and will marry in August of 07. She has been with this guy for 3 years. There relationship was not all that good after the first year and he even got arrested for family violence for hitting her. Well now they are still together and she says things are fine but I klnow that her relationship was kinda shaky before. So I told her that I would not want to call her anymore and bother her because she is with someone. She said that she would not want to lose me and that we at least can have some kind of friendship. Lately she has been inviting me for lunch and even invited me to go to her daughters mariachi dance on Sundays so long as her fiancee does not go with her. She emails me and calls me at times. I really like her and I told her straight out that I like her alot, but I told her that I respected the fact that she is engaged and she really appreciated that. Do you think she likes me at least a little?
2006-09-20 19:35:27 · 21 answers · asked by PD 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Coming from a girl's point of view, I think she likes you, but on the basis of a friend. She still wants to maintain a platonic relationship, but on the other hand still cautious about her engagement.
However, I hope that you could be the man, by just being there for her or something, just keep it as friends. I know what it's like to be in your shoes. But what I believe that if she is yours, she will be yours. One cannot force Love unto the other party, if not you will not live in harmony.
Good luck my friend!
2006-09-20 19:40:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need a girls opinion? Dude you said you laid it all out there that you like her. She knows that you like her and I am sure knows that you would treat her better than her fiancee. Being her friend is the best thing you can do. If things fall apart between her and "little dik" (guys that hit women) then she will more than likely come to you wanting more than a friendship. Just stick with it be the best friend you can be. Just her knowing she has someone in her life she can depend on might help her make the decision you want her to make.
2006-09-20 19:43:19 · answer #2 · answered by firemanwfd17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would put money on it she is using you as a security blanket. Are you always there for her? Willing to discuss anything usually about her relationship with him, despite the feelings you have for her? Just being a good friend right? Does she lack a support system? If so you are what I would call the knight in shining armor. The true blue forever friend. I admire your dedication and support for her but you have to realize that if this is the case you are going to get hurt badly. Your feelings will most likely grow stronger but the chances of her actually leaving him are pretty slim because her self-esteem is in the toilet.
2006-09-20 19:54:26 · answer #3 · answered by gomendic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, It's obvious that you both like each other, but..... she has chosen him. She is giving you false hope and wants the best of both worlds. I'm not saying you can't still be friends but she sounds very confused and you being around her will confuse her even more. just step back for a while, date other girls, join a club. Stop dropping thing for her and get a life of your own. let her no you still want to be friends but she has to realize she will be a married women soon and needs to concentrate on that. I hope this helps, all the best. TJx
2006-09-20 19:48:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she does like you. But from the sounds of it, not in the same way that you like her. Sounds to me like she likes to have you on the back burner, and as long as you stay there, she is going to keep you there. Lunch, children's dance recitals, those are all innocent friendly things. She doesn't see you as anything more than a friendly ear, and someone to fall back on if her relationship falls through. Get out and find someone who isn't going to use you, but still try to remain friends, just on a different level.
2006-09-20 19:41:46 · answer #5 · answered by biggsbabygirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Duh! Get it, that not only does she like you, she respects you as a friend and support. However, it would behoove you not to interfere with her other relationship. If she is a co-dependent to his abuse, which sounds to be the case, there is absolutely nothing you could do or say to her that will change that. If she can't resolve her issues with that other person on her own, there is nothing for you to do but just be there for her when she is hurting and be happy for her when she is happy. That is what friends do. And if they do break up, and you want to deepen your relationship, remember she will be extremely vulnerable to jumping into another similar relationship until she resolves whatever set her into that codependancy for abuse in the first place.
2006-09-20 19:56:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u think this guy is not right for her, then make a move on her. If she goes for it then maybe she'll break it off with tha guy and you could have saved her alot of pain and stress. Amazing how some small choices can make a big change in the future
2006-09-20 19:41:36 · answer #7 · answered by weezy627 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this girl, she likes you... well the way you say it, it sounds like she likes you.
there are alot of things you have to look at when it comes to this kind of relationship... she is still planing on marring this other guy... you should be carefull you arnt being used. Make sure you arnt always the one working... dont pay for anything when you go out for example... just watch yourself... but from what you said it sounds like she is alittle interested. watch yourself too!
2006-09-20 19:47:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing either:
1) she doesn't know what she wants, or
2) she's trying to keep you on the side either because she likes the attention, or "just in case".
I'd be very cautious... you'll probably end up getting your heart broken.
2006-09-20 19:43:09 · answer #9 · answered by ♫☼♥ ≈ Debbi ≈ ♥☼♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not a person you need to be with. What kind of woman is engaged to a man that hits her and then dates someone else?
Let her go. Find a decent woman.
2006-09-20 19:39:29 · answer #10 · answered by foni.toni 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋