There are times when I get really frustrated, and then I get mad the next day bc I didn't get what I felt I needed (wanted?) and then I'm worse off than I was before! My goal seems to get farther away. I can't seem to express my needs/wants to my partner, and I end up alienating him, and getting even more frustrated. Do I have to end up in tears before I break? This is starting to get me down.
2006-09-20 18:54:39 · 13 answers · asked by Shinigami 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
hangs head, *blushes* sexual.
2006-09-20 19:00:43 · update #1
thanks for the prayers, I've been doing that, too, but I think I need something more concrete.
2006-09-20 19:03:06 · update #2
hangs head again. *sighs* how do I communicate this complicated thing?
2006-09-20 19:03:58 · update #3
ok. its this way. he works hard all the time. day and night. i guess i feel like i'm on the back burner, and when i go to him to ask him to come to bed (he falls asleep every night on "The Chair"), I feel really guilty that I'm disturbing him. he really needs his rest. this has been going on for years. not weeks, not months years.
2006-09-20 19:08:19 · update #4
Maybe you need to take a long weekend with your partner and just get away from it all... talk, enjoy the time together.
Discuss your feelings, I know it is tough to do sometimes. But if you keep everything bottled inside you will lose it.
Take it slow, do one thing at a time. Write down your goals and achieve one at a time. Do not try to do too much.
Nothing is easy, but don't stress over every little thing. Just do your best and keep trying.
Good Luck!
2006-09-20 19:00:30 · answer #1 · answered by mg54love 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The way I read this, you know exactly what the problem is. The thing is, if you really believe you "can't" express your needs and wants, you will never get what you need and want. The trick is to work through however uncomfortable it may be to ask for something specific. Start small, getting what you ask for for a change will be all the encouragement you need.
2006-09-21 02:12:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried sitting him down and talking to him about what you are feeling. It would be best to do this during a time that he is in a good mood and neither of you are upset (and not right before/during an "encounter"). Then to inform him without accusations or judgement, just honesty and openness. Perhaps counseling if the two of you are unable to work it out on your own?
2006-09-21 02:06:33 · answer #3 · answered by Matthew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are expressing both avoidance and narcissistic behaviors. Your personal happiness dominates your life. At the same time, you abhor confrontation, because you are afraid to lose. It is alright to think highly of yourself, but decide what is REALLY important to you. Let your wishes be known, but understand that not everyone is going to love. or even like you. I hope you take my advice. I'm not a psychologist, but I did sleep on a park bench over a sewer grate last night.
2006-09-21 02:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by Proud Liberal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok suggestion: you two need to get away together. It doesn't neccessarily have to be all extravagant. Just somewhere where you two can have some relaxation, alone time, get to know eachother again, communicate better. Take a vacation.
2006-09-21 02:28:14 · answer #5 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps what you need is someone outside your circle to pray for you, comptemplating love and peace around you. A healing can be in progress, just allow us, contact us and let us know if we can help you, but remember that madness or frustration is a sign of disorder, something in you must be disorganized, we can help if you want to.
2006-09-21 02:00:45 · answer #6 · answered by Damasoapontei 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like anxiety/high blood pressure/swings to high metabolism during certain times. Do not react so quickly by increasing your metabolism to develop an answer.
2006-09-21 02:06:22 · answer #7 · answered by Pup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heh..wow...sounds kinda like how i used to be...
you just have to breathe once in a while....just speak up and say what you want, and make yourself say it
as for getting frustrated, remember that life isnt always a nice quiet walk...it's hectic and crazy, and getting upset solves nothing
next time you feel frustrated, try singing, listening to music, taking a time out...
that kinda thing....yeah....
2006-09-21 02:04:55 · answer #8 · answered by kaeh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a lot of things going on in your mind. you need to meditate. just sit down and clear your thoughts by imagining a very bright light in front of you and nothing else.
2006-09-21 02:04:31 · answer #9 · answered by FinancialPanes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if youre talking about sexual frustration, maybe you should experiment with what you "need" when he's not around... there'd be less pressure and you probably wouldn't get so frustrated with yourself.
2006-09-21 02:05:39 · answer #10 · answered by one sexy biatch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋