He is sensitive, and I am learning. He listens, responds, and is understanding to my needs. He says I have to open up. I thought I did when I said, "I do, " however, it seems I have not... to par. How do I "let it go"? How do I completely trust as he does? I always equated "letting go" with weakness. My husband says I am defensive. We were raised different ways. He gives A LOT based on prior relationships. I just want to be able to give him what he gives me every single day, which is trust and open communication. How do I let go of those inhibitions?
2006-09-20 18:52:13 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am quite happy! I don't doubt our relationship at all. I guess I just want to know how to be more expressive as his wife? He thinks I am making improvement, as he says often. I suppose I would like to actually feel that way without contradicting myself!
2006-09-20 19:12:35 · update #1
Sometimes in a relationship, we tend to reciprocate the acts of our partner. You too are in such a situation, don't feel yourself compelled to do as much as your hubby does. Comfort levels differs from person to person. You may feel that you're not doing as much as he is doing, but at the same time you should feel confident that you're doing as much as you can.
Based on your description I believe there is a lot of strength in the relationship, and you'll slowly develop the confidence that matches your husband's.
2006-09-20 18:58:04 · answer #1 · answered by sameer s 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
honesty is the most important thing in a relationship and communication just try to read books on the communication subject or get help by talking your problems out to a professional
2006-09-20 18:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by dee d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust in him and understand that it is "safe" for u to be who u are. It takes time. It can't be forced but u have to start right now. Practice makes perfect and u will become what u habitually do.
2006-09-20 19:56:23 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In trusting him, you let him see your weaknesses. The trust is that he will not use those weaknesses against you. In doing this, he also promises to defend you against others who would take advantage of those same weaknesses.
2006-09-20 18:57:39 · answer #4 · answered by Space Case 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try listening to what he asks ,then give him the most honest answer you can. Communication is like anything else...it takes practice!
2006-09-20 18:56:34 · answer #5 · answered by mopjky 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
has he given you any reasons to not trust him. if not then your trust issues lie with someone else. NOT HIM. doesn't he deserve what he gives you everyday. throw caution to the wind. let him remember why he married you instead of someone else. take charge, what's the worst that could happen?
2006-09-20 18:55:27 · answer #6 · answered by Str8 Answers, Hurt Feelings 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you having a second guess in your marriage?....
please don't... you are keeping things too much to yourself...
i think you don't have to be that strong.... let others take care of you.... loosen up a little, relax... you don't have to change everything in one day... take one step at a time.... ask hows his day.... tell him yours.... everything will workout itself...
2006-09-20 19:03:43 · answer #7 · answered by pheobe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just try to do a little each day and then it will just become natural.
2006-09-20 18:57:02 · answer #8 · answered by Rach W 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If hes as great as you say you better let him have anal or else some other chick will and he' will be with her
2006-09-20 18:59:13 · answer #9 · answered by richard 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just as you try to do what is right. Maybe they will go away with time and patience.
2006-09-20 18:54:51 · answer #10 · answered by Sentient6 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋