i am 43 male my wife is 42 can we still want a baby ? do have a boy 11 years back help?

Question

my boy needs a real brother or a sis we kind of worry about him?

Answer 1

I dont know why you worry about him, but yes you can have a baby...I would see a doc and make sure your wife is healthy, this will be considered high risk because of her age....

Answer 2

People having babies well into their 40's is more and more common. Risks are much higher as a woman gets older than 35 yrs old, but that doesn't mean a healthy and normal pregnancy and birth is not possible. I hate to overuse this advice, but, talk to your doc. And don't worry about your son. He'll be alright. I am an only child myself having the same feelings about having a sibling for my son, who is 2 yrs old. You can't predict how the future will be, and if your kids will even be close later in life. My husband is not an only child and 3 out of 5 of his siblings are deceased, and the other lives 3 miles away and we never see her.

Answer 3

Yes is defiantly can be done. Jo Rowling (JK) I believe she was 40 when she had her last child in 2005 Just be knowledgeable that chances of birth defects (Down Syndrome, etc) increase when parents are older. As well as health risk to the mother.

If you and your spouse want to have another baby go for it but don’t have a baby for your son. As someone said in 7 years he’ll most likely be off to college. You and your spouse will be in your early 50’s raising a 7 year old, who will basically be like an only child, with big brother off at College.

Also think about your son being the only child for 11 years, to have another baby he could become jealous.

Answer 4

Your wife can bear a child, but she would be considered high risk and you take the chance of having a child with disabilities. If you want a brother or sister for your 11-year old son, why not look into adoption. There are lots of kids out there looking for a good home. You could start by volunteering to be a foster parent. That way, if your son doesn't like having to "share" his parents, it isn't a permanent situation. Good luck!

Answer 5

If you are both healthy and she is still having normal periods there is no reason that you cannot try for another baby, but don't have one just because you think your older son needs a sibling. In 7 more years he will be an adult and out of the house and you will end up going through teen years when you and your wife are in your 50's.

Answer 6

I don't know what you're worried about with your son, but another brother or sister probably isn't the answer. Consider all the attention you're going to be giving to the new baby for at least a few years. Plus at your age it's going to be hard to conceive and dangerous. Every year after thirty, the rates for all sorts of problems start skyrocketing.

I think psychotherapy might be better for your son if you really think something is wrong.

Having a baby really isn't the solution to many problems, maybe underpopulation, but I think the human race has that one licked.

Answer 7

I'm sure it's possible, but you should ask the physician if there are any risks for the infant in developing learning disabilities, infant low birth weight, other infant problems in development and whether or not your spouse is able to go through childbirth. I've heard that the risk for having a child with a learning disability or other disibility increases as the age of women giving birth rises.

Answer 8

No body is going to forbid you to want a baby.Your age does not debar you from having a baby unless either of you do not have any problem with your organs which can help to produce a baby.
You yourself have to take steps for this purpose,you know the process very well.You do not need help in this matter all you have to do is to act upon to get your target.Ready one two three go best of luck,because it will be your second child only which is within our national policy.

Answer 9

if your wife is healthy you should have no problems I was almost 41 when I had my daughter who had an 8 year old brother she just loves her brother. I had gestational diabetes but all I had to do was eat healthy, which you should do anyway and there was no problems at all and she was a healthy 8.3 lb baby girl. your doctor is the best person to ask about your wife's health and if she has no problems go for it. Good luck

Answer 10

yes, you can still have a baby - but be careful, check your wife's health completely before doing this - and try the artificial insemination if nothing else works
keep a tab on the BP regularly and do not move her much after pregnancy
yes, if people have children after 50 , why not at 42 ?
go ahead