it has been four years for me, since i was dumped for a younger, prettier, richer and less complicated an alternative. i have got on to living, but the hurt still nags.
2006-09-20 17:59:59 · 17 answers · asked by slmanl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ok, I am assuming that this was your first love? If so one really never forgets, stops dreaming now and then, gets the shakes when you see them, review the reason for the break-up, cherish the great times you shared!
I was 16 when I first loved and lost, I have since graduated high-school, and college, married, had four children, divorced, moved away from my home state,been a single parent for 18 years,saw 3 children though school, wiped the tears of my childrens firsts love's,and second and..... been mother of the bride twice, and grooms mother 1, witnessed the birth of nine grandchildren, traveled to many far-away places, met hundreds of men, dated a few, had long-term relationships with two, wrote numbers of poems, have started a book, advanced in my career, bought and sold 3 homes, taken my passion of 'understanding mental illness' from the hospital setting to the community in three differn't states,lived the life of a Pirate <( in the romantic sense) in my off time, have a Stugues tatoo near me southend, and a rose tatoo that still covers his intials on my ankle! Now you understand the passage of time since then?
When I have visited my home state over the years, and have by chance ran into him..........we greet with a smile and a hug.......aware of what each are thinking without ever having to say it, I know through the passage of time and life we both think of what might have been, or read a old faded love letter, shed a tiny tear but the memory always makes us smile, and happy that we have it!
The last time I saw him was 4 years ago at my mother funeral, he was one of the Pall-Bearers (our families where freinds)
My insides still shook!
No I don't dwell on having lost that love, because we both still have it in our memories! No, I would never reunite with him because reality could never compare to the years of fantacy, "of what might have been" and I would never want to lose that!
2006-09-20 19:13:51 · answer #1 · answered by pirate 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. I am so sorry for you.
I was first dumped January of this year (2006 for those who read this years from now...)
Up until this point (not that I've had many) but I've always been the one to end things.
It all really depends on the individual really. Some of your respondents have said a few days, but it depends also on how invested you are emotionally in the relationship.
However 4 years mourning the loss of the relationship is a tad excessive would you not have agreed?
Please find something to occupy your mind. Give yourself a task, something which will take a long time to accomplish. ie. Martial arts, visual arts, music etc...
To answer your second question- the memory of my relationship is still something which both haunts and warms me.
Sometimes I catch myself lost in reverie. Remembering how it felt to kiss her, look at her, talk to her and walk with her.
But then I remember that she dumped me suddenly, without warning and without a reason.
One day I will get over it all compleately... And to a large degree I have. But as I say, there are days..!
The Iceman.
2006-09-21 01:11:09 · answer #2 · answered by The Iceman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I left a bad relationship. I was so in love with this man. 5 years. I was still in love when I left. I knew his lifes decisions where not good for me or my kids. The depression lasted for about 2 years. Even after I met someone else I thought I could never love this man as much as I loved him. But now I realize that I love this man more. I am in a happy healthy relationship. And to get over something thats hurtful and tramatic you have to make a turning point in your life. Get into something you enjoy. Start dating again even if you feel like you could never love again. The hurt will go away when you have something good to take its place.
2006-09-21 01:06:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry ive alays donew the dumping but i was in love and had to dump te negative crazy girl but since then i havent dated or even tried to be with any i endedour 7 year relationship about three years ago and i still love her but i know i could never be with her again i think about her every day but i know all she will ever do is bring me down so now i lead a life of selapasy until i some one comes along and chages my heart until then ill stay alone hurt can go both ways hun
2006-09-21 01:09:54 · answer #4 · answered by DIrtycircus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 46 yrs old and the memory of getting dumped by a girlfriend still lingers to this day. I was about 17 when my world was torn apart by the girl I thought would be with me for the rest of my life.
2006-09-21 01:03:57 · answer #5 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not long, less then a few days. Well that was me and my girl friend of 8 years breaking up last month. But on the other hand, someone I went out with for two weeks almost nine years ago is still on my mind today.
2006-09-21 01:01:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I still recall this chic Margeret,we were in University then. She just moved on just like that,without telling me she was dumping me. It was in 2003, I still hurt and hate. The most painaful part was the guy she went for, a total loser.
I am prepared to move on though. Now that I am somewhere else.
2006-09-21 01:06:51 · answer #7 · answered by caribana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whenever you have convinced yourself that he lost you instead of he dumped you. she may be younger, prettier, richer in your eyes but what is that. its not heart and soul , its not what makes a relationship work. its only you thats making her superior to you. you know what kind of woman you are now go find you someone who deserves you
2006-09-21 01:15:08 · answer #8 · answered by xx4real4lifexx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it count if it was a long distance relationship and we never met? :( My first time being dumped! It hurts and still fresh in my mind!
2006-09-21 01:39:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor souls, I've never been dumped. Be strong and don't let anyone do that to your heart again. Good luck in the future.
2006-09-21 01:04:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋