My fiancee loves the horse races and online gambling. He is wonderful to me. Can a marriage work if one person gambles or should he find someone who shares his passion
2006-09-20 17:59:03 · 9 answers · asked by lindsay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm really not sure if he is an addict. I know he loves it and I know he spends a lot of money gambling but he seems to pay his bills. We drive my car on dates. His doesn't have air-conditioning. I'm just not sure.
2006-09-20 18:21:02 · update #1
I'm really not sure if he is an addict. I know he loves it and I know he spends a lot of money gambling but he seems to pay his bills. We drive my car on dates. His doesn't have air-conditioning. in his car so we use mine. He gambles every week.
2006-09-20 18:22:19 · update #2
Depends on if he is an addict or just does it now and then for fun
2006-09-20 18:14:07 · answer #1 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason why the marriage can't work. As long as the two of you can communicate, and perhaps set some boundaries (ie give him an agreed upon weekly budget to gamble with, limit the number of days/nights per week that he goes to the track etc) you should be fine. The important thing is if he can control his gambling or not - I'd advise that you dont' get married until you've been engaged for a while and are convinced that he is not addicted. There is nothing wrong with having different interests within a marriage, in fact it can be healthy to do some things apart from one another.
2006-09-21 01:05:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anisha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not much problems in it as long you are 100% sure every bill is paid for and up to date. Everyone needs some sort of relaxation in order to cope with their stress in life. The problem occurs when he starts puttin his gambling in front of his family. It goes a bit deeper than that cause you both have to start thinking about your future together when you get older and start getting sick or the kids need money for their college ed. Just think of all that money that could be saved and put to good use later in life. I can tell you from experience that no one can control their gambling easily and the more you do it the greater the control on you becomes. I am a hard gambler myself and wish I never started. Yes I pay all my bills and my wife and kids have it all but I sometimes reflect and think of how I probably could have had more for the future. We all have to remember that we cannot predict the future and don't know what tomorrow will bring so just try to put up for that rainy day (I struggle everyday trying to control my habits). I think you need to sit and talk with him and start taking a closer look at his income and spending. Then see what is in the savings for the future. If there isn't one, then you need to start looking after it and put down a minimum weekly/monthly deposit. If after you are contented and there is still money left over for you both to enjoy yourselves with, then you use that for whatever extra fun you are in to.
2006-09-21 02:37:06 · answer #3 · answered by osito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gambling in moderation might seem okay. But gambling is as addictive as any substance. So it's up to you now, whether you want to gamble your relationship and life on a gambler.
2006-09-21 01:08:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The difference is wether he pays the bills or not. a major indicator. A really bad gambler will be broke and borrow money all the time.
2006-09-21 01:22:31 · answer #5 · answered by ddg2sailor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it can....if the gambling is done in moderation, and if it is not done when you should be doing something important
2006-09-21 01:01:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How responsible is he with his finances. Is he just having fun or would he sell his momma!
2006-09-21 01:03:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it necessary for you to be married to someone who likes everything you like.
2006-09-21 01:04:00 · answer #8 · answered by Kimberley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you interested in living in the poor house eventually?
2006-09-21 01:01:15 · answer #9 · answered by annastasia1955ca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋