I love my husband and my kids are my life. I just get to think i'm not total true to my self i get to thinking is there life out there? (not drugs or beer) and it don't help that i don't see me with him when we are in your golden years! Any thoughts to this??
2006-09-20 17:54:39 · 16 answers · asked by Cissey V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i remember those day s i have been marrried over 28 yrs and we have3 sons they are grown now but i remember when i was younger thinking thers got to b more than this i love d my husband and my sons are the best but after i washed cloths cleaned house and cooked supper helped w home work and got stuck keeping friends kids while they went out to wk but what i would suggest is remeber to do things you like my husband use to take me out on dates w/o kids and stress romatic dinners shopping what ever i wanted i guess that is why i love him so much mayb you need to talk toyour hubby and see what he sees in the future and wk on getting on the same page but for the record the kids grow up get married and give you the cutes grand babys and you know its all worht it
2006-09-20 18:20:20 · answer #1 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, nobody told you that life was going to be like this, huh? Me either. First, stop complaining. You have a man at home that loves you. You have 3 beautiful children who are happy and healthy. You sound like you need some "me time." You're not being selfish. Take a break, maybe go stay with your parents for the weekend and try to figure out what is missing. I'm certain you'll be missing your husband and children. Put a smile on your face. There are people out there that can't afford a home for their children, women who are trying to raise their kids alone. You are lucky, count your blessings. You loved your husband when you married him. He is the same person. Divorce is not the way out. You made a commitment, stick it out. A marriage takes work, and it doesn't matter if you marry someone else, that will take work too, but you'll have extra baggage (an ex-husband and probably his ex-wife and children). I've been happily married for 24 years. My third and last child went to college this fall and my husband and I found eachother again. It is like a 2nd honeymoon. I wish the same for you. Good luck.
2006-09-20 18:04:36 · answer #2 · answered by Daphne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to reflect back to the reason you got married. Remember that old adage. You don't know what you have till its gone. Look at other people who do not have anyone. I think you have it pretty good. You also have 3 kids, what a blessing. Raising 3 kids is a chore. Focus on your family, your rewards will come later. Find Jesus. I hope this helps.
2006-09-20 18:15:12 · answer #3 · answered by Thomas B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would advise you and your husband to see a counselor through the church or a professional. Sometime we think we have nothing left in common because we stop talking to each other. Let him know hey we don't do this and that anymore, or wouldn't it be fun if we all did this. You can't change your life if you don't change your life. You don't dump a perfectly good family without trying to fix what is wrong.
2006-09-20 18:29:39 · answer #4 · answered by whattheheck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Cissie,
I think what you're going through is pretty standard. I think we get to these points in our lives where things are bland and we feel kind of "cheated" out of the fun all these other people have. Did you marry young? You need some spice in your marriage. Or maybe do something for yourself. Take a class, or take up a hobby. Have a girls' night out to the movies....
2006-09-20 18:14:21 · answer #5 · answered by feathereafter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh if you love your husband that says it all we all have dry spells and i do not think their is a person alive that doesn't wonder what my life would be like without my spouse every now and then but the vows you took are for good and since you love him I'd say work on rekindling the fire so you can see yourself growing old together
2006-09-20 17:57:33 · answer #6 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the 12 year itch.You need to get out more & socialize.Join a club or a gym just to get out.A lot of people fall into a routine after marriage & it seems like the same old rut.My wife left me after our kids left for college.She left for two years & now she is back.I guess we both needed time apart & now we get along great.There is no restrictions on our freedom to do what we like & we are both having the time of our lives.Live life to the fullest,this ain't no dress rehearsal!!!!
2006-09-20 18:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by guvner_46 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow 12 years that's something to be proud of!! sometimes after that long of a marriage, things just get comfortable and the excitement of marriage is kind of over, that is if you let it be.there are ways to spice up your marriage . then you won't want to know if there is life out there because you will be satisfied with what you have. just think about it before making a decission, you could loose everything you have ever cared about.
2006-09-20 18:17:21 · answer #8 · answered by gigi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You see the life you just have in more colors or without any.
Soon or later alcohol and drags gonna damage your brain and you enter another life.
In that life you are gonna be alone but with nightmares.
After that probably you are gonna be disconnected from any reality of life.
Do you want more..
I Hope your kids are intelligent and good hearted and are not going to follow your steps.
2006-09-20 18:03:36 · answer #9 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe Gary Chapman's book entitled "The Five Love Languages" may help your marriage. I read the male version and should have read it 20 years ago. May have helped my marriage. You'll read it together. In short, your "love tank" and probably your husband's needs filling with one or more of these love languages. You see, most couples think there is only one love language. . . sex or physical touch, but there are at least four more. . . .
2006-09-20 18:20:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋