In the past three years, nine of my friends got married. I've known them for years, and hung out with the couples many times when they were dating and engaged. So why is it suddenly "my husband loves that" or "my wife gave this to me"?!?! Like as soon as they said "I do," their mate no longer had a name. I could understand if it was someone I had never met, but come on! It takes less time to say "Mike" than to say "my husband." The honeymoon is over...I'd think the novelty would have worn off by now. Does anyone else hate that?
2006-09-20 17:46:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Probably because *anybody* can call a guy "Mike", but only one person gets to call him "My husband". It's one of those subtle ways of expressing one's love and commitment to a person. The married person probably has no idea how annoying it is to the rest of the world.
2006-09-20 17:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anisha 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Really good ques! I also noticed that but knew why, too.I did the same when I was married, probably because everyone else did. It is the way most people refer to thier spouse in our culture,that's all. No biggie. Anyway, the more widely used term is ex wife and ex husband, ponder that.--- Rat
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2006-09-21 02:41:47 · answer #2 · answered by Raptor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's out of habit. Even with each other we say "Dear" or "Honey" I'm actually shocked when my husband calls me by my name LOL 'Course it could be the spouse becomes associated with the role they play in your life (with the kids we refer to each other as "Dad" and "Mom") and in a way the more you know them the more you take them for granted, they are less of an individual and more of a figure so to speak. Sounds nonsensical I guess but it's true. Glad you asked the question, you made me think. ;)
2006-09-21 00:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how that person feels and who that person is talking to. It's has nothing to do with calling them by their given name. It depends on to whom I am speaking when I say my husband and when I call him by name. Even before we were married I called him my husband. Sometimes I call him Sweetie...sometimes I call him Buddy...and then there are times I call his entire name. It all depends on different things. I don't say my husband to rub it in anyone's face....especially a womans. God gave him to me and only God can take him away. I am not a jealous woman and I could care less about what other women thinks.
2006-09-21 00:52:55 · answer #4 · answered by Apostolic Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, but I'm guilty of doing that myself. Yet I know how annoying it is to me, and to others.
It's not that married people are trying to gloat or rub it in people's faces that we are married. We just love them so much, and we are proud that they are our spouse. Honestly, after marriage, first names can go right out the window. It's honey, dear, darling, or other pet names. In front of the kids, it's mom or dad so the kids don't pick up the first or nicknames and use them when addressing their parents. My husband always thinks I'm mad at him when I use his first name, he got so used to me calling him by other names.
2006-09-21 01:08:52 · answer #5 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean and I HATE that...I've had friends who've done that...it's like up until the marriage, they always referred to them by name and all of a sudden that changes. I can see if you they were talking to someone who doesn't know their spouse, but YOU do...It's so annoying...GREAT QUESTION!!!
2006-09-21 00:48:49 · answer #6 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its a way of rubbing it in your face if your not married i think thats sometimes people that r really religious that i know speak that way but most not in a million years. When a woman says it to another its like there trying to tell you there husbands off limits ridiculous i know but i think its a sign of insecurity on her part.you must be very attractive and single!!
2006-09-21 00:52:35 · answer #7 · answered by tonyabyer13 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When i speak to friends i refer to my husband by his name others i use that term... The question is what does it matter if they call him their ******** or husband or by their name it shouldn't bother anyone else
2006-09-21 00:54:10 · answer #8 · answered by Amy M 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hey com'on u cant make the choice of others dear.they'r free to call their loved ones the way they wish no matter whether it saves time or u no them dear.u r probably becoming selfish, either u r single dats y ur talking like dat. its their love for the person,so wat wen the honeymoon is over,i think u dont believe in love or either u've had a bad experience. When i read dat i told myself wat SELFISH WOMAN.u shudnt react like dat.
2006-09-21 02:29:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
SORRY THAT GET ON YOUR NERVES BUT I THINK WE DO IT B/C WE LOVE THEM AND THEY ARE A PART OF US WHEN WE GOT MARRIED WE BECAME ONE IIN THE EYES OF GOD MAYB IM WRONG BUT IT SOUNDED GOOD TO ME lol
2006-09-21 01:23:05 · answer #10 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋