I sent my husband basically a hate email telling him that he doesn't care about my feelings, and now I want to talk about it and he's giving me the cold shoulder. Is it okay that I keep calling and emailing him? Guys what do you think and what would you do if it was you and your wife, we've been married for about 4 months.
2006-09-20 17:45:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Like = Spit
Love = Swallow
At least that's what I've heard
2006-09-20 17:48:02 · answer #1 · answered by scummibear 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a four-month newlywed, I think you may have hurt your husband's feelings when you sent him "hate" mail telling him he doesn't care about your feelings. While the cold shoulder may not be the reaction you wanted, what did you expect to get from the hate mail? The mistake many couples make when they argue is that they want to "hurt" the other with words in an attempt to "win" the argument, or belittle the other to make themselves feel good. The key, and most important thing to remember, is for both to behave as though you truly love each other. That means no hate mail. No intention hurt feelings. If your mother hurt your feelings would you send her hate mail? Then follow it up with constant calls and emails? I think not. You'd probably approach her as an adult, telling her that something she did hurt your feelings. This holds true for both you and your husband. Build bridges, not walls. Think about it, it makes no sense to send "hate" mail to a person you love. Nor should someone purposely hurt the other's feelings. Stop posturing and talk heart to heart.
2006-09-21 00:59:43 · answer #2 · answered by Misterscot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in almost the same position like u (xcept dat im not married) i was doing the same mistake incessant texting and calling. But all these doesnt work my dear.If u want ur wedding to survive u have to be very INTELLIGENT.My fiance wasnt replying at all and the more i was calling and texting the more he wasnt replying wen finally he told me ITS OVER NOW TO STOP PESTERING HIM.I begged and cried a lot but all these doesnt work.He said i pester him too much and wont be able to live with me.Do u want to reach this stage???????Then i sent him a cool text giving him a target of 2months to think and he agreed. so u see am quiet now and am giving him time to think and make him feel dat i no LONGER PESTER HIM.its damn hard but keep urself busy, HOPE FOR THE BEST but if u continue emailing and calling THEN BE PREPARED FOR THE WORST!! How would he miss u if ur on his back???? Think over it and Help urself Please stop these calls and emails.wat u can do is send him a last email say ur sorry or dont do anything HE'LL COME BACK TO U, running.Best of luck.I hope i've helped u enof.
2006-09-21 02:48:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to swallow your pride towards the one you love. Sometimes we tend to be too much towards our love ones, i think the best way to have this matter resolved is to have an heart to heart talk with him.It will work out, don't worry and don't send him any more of that mails,t will only make him hate you more.
2006-09-21 01:37:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were in his place i would swollow my pride. if he wants to make this marriage last, he should not give u the cold shoulder. marriage is about compromise and listening to you wife/husband. whats the use of being angry for a few days and in turn, possibly losing the one you love?
2006-09-21 00:48:53 · answer #5 · answered by animagus85 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE BIBLE SAY PRIDE IS NOT A GOOD THING IT COMES B/F THE FALL SAY SORRY AND MAKE UP AND REMEMBER TO WATCH WHAT U SAY FOR THE WORD S YOU SAY TODAY MAY B THE ONES U EAT TOMORRW SO MAKE THEM SWEET!!LOL
2006-09-21 01:26:30 · answer #6 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"It is better to lose your pride to the one you love, than lose the one you love because of your pride."
But give him time. Time is a good healer. Give yourself some time too, alone.
Good luck!
2006-09-21 00:50:02 · answer #7 · answered by ~Amor~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you controlling? Appeal to his protective side and your need for his counsel, don't offend him, he sounds like he is worth it, don't take advise from other men- watch yourself- Oh you are so understanding, if only he was you-dumb move. Pray
2006-09-21 00:59:25 · answer #8 · answered by gotmine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you are sending Hate mail to your lover... is he really your lover anymore... but it's always ok to swallow your pride...
2006-09-21 00:47:40 · answer #9 · answered by Tho Deep ught 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was looking for something i did not see in you question . that you were sorry for the e-mail that you sent to him . i think that 2 e-mails at most for a friend . but your married !!!! wtf . hell yes start w/ look here hubby we are going to talk
2006-09-21 00:52:50 · answer #10 · answered by k dog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋