Baby came back from daycare with same diaper on all day! how do I voice it?

Question

My baby is in a home daycare being a single mom that is allI can afford, he is on his 5th day and when I got him home, I realized that he was still in the same diaper from when I droppeed him off. How do I talk about this with the baby sitter? I cant afford to take off more work but want to do what is best

Answer 1

I wouldn't say anything accusingly. I would just say something like, the baby has very sensitive skin and has to be changed often. Maybe tell a story of a "freind" who didn't take proper care of that for you. Then make sure you point how how many diapers you are leaving so she knows you're aware of her actions. Maybe it will make her straighten up. If it happens again, you'll just have to admit that she's not going to be adequite care and find other arrangements. Hope my advice helps some!

Answer 2

I would first, put a very visible mark on the baby's diaper before dropping him off at the day care. Use a sharpie pen or something very obvious to identify the diaper he had on when he was taken in in the morning.

Next, I would have a long sit down talk with the baby sitter and explain what that mark is for. Tell them that the same diaper had better not be on your baby when you pick him up in the afternoon.
Tell them that if it is then you will have to renegotiate the rate you pay them for taking care of your baby because obviously they aren't.

This won't necessarily keep them from changing him until just before you come to pick him up but it will make them aware that you know what is going on and won't tolerate it.

Maybe if you can, during lunch once or twice, have a surprise visit to the day care to see if your baby is changed or not. If they know you could come in at any time to check on him the will be more likely to keep a better watch over him.

This isn't good for the baby to stay in the same diaper all day, especially if he is wet or messy. I don't know of any baby that will normally go all day and stay dry.

Good luck.

Answer 3

You should talk to the baby sitter about it. After all it's your child and try to explain the baby sitter that you want ur baby to be left in the best hands. Be sure that it is the same diaper. The suggestion for the mark on the diaper is a good one. It's your child-don't think how they will take it if you talk to them. Just tell them that this is what you do when you are with your baby when you are together all day and how often you change his diaper...

Answer 4

You need to tell the care provider to change your baby frequently. And if this really happened you need to report it to the ppl that do licensing for your state. If you are low income and especially if you are a single mom you can go thru social services and get help paying for day care and you can also take daycare expenses off of your income taxes. About the baby if the person isnt changing the diapers then maybe there are other things they are neglecting too...you may need to lose work and find someone that will take good care of the child...He or she should be the most important thing.

Answer 5

I had the same problem with one of my sitters she did things I did not approve of. When I dropped my Son off I talked to her, well later that week she quit because she didnt like what I had to say. Even though it was my Son she still insisted that I was wrong and had no idea what I was talking about. I was actually really glad she quit because she didnt stop when I asked her to and I was planning on firing her. Well before I even went to talk to her I found a new baby sitter just incase she refused to watch my son on the spot. I dont have family around so it makes that much harder. If you do have family work it out with someone in your family to help you until you can replace your baby sitter. Also go down to your local WIC (Women, Infants and Children) program and ask where you can get daycare assistance. My brother is on this with his son and he only pays 10$ a week for his daycare. Well Good luck.

Answer 6

firstly, I think U have to make sure that your baby hasnt been changed before talking to the baby sitter about it.

So try makeing a tiny mark on the diaper in the morning.

I really think u can approach this matter in a very nice and polite manner. Just casually mentioned to her that every 3 to 4 hours ur baby should be changed and also hand her more diapers so that she gets the idea as well.

Answer 7

Wow, that's really bad. Just think of all the other stuff that goes on and you don't even find out about. Sorry but true. In my state they have daycare assistance available for lower incomes. You get to pick the daycare and they pay up to half. Go to your local department for human services. I have a two income family and they pay about half. I would ask the lady if she could change your babies diaper more often, say he gets diaper rash often if you don't.
Some thing like that, don't be afraid to ask if your babies health is at risk.

Answer 8

How do you know it's the same diaper that you left him in? I would put a star or something in the inside to be sure, if it is the same or you see other signs I would just pull him out as soon as you can. Obviously the sitter is either neglectful or "busy" with all the other kids to change a diaper that takes 10 seconds???? I would reconsider your options...

Answer 9

REPORT THEM!!!! AND GET YOUR SON OUTTA THERE ASAP. If they neglect to change his diaper, what else are they neglecting to do, what might they be doing that they shouldnt. Find a daycare that actually cares for and about the children entrusted to them.

BTW, contact social services. In my state, if your income is low enough, the state gives you vouchers to pay for day care. There may be a comparable program in your area. Dont feel ashamed. Take advantage of ALL the resources available to you. Do it for that beautiful boy.

If you must keep him there for a time until you can find another daycare, insist on speaking to the director. Tell her what happened--or rather, didnt. It's alright to be angry or even a bit impolite about it. They asked for it! This is your baby boy. If mommy is afraid to stick up for him . . . who else will protect him? Furthermore, and this is beside the point, you are working hard and paying them a great portion of your income for them to take care of him for you--to keep him healthy, safe and happy when you cant be there to watch over him. Go ahead, get ANGRY!!!

Also, start writing on his diaper. When you pick him up, check for what you wrote. If it's there, show it to the director of the school immediately--before leaving with your child. Finally, start popping at different times of the day, if you can (lunch break?), and inspect to see the state the children are in when the daycare is NOT EXPECTING parents to come for their children. Any unacceptable findings, SHOULD BE REPORTED!

Answer 10

First you should always share with you sitter the needs and ther requirements of your child. the same diaper on all day can be nasty and cause diaper rash, further more I am sure your baby was very uncomfortable in the same diaper.

You definitely want to voice your concerns with your sitter. Your child care has to be what you want and what you make it demand quality and efficiency this is your child..