all my friends and cousins at my age have boyfriends, family husbands and kids. and i work for telemarketing i don't have time for dating or having a real relationship. but i don't wanna get married before i own my own business,drive my dream car, live in million dollar house. and i love to have a loving relationship but i'm scared i will lose my focus to getting everything done. and eventhou i work hard for the things that i wanna have it will take at least few years to have all that. that time i wil be over 30. and i have to be single till that time aaaaaah. i need help. i wanna have everything and i wanna get married right now. or maybe i need to control my feelings and forget about guys and work more harder so i can be busy and i will stop having this weak feeling ?
2006-09-20 17:33:41 · 22 answers · asked by busy_b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know an amazing woman that stayed single and never met someone and then boom she got married by age 31! I know the wait is painful but it's worth the wait! =)
2006-09-20 17:35:31 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey you're ok. Listen there is nothing wrong with how your feeling we all question ourselves. Its that inner struggle that leads us to our convictions. And thats a good thing no matter how uncomfortable it is at the time. You HAVE a plan. You KNOW what you want. You know what feels right. Trust your instinct.
Something else to think of, this is the 21st century. Things are way different now. think of all the very cool chicks who are in their 30s and either not married or just getting married and starting a family. Cameron Diaz for example...oh great I am drawing a blank, but if you read any copy of US magazine you'll see. Not that US magazine is or should be good reference for matters of life but Im saying that a lot of celebrities, among others are following the trend of working on themselves and their career before starting a family. It is my personal belief that by doing so you are much more prepared to enjoy a mature healthy relationship. You have something to offer, youve developed substance.
Remember you dont need someone else in order to be a complete or worthwhile person. You ARE a complete and worthwhile person. You will have love you will have a significant relationship and it will be healthy and strong..because you dont NEED it to be whole..as you know that already are.
2006-09-21 00:52:19 · answer #2 · answered by lovesquishy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to meet a guy who is on the same level as you or above. You obviously have goals for yourself, so in order for you to get into a relationship that will eventually end up with marriage, you must meet someone who will not bring you down. If anything he can help you achieve your goals. A real good book you should read if you're really that determined to make your dreams happen. You should read "Smart Women Finish Rich." I read it and it is an awesome book.
2006-09-21 00:39:08 · answer #3 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's best in life not to force things I would work hard at your goals and not lose focus guys will come along naturally don't go on the search just have fun date and see what happens you'll know when you find the right one or a keeper I don't know how you tell but you know. good luck
2006-09-21 00:42:53 · answer #4 · answered by kebbler80011 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No rush. Relax. Seems to me right now you need to focus on you. Dont worry about a man to make you happy. Who cares if you are 30 by the time you own your own house, car, and job. You just be you, if you find the perfect guy for you before you have all that, dont turn him away. Go for it. If he is the one, then he will help you on your long journey, make things easier for you. Trust me, They are going to be hard. good Luck!
2006-09-21 00:38:31 · answer #5 · answered by amberpurkey2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy the time the reality of relationship sacks.
Do what you do and who told you get married after 35 is not bad. Just take something for yourself only right now but not a stinky lazy man.
2006-09-21 00:46:19 · answer #6 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are lonely you don't have to be in a committed relationship. If you are busy with work you can date for companionship. Don't be so hard, take life as it comes. When it is time for you to be married you will know. Life is a ballance of work and home life and it can be tricky. It is something that you have to work at. Best of luck.
2006-09-21 00:38:02 · answer #7 · answered by Mav 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I admire you in a way, but feel your pain in another.
Love is a beautiful thing, but bad relationships can f..k up your life.
I say, let things happen, if your supposed to meet a guy you will, Dont be closed minded to it, cause you could miss out on meeting the love of your life.
And remeber, you could die tomorrow. Live for today, do what makes you happy
2006-09-21 01:13:43 · answer #8 · answered by e a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you need to do is take a little time for yourself everyday. Go out with your friends and family, meet new people and remember that not everybody is a love machine. Experiment with others and go to new places and do new things. Don't be afraid to make yourself known to others.
Good Luck!
2006-09-21 00:36:22 · answer #9 · answered by ineedanswers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If You are in Love with some one,don't get married yet ask Him to wait till You be ready, If Your no in love with any one, just work harder to have You dreams come true, Make sure He Love You before You get married, love is in His way........good luck
2006-09-21 00:44:15 · answer #10 · answered by Charly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋