my gf is angry with me bcoz of my rude words but it doesnt mean that i dun love her.i love her more than myself but she is still angry n its been more than a month.now i think she wudnt return back.tell me how can i show my love to her n what shud i do to make her come back.or shud i let her go ???
2006-09-20 17:26:53 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you should let her go.
2006-09-20 17:28:40 · answer #1 · answered by Symbolic User 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
" A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver " A beautiful verse found in Proverbs (v.11).
Not only is the verse beautifully stated, it is filled with wisdom. Words have the unusual power and especially so when they are well chosen. We may not be blessed with unusual ability in selecting beautiful wording but we can express our ideas tactfully!
You can tell a person almost anything if you say it in the right way. Your g/f may not have taken such offence or feel threatened if you had chosen your words and offered them in a tactful way. Many times when we claim that we are being truthful and straightforward, we are actually being uncouth and rude.
People are not as gullible as we seem to think sometimes, and most people tend to assess us through the words we communicate to each other. Another asset we sometimes lack is credibility and this too is usually determined by our choice of words and how we communicate them to the people we interact with.
You my friend, need to develop some sensitivity and right now some credibility towards your g/f if you ever want to develop a healthy relationship with her. You friend, will make greater progress with your g/f if you are careful of your behavior and comments. These courtesies will enhance your relationship with your g/f and make them smooth and satisfying and easy.
A woman loves to be appreciated and a little compliment goes a long way. Having admitted your error of your ways, call her up and be sincere. Courtesy and diplomacy are what's called here for you to use when trying to reconcile with your g/f.
And remember that if you deliberately offend your g/f, it would seem that you don't care about her feelings and if that's the case why even bother reconciling.
Whatever your choice, be sincere and be willing to bend over backwards for her if she agrees to come back to you. Good luck and God bless.
2006-09-20 18:34:35 · answer #2 · answered by trieghtonhere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure that this will help you, but let me say this to you. If she loves you, she will come round. If she doesn't then nothing you can do will make her come back to you. It maybe that she is dealing with your rude words in her own way and her own time. She may also be trying to let you see how much you hurt her with those rude words. One thing you must remember is that words when used carelessly or in anger can cut deep into the heart to the spirit of the person you are directing them at. That means that a scar will be left. Often that will heal and go away. Once time is usually passable, two times is less passable, and with each time it happens you destroy that person's feelings for you more and more till there are no good feelings left. Only you know if you have done this time and time again to her. She has been angry with you now a month. That is almost a sure sign that she is not interested in being in a relationship with you. I would like to tell you that there is something you can do that will help you avoid this from happening again. Start teaching yourself to remain calm even in the most trying of times. If you can not remain calm then remain silent till you can calm down. The worst time in the world to say something is when you are angry. Anger will make you speak in haste. This will always lead to rude, crude, crass statements. You have already seen the results of this. If you are not happy with something or you do not like the way something is being done, or what ever, wait till you are not angry to speak about it. You should never make decisions or statements when you are angry. Now I would think that you must want this girl back or you would not have posted this question. Since she is not talking to you, you may want to try sending her some flowers with a request to talk. If she reciprocates, you will have to exhibit the utmost charm and gentleness. Appease her with nice statements about her. Then offer a truce. Ask her if there is a chance you two can make it because you are so in love with her. Tell her how wrong you were to act like that and that you are willing to make an adjustment in your behavior to avoid it happening again. Then you must at all costs hold your tongue. It is so important to treat the way you want to be treated. Speak the way you want to be spoken to. Treat your lady like she is the queen of your world. You will love yourself for this believe me about it, and she will love you more while showing you how that love is bubbling up inside her. If she flat out refuses to talk to you when you send her flowers, let her go and move on. Keep all that I have said to you in mind for the next time you are in a relationship. If I knew why you were rude to this girl, I might have better info to give you, but I have not the slightest idea. Lots of luck. I hope she comes back to you.
2006-09-20 18:35:32 · answer #3 · answered by ktmazer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should apologize and tell her how you plan to avoid being rude in the future. It's not enough to find the right person. You have to BE the right person. You must've said some pretty nasty stuff for her to be upset over it over a month later!
In any case, she's not going to start getting over it until an apology is made and a promise is given to not let it happen again. Good luck!
2006-09-20 17:34:59 · answer #4 · answered by happibun8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Become more mature. Realize that the words that come out of your mouth may be hurting other people. You always have to be aware of what you are doing. Have you ever heard the saying, "Think before you speak"? Well in your case, if you truly love this girl, think about what you are gonna say before you say it. Respect her and show it. Don't be stupid and let someone that you love slip away.
2006-09-20 17:30:55 · answer #5 · answered by ineedanswers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you use these words knowing they bother her, yet you say you love her... Do you really ? Then again, if you were like that when you got together , why is she making a big fuss about it now ? Maybe this is something you both need to work on, or maybe its just best to let her go. if its meant to be she will come back.
2006-09-20 18:12:42 · answer #6 · answered by frankfort_girlie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u shud try to talk to her n explain urself, y u behaved so with her. If there is still the current between u two, she will 4give u n things may return to normal. But if she wants to go, then let her go.
2006-09-20 17:44:09 · answer #7 · answered by Lovlyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 06:02:51 · answer #8 · answered by bassage 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you love her then don't be rude to her or her family! Just contact her and tell her what you told us. If you truely love her you wouldn't be thinking about letting her go would you?Good Luck.
2006-09-20 17:33:30 · answer #9 · answered by denise r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wise old woman once told me, give it up, if it comes back, it was ment to be. If it stays gone, it was never supposed to be. Give it time. If you want, call her and ask to hang out as friends, it might just work if you're super nice to her.
2006-09-20 17:30:36 · answer #10 · answered by amberpurkey2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize for being such a jerk, and using rude words. . . .and mean it. Learn how to be NICE to a girl!
You can't MAKE a girl come back. She's not property, nor a pet. Treat her badly, and this is what you can expect.
BTW, use the spellchecker, please!
2006-09-20 17:31:38 · answer #11 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋