My daughters almost 2 months and he's only seen her once. He hasn't done anything for her and he treats me like complete crap, but things are different when we're together. Him & I are still having sex but he barely calls. Tells me he doesn't have a cell phone when he clearly does. I don't have his phone number and he doesn't want me calling his house. His mother found out he had a daughter because I'm the onoe who told her. He only bothered coming by my house because he got a letter telling him he would be served with child support. How do I let go of him when he's so obviously a loser?
2006-09-20 17:22:18 · 13 answers · asked by Ain't my baby gorgeous 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I call him a sperm donor all the time... I closed child support last week. I'm at the point where I want him but I think I want him there more for my daughter then for myself. I know I'm the only one that is going to take care of her and if he doesn't want to do it. I don't want him around but I say it and see him and it all goes to ****
2006-09-20 17:36:36 · update #1
He's also told me that he didn't care if she was healthy or not, it just gets worse from there. He told me when he popped up at my house last week crying that it was all before he saw her and he doesn't feel the same but still has no intentions on doing anything
2006-09-20 17:39:15 · update #2
I know exactly how you feel. My daughter is one...her father only saw her 3 times...and you know what I said...You can't make someone be a father...its if they want to. Don't worry about how your daughter will feel if she never sees him again because guess what...she will know that she loves her mommy...and she wont even ASK about her father...although it hurts that their first words are always Daddy...you will get over it sweetie.
Remember...you will get to experience EVERYTHING with her and he wont. The longer that you sit there and beat yourself up about it (like i did) the more that you will miss out on your motherhood. And dont feel sorry for him either....hes missing out...not you. You can do it...im doing it...at 20....trust me...the hate and anger will go away...put your little angel first.
2006-09-20 17:27:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First things first...how long were you together when you had his child? If you were only together for a couple of months then you are being treated that way b/c you had a child with a man you don't know. He treats you like that because he feels entrapped. Why would you settle for sex only? You're a SUCKER. How do you have a mans baby and then get treated like a creeper? Your the secret I will assume. You ALLOW him to get away with his behavior after he sleeps with you. Cut him off. Hit him up for child support or continue to be the sucker you are. And if he doesnt want to be a part of the babies life thats tuff, but he should sign over all rights then. He will still have to pay child support.
2006-09-21 00:32:59 · answer #2 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be glad that the loser wants no part of you and your child. Obviously he is no good and no role model for your child. It's best to raise your child on your own then to put her into so much drama as she grows up. I raised my son by myself and with the help of my parents. My son's dad has to pay child support and it's already been 17 years. The last time he saw him he was 2 1/2 years old. He now calls at times to talk to him but my son wants nothing from him. He doesn't consider him his dad because he was never there for him. He considers his grandfather his dad (My father) I think it was the best thing that ever happened for me in raising my son without his dad. What I'm saying is your child will help you get through it. She comes first and she will keep you occupied. You will get over her dad. It will be hard for a while but it is the best thing to do. At least you have your precious daughter. His loss. That's how I see it with my sons dad (his loss big time and he knows it now when it's to late) Best of luck!
2006-09-21 00:36:02 · answer #3 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously letting go isn't easy.. But if he is as bad as you say he is.. Then you obviously need to do it for the kid and yourself..
My bestfriend is in the same situation.. Except she drove to SC fromy NY and now is stuck down there with no ride up..
Honestly.. It sounds as if you are just a "booty call" .. If he isnt man enough to atleast put an EFFORT to see the child.. You shouldnt be around him in the first place.. I would just file for Child support.. And hopefully find a REAL man who knows how to take care of the CHILD TOO.. and accually Likes / Loves you both for who you are..
2006-09-21 00:28:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anthony B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey its hard but let go there is some one else out there who would just adore you and that baby, He may be shocked and confused. I would just put all your energy into your kid thats the most important thing. I know I have one and his dad used to run off all the time he never left or pushed me away but he told me he thought about it. He finaly came around. Ill tell you one thing if he dosnt't relize what he has in the next week or so let him go for good your worth it and that man is not. Its hard and you will cry but just look at that baby and remember thats your joy
2006-09-21 02:49:50 · answer #5 · answered by Monica J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Still having sex? Will having another child make him call more and be more attentive to you? Take care of yourself and your baby. The baby is the one who needs you. And, you have so much more to do. Make yourself someone that you want to be, plan for yours and the baby's future and make the best of your life. Good Luck!
2006-09-21 00:37:52 · answer #6 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Love your daughter and you love yourself enough to know that you both dont deserve to have someone in your life to treat you that way. and you shouldnt say how do i let go, you should be saying how do i get rid of him. and dont say but hes my daughters father because hes not hes a sperm donar. you may be ok with being treated like crap , be a mother and dont let anyone treat your daughter that way.
2006-09-21 00:33:08 · answer #7 · answered by xx4real4lifexx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand in front of the mirror daily and out loud state that you deserve better!.....some of your emotions too could be post prego.....an man will come along and TRULY love you ...AND your daughter more than you could ever dream!....and ALSO...being from a deadbeat dad....it is not healthy to subject your child to such inconsistencies!!!
2006-09-21 00:36:08 · answer #8 · answered by lawumun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now is the time to focus on your daughter, not her father. You have been given a special gift. Put all of your time, love, and energy into her and forget about him.
2006-09-21 00:26:41 · answer #9 · answered by Joellen S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the looser with baby who supposed not be with the man and have no father for tomorrow. How you could be so unrealistic. What your parent do for you how his are responsible = why only you are without any help. How to make him do something better and be human being??????????
2006-09-21 00:29:53 · answer #10 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋