-Friends with sexual benefits for almost a decade
-He calls her friend and does not ever introduce her to his friends and fam. as his girlfriend
-He is still married to a wife he abandon with his child
-The new girlfriend has always paid for vacations, (really most activities they do together) -She claims to be happy with the situation altough she is financially in bad shape
-She rather neglect her 13 ys old daughter than her now- stay at home "lover" who has never treat her kindly
-She has supported him financially for 2 yrs - and prevents him from looking for a job -she rather provide financially for him that see him get out of her apt.
She coulsels her girlfriend to leave their no good husbands, but would never leave the love of her life as she calls this man (if he deserves to be called a man)
2006-09-20 16:55:15 · 10 answers · asked by Amy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would call this woman a person who has no self-esteem about herself, who allows this "man" to run over her and abuse her financially. Why she would allow this to happen to her, then counsel her friends to do the opposite, is hypocritical at best. She's not what I could call mother of the year if she's ignoring her own child in favor of this "man", who is still "married to another woman"?????
If she is reading this, she needs to see herself for the idiot she's being, and get out of this "relationship". She needs to change the locks on her doors/windows, she needs to put this "man" out, she needs to not be in any relationships until she fixes the one she's in with her daughter. She has a LOT of apologizing to do, first to herself, then to her child.
2006-09-20 17:27:20 · answer #1 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this woman in not taking care of her own business very well, but that does not mean she does not have a friend’s best interest at heart when she gives them her opinion. It is always easier to “preach” than it is to practice.
With that said, I don’t think I would be willing to take advice from someone who fails to put her own daughter before any man, much less a man that choose to live a lazy life, with nothing to offer his significant other or her child. I could go on about the faults you mentioned with this man, but that would just be ranting.
2006-09-21 00:03:52 · answer #2 · answered by 75160 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha I know of a couple almost exactly like this and it just frusterates the hell out of me. She is also a comulsive liar. I just avoid them. I used to try to talk some sense into her and tell her she deserves better yada yada yada because I believe she has low self esteem and all too... but.... o well. I think the guy is a good for nothing too and doesn't show much integrity and moral value to stay in the situation and treat the girl the way he does.
2006-09-21 00:01:14 · answer #3 · answered by josh/julie m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure there is a medical facility nearby that would support this case. Or there may be a university that is willing to pay $1.50/hour to study these individuals. If I were you, I wouldn't waste my time on people who are so dysfunctional that they make Whitney Houston appear like Mother Theresa. Even Whitney had the good sense to drop Bobby Brown! Do yourself a favor, go to Blockbuster and rent the director's cut of Gigli - you deserve better than wasting your time on those people!
2006-09-21 00:02:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the man is a no-good-lazy-bum-picker-sorry- as- excuse for a man!! and sad to say the girl is blind for staying with him. the only reason she would stay with him is because they have good sex together! and she pays for him and treats him like a king because she is afraid he might leave her and no other man would ever want to be with her. and hey if she can prevent him from getting a job, he will have no money to run away from her..she should get out now before its too late and show her teenage kid some love before she grows up with a bad memory of neglection.
2006-09-21 00:06:18 · answer #5 · answered by sUnSh!ne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm, are we talking about you or your friend? This is one messed up situation! I guess my advice is to get out while you can? Seriously though, this does not sound like that he cares for her as a lover or even "friend." My good friend would have taken better care of me than this. It sounds like your friend needs professional help.
Remind your friend that she has a daughter, who should come first in your friend's life. Emotionally and physically neglecting her child is a form of child abuse!
2006-09-21 00:11:08 · answer #6 · answered by erinlovestv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me shes afraid to be alone, as are most women or men who put up with a user. she has to keep financing the relationship, she has to keep being his lover, his maid and shes calls him the love of her life to convince herself that he loves her and is proud to be with her . but she knows he doesnt, she neglects her child because she believes that one day he will realize that she gives him everything and he loves for it. but for her and alot of people its better than being alone. shes lost i feel sorry for her. just because you dont say you see something doesnt mean you dont feel it inside everyday.
2006-09-21 00:09:49 · answer #7 · answered by xx4real4lifexx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The girl has very low self esteem. She should find someone who loves her and will provide for her needs.
2006-09-20 23:56:59 · answer #8 · answered by happydawg 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She must have major insecurity problems, and have no self worth to let a man do that to her for so long.
2006-09-21 01:15:55 · answer #9 · answered by e a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally agree with sunshine on this one................ the guy is a waste of space , skin and air...........and should be the poster boy for birth control
2006-09-21 00:12:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋