i think my husband is cheating?

Question

How do I confront someone on the phone that I think might be cheating with my husband. I am not sure, but pretty sure that he is cheating and I think it has been going on a long time, I am guessing that she KNOWS that he is MARRIED, I am not sure he is cheating, but he did about 10 years ago and something is making me suspicious again, there are 2 phone numbers that he calls on his way to and from work and he keeps his cell phone in his vehicle. I have been able to check the phone on occasion, but I want to make sure, we have 2 children and I know I don't want to make false accusations, but I want to know, do you have any advice. thank you

Answer 1

Once a cheater, always a cheater. Exceptions to that are very, very rare. People lie about cheating in court so confronting without hardcore evidence is going to get you no where. And what if ur wrong? That would really mess up an already damaged relationship. I can say that with certainty because you are already suspecting of him cheating...so whether he is or isn't is a clear indication that there are other things wrong with this relationship.

I strongly suggest hiring a professional Private Investigator who specializes in catching cheating spouses / bfs. Confrontation without evidence seldom works. Also you've got to start thinking about what you're going to do if you do find out he is cheating. Hire the P.I. and once you get confirmation go see a Divorce Attorney to find out what ur rights are. Every state, country, province has their own laws so make sure you are prepared.

Sorry you have to go through this. This won't be easy to do, but you should get a P.I.

Rod

Answer 2

You are worried, because he cheated in the past. I would not confront anybody on the phone about this, because it could backfire on you. If your husbands finds out, that you are looking up his phone calls he sure would be upset, because that means you don't trust him. It could be a friend that he is calling. Just surprise your husband one evening and plan something really special and romantic and tell him, that you are the luckiest woman in the world and that you couldn't imagine a life without him and that he means the world to you.See how he is reacting and if he is attentive and participating, I doubt that he is cheating. The next day, tell your husband " Oh, by the way I wanted to tell you that I am getting hang up phone calls lately and that happens frequently, isn't that weird?, just thought I let your know. Either he will stop cheating or confessing. You are in the driver seat! If he doesn't love you, he would have left you for the other women. Good luck!

Answer 3

This is a tough situation. But you wouldnt want to assume that fast also. It must be hard for you since it had happened before. Maybe you're more suspicious now because of what had happened ten years ago, sometimes when you think you've forgotten and forgiven everything old occurences will hunt you back. Best way to do is to act in a civil way and you know what? Hire a private detective its better that way. Dont confront your husband because you know why? He'll just give you an indefinite answer for sure. Good luck!

Answer 4

You need to find out who the phone numbers belong to. Ask a friend to call them and have her ask for your husband. See what kind of answer she gets. She should tell them she is something like Beth, with Open air enterprizes about a mistake he made on an invoice or some other crazy story and see what kind of response she gets. Find out if there is a time you can call back.
If he is not cheating, it sure will make you feel stupid. If he is then you will probably get the name of who is on the other end of the line. plus, you may get some other interesting info.

Answer 5

Follow your gut instincts. I've found that when I become suspicious, the person is cheating. Sorry. You could call the number or try to get into his car and find out who he's been calling, or try to find out through the cell phone bill.
If he's done this before on you and you stayed then, do you want to work it out again? Don't do it for the kids - decide what YOU want this time!

Answer 6

So why would it not be primary to prove infidelity just to get divorced? If he presents monetary security now, then a choose would anticipate him to provide that after divorce. My feeling is he doesn't have a job and neither do you. He leaves for weeks and would not even call home to check on the youngsters? Exceptional Dad you chose in your youngsters. Call it quits and focus on your self and your youngsters. File for divorce so which you could get an order for youngster aid for the kids and which you could begin getting your lifestyles again on monitor. Who cares if he's a cheater. He is definitely no longer a good husband or a just right father. Don't waste any longer time.

Answer 7

i wouldn't assume anything yet, but i would call the # and get the name and see what they can or will tell u,

all u ppl that say once a cheater always a cheater
thats a lie, how many ppl can say honestly they have never cheated on a bf or gf, whether its just kissing or acting affectionate or going further,

my husband cheated several years ago and because he found out he truly loved me he hasn't cheated since.

so i would just some how some way find out what u can until u have actual proof, spy on him maybe if u can or hire some1 to do it for u, maybe a PI or an individual that he doesn't know

Answer 8

call the number from a pay phone ask for him ask if shes the little lady. Identify yourself from some local business he may have dealings with. run a reverse check on the phone # you can do it from your computer its called reverse look up if its a cell # it'll tell u the carrier, call the carrier with some story # keeps showing up on your bill or some other thing see if they'll give you a name. good luck. don't attack the woman she has no responsibility of loyalty to u. kick his cheating *** though. I don't wanna sound cruel but a good dose of food poisoning might make you feel better if you can't afford to kick him out or if you just want him to hurt a bit. If you decide to call him on it you have to put your hands on him, I mean you have to show up where he is with the woman and get in his face. My uncles and them always said if their wife didn't touch them like the song says IT WASN'T ME. Be Careful

Answer 9

Mmmm well I would ask you.. Even if you knew in your heart are you still going to stay? Its not about the other woman,, its about your husband, your household, your family,.. Its about the life you started, Its about the foundation of your love.

What do you want out of this marriage? Where is your self worth? You are somebody.. You are a wife, a mother, a friend, that should be respected, valued, and loved unconditional!

Your rules in your HOUSE is messed up,, it should be a HOME with no secrets, no lies, without trust what are you building on. When you sit down and look inside you, the answer to your prayers will come. Keep prayer in your home for direction.. It starts at home

Answer 10

a woman's intuition is 99.9 correct. what does the two children have to do with it? if he is a true father he'll be there the first weekend to pick up those babies because he'll miss them. do not be in denial. you heard the messages. you know if she's just a friend or he is indeed having sex with this woman. if you decide that you want to leave just be positive that you are correct. also, do not confront the woman. she is not married to you. she has no loyalty or obligation to you. that the job of your cheater man. for you and the other readers out there please do not think i am a woman to say throw it all away or i am man bashing, but i am living it too. i am not in denial, but i am not ready to leave yet! go figure! he does not know that i know.