I have had an on and off again relationship with a man for 10 years, we never seem to be available to each other at the same time.I am not in a relationship at this time and he is. We are still in contact,and I have asked him if he wants to be togetherand he wont answer me .Is he afraid to hurt me or does he just want to keep things the way they are between us?How long should I wait for him?
2006-09-20 16:46:34 · 15 answers · asked by JSTABRAT2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is not fair loving someone we can't have. (Atlest we do get them every now in then!!)There is a part of me that wants soo-- bad to tell you to just try to move on. But, it is not that easy, i should know .Because i can't ether.No, MATTER NOW HARD YOU TRY YOU "WILL" ALWAYS LOVE HIM.And i have no ideal who you are or who he is but i will bet he just started out being your friend? Then alittle more then befor you knew it you had\have fall for him!! You are not alone this can happen it is not what most women will say or tell on them selfes. but you and i know true love .It just came into our lifes at maybe not the right time. Hang in there chick we will make it keep in touch i am only on leavel #1 so i can't get e-mails yet but i really would like to keep in touch!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-20 17:22:13 · answer #1 · answered by Cissey V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long should you wait for him? Did you really ask that? You've BEEN waiting for ten years. Honestly I think this man is married. I really do. And if he is not married, his actions have made it clear he does not want any more of you than what he is getting--which is probably your booty. I mean let's look deeply at this for a second: You said he has not answered you. Either he is avoiding the question because you wont like his answer, or he goes deaf at certain times that y'all are together. Hey, he could also become mute on and off, and maybe he gets lockjaw too. Goodness, when you ask someone if they want to be with you, there are a few possible answers but you do not have to be a genius to figure out their meanings: There is "Yes." There is "No." There is "Uuuuuhhh." And there is Complete Silence. Please find another man and move on with your life before another ten years pass you by. Then you will look back on twenty years of being a complete fool.
2006-09-20 16:58:52 · answer #2 · answered by Christa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have some serious bad timing!
If you have been off and on for 10 years and he is currently in a relationship with someone else, then call this another "off".
He is not available, plain and simple. He is in a relationship. You shouldn't wait for him at all - this may be "the one" for him and you may be missing your parade by waiting around.
2006-09-20 16:50:37 · answer #3 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are allowing yourself to be a comfortable pair of old shoes whenever this guy can't find the ones he really wants to wear. After a while, he will throw you in the trash can permanently. It's time for you to walk away before you get thrown away. You are being emotionally abused and you don't even know it. Forget this person and move on with your life, you deserve better than this kind of treatment.
2006-09-20 16:54:22 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from a guy stand i would say its 1 of 2 things either he cares about u and dosent want to hurt your feelings or 2 he keeps u there on the side for a fall back in case something happends with his current relationship. make a stand tell him what the deal is or your going to move on let him know
2006-09-20 16:51:20 · answer #5 · answered by docask 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just said he's in a relationship. If he wanted you he would probably have contacted you. Don't wait. Move on. Be happy.
2006-09-20 16:51:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait for him. There's a reason he's with the other girl and not you. If he really loved you, he'd dump the other girl as soon as he found out you were single. Besides, you asked him if he wanted to be together and he didn't say yes (silence is essentially a "no" in this situation).
2006-09-20 16:50:21 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
aw come on. he already has a relationship with someone else. give him up. is that all the plans you have for yourself, to be a number 2?! i'm sure you deserve more than that. why waste your time and love for someone who can never be, and probably doesn't want to be yours forever?
DON'T wait for him.
2006-09-20 17:06:49 · answer #8 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really care... you should want him to be happy and not meddle in his relationships. If he wants the same things he will end it and not resent you for breaking things up with the current girl.
2006-09-20 16:48:11 · answer #9 · answered by sarah_lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt want to hurt you. he loves his wife, dont be asking him to be with you when he already has someone else. how do you think his wife would feel? if he wanted to be with you then he would have picked you over his wife. i think you should move on
2006-09-20 16:55:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋