i have a boyfriend, but i look around at all the other couples, and they all have friends they hang out with and talk to, but me i have no friends. Come to think about it i dont think i ever have. Sure i had friends in elementary, but i dont even remember their names.
i feel like a loser
2006-09-20 16:42:59 · 19 answers · asked by amanda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
dont worry...the friends will come. dont look so hard. its ok. besides, it doesnt matter about the number of friends you have, its the quality. besides, its not worth wasting your time with people for the sake of having friends. you will have friends.
if you hang out with your boyfriend too much, that may also be a reason why you dont have friends. just get out there and be social. talk to people and dont be afraid. just be yourself.
2006-09-20 16:45:56 · answer #1 · answered by Kumari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with being a loner. I was one, and still am, although I do have a best friend. Look at the upside: being a loner affords you the opportunity to explore your individuality. Not being one of the crowd is a plus! Don't worry, there's someone out there for you. He or she will become available to you when the time is right. In the meantime, take advantage of your gift. Pose challenges to yourself, and research them. You have so much to gain! No, you're not a loser. Be yourself and enjoy it!
2006-09-20 23:52:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact you have a boyfriend indicates you are not a loner. Friends are good things to have, but many people do not find fulfillment in their friends...especially when their significant other does not leave them with an empty space in their life. When I was single I had tons of friends. After marriage, and getting a good deal older, family has taken over where friends once existed. I feel you and I are perfectly normal here. :)
2006-09-20 23:47:03 · answer #3 · answered by Robert M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a loser...it's just that until now you have not felt the need for friends and with this new awareness you will be more open to making friends. Don't be so hard on yourself, just keep an open mind and it will happen. Pretty soon you will have all the friends you want. God bless
2006-09-20 23:52:54 · answer #4 · answered by KieKie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't feel like a looser!!!!!!! :) Not every 1 has really close friends. Maybe your not being very out there when you meet some1 stay in touch and hang out make sure not to seem clingy. Amanda when your boyfriend hangs out with a couple friends go along and meet his friends and meet their friends. Your bound to meet new ppl it's just the keeping them thats tough? Don't feel sooooooo down cuz that can effect your personality. :) Hope I helped somewhat ⥠Ush
2006-09-20 23:51:46 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Ush ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can remedy this. You need to talk to someone ( a counselor) who can help you look objectively at yourself to find what it is that keeps people away from you, or causes you to avoid making friends, or both.
I know you are lonely, and you may be in the wrong relationship because of your fear of being alone. But you don't have to live like that. You can change; get help. it can make a world of difference in your life.
2006-09-20 23:48:48 · answer #6 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have loner moments from time to time but dont let this situation discourage you for finding who you truly are and what you can really offer. Instead of isolating yourself more try to be more open and socialize a little without changing who you are. It takes time to open up but once you've done that initial step you'll gain that confidence to face the real world. Trust me, I used to label myself a loner but you know what? I didnt let that take over me because I know I have something to offer. Like I've said it takes time but dont be discouraged. Start slowly and dont compare yourself to others because we all have our own unique qualities. Heads up girlie and you'll be fine.
2006-09-20 23:48:40 · answer #7 · answered by june_ellis86 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're only loner if you choose to be if you wanna sit around feeling sorry for yourselfinstead of trying to talk to new people then yeah you're meant to be one if that's what you choose. Andif you have a boyfriend sweetie you're not a loner
2006-09-20 23:46:16 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... i thought i have a lot of friends too. but you know what, the world doesn't care. looking around doesn't add friends to your life. maybe start making friends with people with your same interest can bring change?.... you don't have to hang out with your boyfriend's friends if you don't speak the same language... Check out Oprah!...single in her 50's, but enjoying life to the fullest!!
2006-09-20 23:51:56 · answer #9 · answered by pheobe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a a loser. Maybe, you are just selective about who you choose to be friends with. If you want friends, then be a friend!
2006-09-20 23:46:53 · answer #10 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋