waning to send a letter to ex husband he is married have not seeneach other for 13 yrs.?

Question

I would like some questions anserwed for the simple reason I deserve the truth. And maybe I will not get the I want but I do not care. And for the fact he is married this person did not give a darn when I was married to him. He in fact is not happy with her for his own brother and sister-in-law told me this. I waited 13 yrs because I myself was married also. So I did move on and for some reason god keeps pushing me to him. I have been single for 3 yrs so please do not tell me to move on. I feel something so very strong for this man. I can not explain how thid feels. And I actually will write this letter in Spanish and sent by register mail only. He at least will know I still care and do not hate him. I was not obsessed with him either I let him move on becase I thought he would come back eventually, he would come back. I was also told by his current wife that the only reason he left me was because I would not have his baby. So do you see why I need the closure now.

Answer 1

ok heres the deal for i know i went through the same thing except it was my x doing it to me. no 1 before u send this letter think long and hard if u want to after that go ahead and send it. no 2 if he decides he wants to go back u need to take it slow first go on a couple of dates together, see how it feels (usally it feels to weird) you have to remember he still married to that other woman so its going to hurt to know hes going out with u and going home to her. 3 if u want closure i would say move on get him out of your head. yes i know u was married to someone before but is it possible ur not married because ur still not completely over your first husband. all we can do on here is give u some advise but in the end u have to do whats right for u i hope it works out for u. oh yea for my story i didnt let it go that far because my new wife is very good to me my first wife cheated on me while i was in iraq and got pregnant by the guy so no reconcile there but hopefully things work out the way u need them to

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I for one will not tell you to move on. You are obviously on speaking terms with his family. I would not send a letter. Never put anything in writing, whether it is in Spanish, English, or Polish. Call him, get together, discuss the issues, period. If he feels the same he will tell you, if not, at that time you have closure and can move on. A letter is something that may dangle for years, you need to either end it now or pursue something with this man. I don't care if it has been 2 months or 20 years, closure is a necessity.

Answer 4

You can do what you want, but you need to know what it is you want.
The man you knew is gone. Did you know that the human body is made up of cells? Did you know that these cells are replaced over a seven year period? The man you knew is gone and he has been gone twice over!

Let the memory bring you whatever joy it can and forget about trying to be with him again. If he still loved you he has had plenty of time to do something about it.

There is a psychological problem here. I don't know what it is, but you need to stop listening to anything about that guy from 'his current wife' or 'his own brother and sister in law.'

Gossip will only kindle a fire better left dead. You are only going to get burned if you go on with this bad idea. Let bygones be bygones!

;-D You found two husbands for yourself already. You can find a new one, and a better one all by yourself. Go get him girl!

Answer 5

No, you had your closure you got remarried didn't you? If the only reason he left in the first place is because of you not wanting children than he only saw you as a baby factory to begin with. Many people have loveing relationships without being able to ever have babies. If you know about his situation than I am sure he knows yours as well so why didn't he contact you. Its time to wake up and move on. I am sure that God is not the one pushing you twards him, but does have someone else in mind for you.If God is telling you to contact him, it is probrably to let your ex know that you forgive his actions twards you , but don't be sneeky
send it in both of their names.

Answer 6

Vickie, try this...........Write your letter to your ex and say everything you want to say or express. No limit. Ask any and all questions of him. Put all emotions in writing. Then destroy it. Don't send it to him.......that would just be opening a Pandora's Box. Very ugly and you really have no way of knowing how it would affect your life in doing so, not to mention his. The "statute of Limitations" has long run out. It is closure that you seek..... Sit down, put on music, light a candle, grab a kleenex box and write your heart out. Trust me, this works.

Answer 7

No, you need to move on and not stir up trouble. You are just going to cause problems by trying to do this. You have enough to deal with without going back and reliving something from 13 years ago. Forget it and get on with your life.

Answer 8

An ex is an ex for a reason, you probably know that or you wouldn't have posted here. He is married and you know you shouldn't interfere in that, you wouldn't want someone to do that to you. And why would you want to be with someone who would desert their wife? You can do better.

Answer 9

IF YOU REALLY NEED CLOSURE,THE DO THIS,BUT I PROMISED, I DONT BELIEVE IT WILL DO ANY GOOD.
HE IS MARRIED. REGARLESS OF WHAT OTHER PEOPLE
ARE SAYIING ABOUT HIS MARRIAGE.. YOU MAY STILL
HAVE FEELING FOR HIM BUT BE HONEST WITH YOUR
SELF IF HE FEEL THE SAME WAY ABOUT YOU, HE
WOULD HAVE GOTTEN IN TOUCH WIITH YOU. YOU
NEED TO MOVE ON AND CLOSE THIS CHAPTER . AND
START LIVING YOUR LIFE. YOU WILL NEVER FIND
WHAT OUT THERE UNTIL YOU REALLY START TO FEEL
THAT YOU CAN LOVE AGAIN. BECAUSE YOU CAN. YOU
JUST NEED TO START LIVIING AGAIN. HE HAS.

Answer 10

Two words in there should tell you to let it go......EX and the fact that hes MARRIED. Let it go and find someone else.