I want to know how anyone else would handle this situation. I have two men in my life. One who I have a long history with and a child. One whom I love with all my heart but we seem to have a lot of past issues to work through. And want so bad to get past our old conflicts. The second man is a good man with a lot of potential. He is nice and a little shy, but sometimes acts like a child. I feel close to him in a friendly way. I do not get the sparks I get with the first one. But with the second man we do not have to many conflicts. I also have a child with second one. I love both just in two very different ways. #1 guy, Is the type of love you feel electricity run through your veins. #2 guy is comfortable . So who do I choose. I have child whith each, and when I have sex with #1 its electric. But dont really have romantic attraction to #2. But he is still good man. I could be content and staedy with #2 or I could have the crazy passionate life with #2 help please?
2006-09-20 16:29:47 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oopps I thought you were a man....SORRY About that.
2006-09-20 16:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frm wot all u said i get the feeling that u like the first one...its just that u dont see a long future with him. and u like the 2nd guy but not as much as the 1st guy....however with the second guy u will have a long future.... wanna choose between "love or security".... Wotever u choose, u will regret in some way...but if u choose the 1st guy atleast u'll be happy initially
2006-09-20 16:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by dd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought we all live for the passion in our lives. I know I do its fun to have fun. Life can be crazy just try to talk more with guy number one tell him what you want and need. It's all about 50/50.
2006-09-20 16:35:33 · answer #3 · answered by jp78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with the child's father, and make the best of your bad mistakes. Forget the other guy, avoid any temptation to be near, or to see him. Do not write, phone or txt him. In other words cut it out!
Get stable; your kid needs a stable home, not a dysfunctional one.
2006-09-20 16:44:54 · answer #4 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NOT IN A RUT. YOU JUST PLAYING GAMES, AND THAT
NOT RIGHT. YOU HAVE CHILDREN AND THIS BACK AND
FORTH NONSENSE IS NOT GOOD FOR YOU OR YOUR
CHILDREND. YOU NEED TO TAKE A HARD LOOK AT WHAT'YOU REALLY WANT BECAUSE THE CHOICE THAT
YOU MAKE WILL AFFECT EVERYONE NOT JUST YOU.
THE QUESTION IS WHO YOU WANT TO SPENT THE REST
OF YOUR LIFE WITH. NOT WHO GIVE YOU PASSION
ELECTRICY. THOSE THINGS FADE AWAY AS QUICK AS
THEY CAME. GOOD LUCK.
2006-09-20 16:45:24 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have already answered this for yourself-you seem to desire the sparks. Choose carefully. Or....how about being by yourself for awhile and seeing how you feel on your own? Take time to determine what you really want and don't lead either of them on.
2006-09-20 16:33:17 · answer #6 · answered by curiositycat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL THERE IS NO WAY TO TELL WHAT YOUR LIFE WOULD BE LIKE WITH EITHER. PASSION DIES OUT AND STABILITY AND COMPATABILITY ARE WHAT MATTERS. AND START USING BIRTHCONTROL BEFORE A THIRD GUY GETS INVOLVED, AND ANOTHER CHILD GROWS UP CONFUSED.
2006-09-20 18:17:25 · answer #7 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to Dallas ASAP.
I will make more than electricity flow thru your veins.
You can leave anytime and I promise to respect you in the morning.
2006-09-20 17:57:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,1st,do what your heart tells you.
2nd,Try to make your thinking limitation more unlimited,think about the future you'll have with each of the men.
Anyway I don't know what to say about the kids...
2006-09-20 16:44:22 · answer #9 · answered by Andromeda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can not decide for you, if I were you, choose the man that has a lifetime committment for you and who is a responsible guy.
2006-09-20 16:46:28 · answer #10 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt look for ponential thats hope that wont ever be there and old conflicts they will always be there kind of like water under the bridge
2006-09-20 16:38:19 · answer #11 · answered by cadillac4w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋