Don't you hate it?

Question

Don't you hate it when you feel SO fat and you see all these other girls and you think your boyfriend would rather be with them or he should? i HATE that feeling! I weigh 165 so it's not like i'm HUUUUUGE but still. I feel big enough and it sucks and all those girls don't know what it feels like :(
How can i get over this feeling? without telling me to stop thinking like that and everyone is beautiful and i am me so i should be happy.

Answer 1

Sometimes people forget that small, skinny people feel exactly the way you do. I have always been skinny. I look like a pencil. No curves, no legs, no boobs! I am 5'2" and weigh 92 lbs. I have 2 children and never diet or exercise. I think you should look for the good qualities and know that whatever it is... it is better than others. I have a good stomach. No stretch marks and you can see my abs.... now if you go a little higher, it is a different story... you can count my ribs. I HATE feeling like a bean pole but you never hear about skinny people. At least you have people that you can relate to.

Answer 2

He's with YOU, isn't he? So stand up straight and be proud. No one can help how they look - unless they sit and eat BBQ all night - followed by a gallon of ice cream. Then it's emotional.
I'm 5'4" and weigh 105#. Would you please give me 15 pounds? I don't like being this thin - at ALL! But that's the way I am and no matter how much I eat - it's the way I stay.
And believe me - if one more person tells me how "lucky" I am that I'm so thin - I can't put it on the WEB. Believe me also that I know how you feel.
Maybe you could try counseling - overeaters anonymous - but do you? Doesn't sound like it - you're just larger than I am.
If you're not happy - try to get some counseling. Now I'll do what you hate - be happy with what you have. You're not as big as a house - you have a boyfriend who loves you - you're obviously intelligent and there are a lot of people who are worse off. Just 'cause some chickie is cute and built like a brick s***house, maybe she has cancer or something. You never know. Hang in there - you'll be fine.

Answer 3

You must have some trust issues with your boyfriend.. And you are Not FAT.. you need to stop thinking about other girls and how skinny they are. obviously your boyfriend cares about you, right? He is with You, not them other girls.. Just cause you might weigh more then them does not mean you're Fat and sure doesn't mean your Ugly. You should not look at your-self and see what your seeing. First of all, it's not healthy. second of all, you need to gain some confidence and realize the beauty you have. I used to not have a lot of confidence and I was not happy. I had a boyfriend and I always looked at them other girls and thought the same thing, but it's all in your head. you need to look in the mirror and see the beauty, not all the imperfections.
*Good Luck*

Answer 4

Depending on your height 165 can be skinny or chunky or just right. I see soooo many fatso's that are over 200 walking around letting it all hang out! I'd say drink more water not pop, stay away from the fries and cheeseburgers and dress for success. Feeling good about yourself and taking care of your complexion will make you glow. And who knows you may lose 5 pounds for the extra effort! Those tooth picks look like they are 5 years old not a woman.

Answer 5

I come from a family full of big women. My poor mother(god rest her soul)battled her weight problem much of her adult life after having 4kids. She gradually shut herself of from society rather than endure the stares and cruel comments. I watched her slowly but surely give up because she couldn't go back to being thin again. She was a swimsuit model when she was younger so it was very hard for her to accept. My dad loved her thin and big and misses her very much. I have made sure that I have remained small. Please don't make yourself miserable. Your boyfriend is obviously happy with you just the way you are now. If he wanted a smaller girl he'd be with one. A beautiful personality will win out over looks any day. A happy ,spirited,upbeat person is a fun person to be around. One can be "beautiful",have a nasty personality ,mean disposition or a poor attitude and it makes them ugly. Its hard for someone else to love you if you don't love yourself sweetie. Your young, healthy and in love. Be happy! Peace2U

Answer 6

You know, no matter what you look like a guy will always look at other women. Doesn't matter is she is skinny or not. You are insecure with yourself and you need to try and figure out why he doesn't make you feel secure. While there is no question that you need to work on yourself, you need to ask yourself why you even question if he wants to be with someone else. It's telling me that he isn't being and giving you every reason NOT to feel that way. Evaluate your relationship real quick. He's with you because he wants to be, but why is he not making you feel secure. You also have to ask yourself if he does anything to cause you to be insecure. Maybe you need to find a better boyfriend.

Answer 7

Well, I'm sorry, but you are beautiful just the way you are!!! Maybe working on your self- esteem would be a start. STOP, worrying about what other people think! Just remember, alot of those girls have issues and some may even have weight problems of there own. So,don't worry about it, God made you the way you are for a reason, just be "HAPPY"!!!!!!

Answer 8

Gosh, I did not know where to start with this one. Has your boyfriend ever complained about your weight? But your real issue is your insecurity because of your weight. Since you realize you are overweight, perhaps you could try to get a bit more exercise, eat just a little less. I know that it is difficult to lose weight, but from a health standpoint, it will only benefit you. This is the only way you will get over this feeling.

Answer 9

I used to be the thin girl and now I am on the other side. So yes, I sometimes question whether or not my husband would leave me. I am 5'4" and weigh 152lbs. I used to weigh 100lbs at one point. I have heard my mom say how much better and happier I look now! All we can do is work out and eat right. I know it is hard to commit sometimes, but you have to force yourself.

Answer 10

Well, It just so happens that I have a friend who weighs about 425, and she has that same problem, but I will tell you what I tell her, don't ever feel insecure, or feel like you don't deserve something, stop focusing on the girls that you feel are better, but really open your eyes and look beyond that, and beyond them, and look at everybody, and everybodies problems cause everybodies got them, and if it's him thats making you feel like that then maybe he don't deserve you.