Friend problem?

Question

Friend problem

I have this friend.. we known cmg to 5 years..she mad at me for not contributing with my other friends on her birthday gift and i did not turn up for her birthday dinner.
1st thing : i have no idea when the dinner was i mean no one updated me on the details. the organiser(one of my friends too) told the rest that i was uncontactable .. i mean to me, one of them can just always email me if cannot get me through phone .. im also on msn n some of dem were also online but no one approached me.
ok i knew that her birthday was near frankly speaking i cant remember the exact date. i mean i cant even remmber all of my friends birthdays.. now this birthday girl making such a big deal about me not givign her presents n stuff.. recently i got to know that she deleted me from her msn list.

the thing about this birthday girl is that i'm quite disheartened with her.. last time we used to work in the same building same area.. but i was just a mere part-timer..shes a permenant staff dere.. i mean if we are friends where we travel together( meaning in a group) have dinner together and when she was with her working collegues she pratically ignored me even when i said hi
one time i said," hey how are you,?" when i saw her..that time she was with her collegue.. she gave me an annoyed look and even one of my other working fren ask is she yr friend,, but why is she giving u that i dont like you look.. i feel so humiliated dere.. i was just being nice saying hi n that how i got treated.. i found out that her so collegue dont like me because i'm not in the high class standard..
i was so upset after 5 years she dumbs me for her high class friends. and now shes going around making up stories as if i was the evil one in this whole thing.. do u think shes not worth it as a friend?

And we are both like 25 .. thats the thing i dont understand.. as we grow older is it easier to compromise or being able to understand .. i mean i do have a life besides them

ahha i know my spelling is bad.. im at werk and need to type fast before anyone catches me ..:d

Answer 1

It sounds to me like your so called friend thinks she has out-grown you!! I would try to make some new friends, & just act as cool toward her as she does to you! If she asks you whats wrong, just act as if you have too many things going on in your life, & that you just haven't had time to talk to her! Let her know that she is not your only friend!! Chances are, she will get tired of her new-found colleges soon & start wanting you back as her friend. If so, do something with her on occasin--be careful not to act like she did, just let her know you have other friends, also!

Answer 2

I hate to say this, but it looks like your friendship might be over. Then again, maybe not. She is probably one of those very sensitive people when it comes to certain things, and you not showing up to her party, getting her a gift, or even just giving her a card--it is obvious to me that her feelings are really hurt. If her feelings were not hurt like that, she would not be looking at you like you make her sick and talking about you to others or deleting you from her email and group of friends. I would give her a little bit of time like a couple of weeks, and if she does not come around after that, forget her. 5 years is a long time for a best friend to be upset over something so silly as you forgetting her birthday. I had a best friend for years too and we always gave each other Hallmark cards if we could afford nothing else. My best friend and I always let each other know when our birthday was coming up and gave a reminder the day before or the day of. Even though you and I may think she is overreacting, she is not me or you, she is her own person with her own feelings. From what you've said about her behavior, It really really must have meant a lot to her for you to be there on what she considered her special day. You should take that into consideration. You should try to mend your friendship with her. You could send her an email/letter with quickly explaining your side but tell her you understand her feelings about her being angry and dissappointed that you (her best friend) missed out on her special day and give her a Happy Belated B-day card+a little cute teddy bear as a token to show you care. If she does not come around, at least you will know that you did your part to try to fix your friendship. That all you can do...if she wants you to beg for her to continue to be your friend and for you to kiss her butt...dust her off and keep steppin.

Answer 3

I am not too sure what you are asking, as your spelling is absolutely atrocious.

You cannot be blamed, honestly, for not attending a dinner that you knew nothing about. Let her know that you did not know.

If you did not know about the dinner, how can you be expected to contribute toward a birthday gift - better question - why should she consider it mandatory for you to buy her a gift or contribute toward one for her, whether you knew it was her birthday or not? Buying presents should NOT be a prerequisite for a friendship - that just says GREEDY (and shallow) all over it.

I don't think you lost a friend. I think you lost an acquaintance.

Answer 4

How old is she? I would say about 12 because the way she is acting couldnt be an adult. If I were you I would shrug it of and go on. She obviously thinks the world revolves around her to get so upset about her birthday. Dont worry about it.

Answer 5

I think the next time i passed by her and her colleaque, I'd trip her and say something like... oh my goodness, have you been drinking?

And until I had a chance to do that, I'd ignore her snooty A S S.

Answer 6

dump her a friend doesn't bad mouth u and you don't need that in your life.

Answer 7

damn her....it looks like she's not a good friend