♥What will I do??!!?

Question

I'm almost going to another school soon next year and I'm scared...but not just that. A lot of things have been on my mind that's making me lose focus on my studies and pay attention in school.

I've been thinking about being a senoir in high school and I'm not really good at being indeptent. I have to have someon by my side or else I dont know what to do...most of th etimes, I'm confused and lsot because I dont know where to start. How will I make new friends when i go to another school?

I will miss my parents too muc....what happens if i start crying because I dont want to go away from them? I wan tto go to a college in Atlanta but thats too far away from home. I cant be on my own like that without my parents or strangers that I dont know. I'm scared of being the only person in school who doesnt have a friend or someone to talk to? When I go away...I feel lost and don't know where to start because I'm not an indeptenet person and im not saying I'm a follower. What will i do??!

Answer 1

You have to remember that everyone else at the college is in the same boat. It might surprise you, but people who go to college almost never hang out with people they used to know who go to the same college. And everyone likes friends, so believe me, everyone at college will try really hard to make friends with a bunch of people. Including you.

Chances are you will LOVE it. I was unbelievably unhappy in high school. Very few friends, withdrawn, depressed, not very functional. (This was because my high school was a really bad fit for me--and because high school just sucks, really. Ask any adult :) )

I got to college and pretty much ran amuck--made about forty-two friends right off the bat, started dating a lot, became the life of the party--because my college fit who I was and because everyone else there had come from a similar place. Since then I've seen this is pretty much true of most colleges. High school starts to seem like a bad dream. You begin to live the life you were given, and while you may be sad sometimes, and upset and depressed, it won't be because you're totally alone at college. It'll be OK.

Answer 2

I sympathize with your feelings. Going away from familiar settings is always difficult. On the other hand, you aren't alone in feeling scared, of feeling that you won't be able to find someone to be a friend. Check with the school you're going to. If you're living on campus, they may be able to find a roommate that's from your area or even your class. Almost all schools have introductory session to acquaint you with the school, its layout and its facilities. Among the facilities are counselors that can help you with your feelings.

Let me give you an example from my own experience. When I was going to college, my parents told me that I had to go at least 150 miles away. They did this because I was very introverted in high school and they knew that if I attended school locally, I would be back every weekend rather than living on my own. When I got there, I only knew a few people from my school but they were scattered across the campus and we really didn't get together.

I started talking with my roommate, the others on the floor, classmates. I found a number of kindred spirits. I checked out a few of the organizations on campus that sounded interesting. I also participated in the fraternity rush activities and was lucky enough to be selected for a really good fraternity.

It'll be hard, trust me. But you will find people that will be friends for you and you'll have experiences that you would never be able to have if you stayed at home. It will take effort and a little courage on your part but your work will be repaid many times over.

Answer 3

Contact the school. Go for a visit. They love people to visit for a day. Then, you go and meet the people. You'll find that they are friendly and not friendly, busy, and also playful. Just like home. On the other hand, if you want to stay with your parents all your life, or even a few more years, do home-schooling or distance education.

You are good at communicating. You can just tell everyone you're worried because you will have no friends there and no parents. They'll remind you to call your parents!!

Don't worry too much about clothing, looks, being nervous, what you say, and all that. Try to look nice, but expect to show your stress. For example, I went to Taiwan all by myself. I had a job, starting as a teacher, for the very first time. On the first day of work in the room full of people, I told everyone I had no friends in Taiwan. I was asked to make a ten-minute speech. but managed about 50 seconds. I was wearing a tie (and other clothing too!) Ten minutes later, one of the young women asked me to a picnic at an old-folks home with her family and friends. Instant friends - you can do it too!

Answer 4

Why not go to a school that's near your home, but live in a dorm. Then you'll be sort of independent, but you'll have the safe feeling of being close to your parents. After a year or two, you might feel like, yeah, I'm getting used to being on my own, and you could transfer to the Atlanta school. I guarantee you'll make plenty of friends at college, it's hard to avoid.