My byf my bestfriend and practically everyone I know is gothic and my Mom doesn't like my friends and last ight I snuck out when my Mom was sleeping and now she said I can't talk to 'em should I stop being they're friends but then I wouldn't be a very good friend but I'm not sure what to do please help any advice would help.
2006-09-20 16:04:09 · 15 answers · asked by outlandishb13 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i would ask my mom why and what is wrong with being their friends. just talk to her bout the sistuation. and next time i would say don't sneak out. cuz that may make her think your friends are having a "bad influence" on you. trust me on that one! and my mom doesn't like my friend that i have known since like 4th grade cuz she went all "emo" and stuff and so my mom calls her weird. and but i don't think they are weird cuz umm... im kinda emo myself... so if she thinks all emos are weird my mom better change her mind lol. oh well im proud of my weirdness!
2006-09-20 18:11:00 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Tyson Ritter♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you shouldn't have snuck out because now your Mom knows she can't trust you and I bet she's just worried about your friend coaxing or influencing you to do things that you would not normally do. You don't have to stop being friends with them, but you do have to start respecting your Mother. If these Goth friends are really friends at all they will understand and respect the fact that there are rules that you have to abide by in your home. prove to your Mom that you can be trusted and never let her down again. Be a leader and not a follower. Your Mom just doesn't want you to be led into a lifestyle that she doesn't trust. If your Goth friends are worth being friends with, introduce them to your Mom and give her the opportunity to know them as you do. She might like them, but if she doesn't, respect the rules.
2006-09-20 23:17:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the gothic looks "scares" a lot of people as it is perceived negatively. I know a lot of "gothic" people who are good people with big hearts, the gothic look is just how they express themselves. Ask yourself this...Does your mom have something to worry about? Have you changed the way you act since hanging out with this particular group of people? Have you tried to have a conversation with your mom about this, and maybe include your friends too, so your mom can see that they are good people. Your mom is trying to protect you. Whether she is right or wrong about this is yet to be seen, however you are not doing yourself any favors by sneaking out! You have to earn your mom's trust, and you didn't do so by sneaking out! More than anything you need to communicate with your mom, just because they are gothic doesn't mean they are bad people. Ask your mom what scares her about their look, image, etc. Why does she feel that way? Communication is key. I'm certain you are at an age where you really don't want to communicate with your parents, I think EVERYONE of us have went through that at one time or another, but it is the most important aspect of any relationship. Approach it with a mature attitude, and be open minded about her feelings, and ask her to do the same for you. Best of luck to ya!
2006-09-20 23:15:07 · answer #3 · answered by goofyslurpy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friends are influencing you to disobey your parents is there any wonder why your mom don't like them? Now you didn't say how old you are, but I would say follow your parents rules. Here is something to think about: Most of the friends I had in High School are in jail and are no longer my friends. My mother still loves me even after all the bad things I did that make all parents worry. FAMILY IS EVERY THING.
2006-09-20 23:14:50 · answer #4 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Obey your Mom. She loves you and wants you to be safe. Believe it or not, she wants you to be happy too. She probably thinks that your friends will get you in trouble and doesn't want you to associate with them.
2) Sneaking out was STUPID and SELFISH. Sorry to be so blunt, but it really was. You were only thinking about yourself and didn't consider your Mom and how she'd feel. Of course she's mad. Wouldn't you be? By sneaking out, you've confirmed her suspicions that your friends will get you in trouble.
3) Mom said not to see your friends so you should listen to her and wait until she calms down. It may be a few days or a week. Calmly talk to her about it after she relaxes. Remain calm and listen to her concerns. Remember that she has feelings too. Don't make her mad as you will only make things worse. Reason with her. She will relent if you are reasonable and ask nicely.
Good luck!
2006-09-20 23:29:01 · answer #5 · answered by ssbn598 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you snuck out has a lot to do with your mom not liking your friends. Wether they are or not, behaviour like that makes them look like bad influences. Maybe if you were more respectful of your mother, she would be more understanding.
2006-09-20 23:09:31 · answer #6 · answered by Val 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as they're not encouraging you to do things which are harmful to your health and well being, you should be okay. It sounds like they're encouraging to disobey your parents, though, which may be the real reason why your mom doesn't like them. Just remember: real friends don't get their friends in trouble and leave them to deal with the fall out.
2006-09-20 23:08:10 · answer #7 · answered by spunk113 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know what to tell you about disobeying your Mom. Does she really know your friends? Maybe you should ask her to meet them and talk to them. She might change her mind. But, I have to say I see "Goth" kids around alot here in Philly. They have been waitresses and waiters, and some have worked in coffee shops. They have all been pleasant and respectful so I have no problem with them. I don't care how they dress or wear their hair if they don't care about mine. : )
2006-09-20 23:46:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nn oyou should still be friend with everyone but if you want her to at least be ok witht hem stop sneaking out and stuff or your kinda screwed on that. And even if she doesnt like them.. so what shell learn to deal :)
2006-09-20 23:08:03 · answer #9 · answered by ill_be_up_in_5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that your mom doesn't like them because their goths? Or because you snuck out of the house to hang with them? Goth, geek, prep, nerd, whatever the label, your hanging out with people that encourage rule breaking, I wouldn't encourage your hanging out with them either.
2006-09-20 23:09:06 · answer #10 · answered by frigidx 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋