My husband and I are currently separated because my 15 year old daughter is a cutter,she is disrespectful, rude and a control freak. She hates my husband because he makes her mind. She is currently in rehab and we are going to get back together. How do I deal with the fallout?
2006-09-20 15:59:01 · 18 answers · asked by Maja 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need a structured approach to dealing with her. Go to this website and contact the nearest Tough Love centre for your country. It really works.
2006-09-20 16:06:46 · answer #1 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. WHY is she a cutter? Why does she need to feel pain?
ALL Teenagers are rude, disrespectful ect.
There are many good books educating parents on teen behaviors and facilitating communication.
One I read was called I Hate You but can you take us to the Mall...or something like that. Author was Wolfe.
Excellent.
2006-09-20 23:06:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You act like a mother... Set down rules and consequences for breaking the rules... You stick to the rules no matter what...
If you had done this since she was a baby you wouldn't have a 15 year old out of control on your hands...
Karma is a funny thing it always comes back to bite you in the butt...
2006-09-20 23:03:54 · answer #3 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you are in for a hard fight. You can try to put more control on her but she will only push back harder and harder. She will realize her mistake when shes a mother of her own children. That's a hard lesson. I would suggest a military school or A summer long detention center to eliminate the attitude quickly and make her a better part of society. either way your in for a fight. Good luck.
2006-09-20 23:04:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's only 15. She needs to realize that without you and your husband, she is noone, nothing, and has nowhere to run to. She's a teenager. When she's 18, then she make her decisions. She's still a child. She can't even work and make money. So as long as she's under your roof, receiving your money, she's listening to all the rules of the household whether their yours or your husbands. If she doesn't like it she can leave. ......she won't leave b/c she has nowhere to go, permanently.
2006-09-20 23:03:39 · answer #5 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st off please tell us you didnt just say you are seperate because of your kid, that is pathetic. the reason your daughter is a cutter is because she needs some kind of attention either from you or someone in her life that doesnt show her the proper love, dont you think? again, her being rude, is getting attention. if she hates your husband maybe there is a real reason for it lady, open your eyes. plus kids come first. men dont . go get some counseling
2006-09-20 23:08:14 · answer #6 · answered by melanie_jokester 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a serious sit down in living room with her and ask her"what's wrong?" have a mom daughter day around town then come home share a bubblebath or hot tub together to calm down. all teens act out but this rehab is not necessary for her.
get on web and search for solutions. good luck
2006-09-20 23:04:35 · answer #7 · answered by Necat T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a family counselor. Find out if she is cutting herself for attention or some deeper problem. Show her love, but make sure she know that at 15 years old she ain't controlling anything.
2006-09-20 23:05:36 · answer #8 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter is the way she is because she learned it frm somebody. I think you have to figure out where she got this behavior from and fix that first because if you don't it is just going to be more of the same. She has to learn somehow that to act that way is just not acceptable behavior anytime, anywhere. She needs a new role model. The old one did not work.
2006-09-20 23:04:56 · answer #9 · answered by Kokopelli 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it, but if she's acting like that, she probably didn't get the discipline she needed when she was younger (I'll admit some kids are just like that, if you did everything right). You're going to have to be firm with her and be willing to put your foot down. Set boundaries and stick with 'em. If she gets violent, call the cops.
Good luck!!
2006-09-20 23:02:21 · answer #10 · answered by spunk113 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋