Well... I've sort of got a problem. Whenever my husband goes "down" on me.. I can't seem to orgasm. Is there any tips or anything I could give him?? We openly talk about sex, so me telling him wouldn't bother him at all.. but it does bother him that he can't get me to. Maybe hes just bad at it.. haha.. I dont know! Give me some advice! Thanks!
2006-09-20 15:57:42 · 18 answers · asked by an1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tell him to go very slow on your clit
2006-09-20 16:00:03 · answer #1 · answered by mike k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I've only had one other guy besides my bf (now). My bf always goes down on me and I get sooo close ... but it just won't come out. Lol... It's not that he's bad at it cuz OMG it's awesome... if I tell him he's at the right spot he keeps going even if his muscles (mouth... lol) are tired... he's always thinking of pleasing me. Which I LOVE! :) ... Being OPEN about sex is great cuz u'll definately get what you want. Uumm... have you tried or has he TRIED something different... does he REALLY stimulate you like your mind and BODY?.... Maybe if you guys do it in some place where you think or know u'll get caught? does that arouse you more? maybe he'd be able to get you to the point of an orgasm by you watching a porn? I dunno... just definately try something outta the ordinary... and that will probly get you to ur point of ... MMMM... MM>.. good :)
2006-09-20 23:08:05 · answer #2 · answered by sweetsuezq4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mens Health has a segment on oral in one of their books, I found it educational ( improved my technique) For you I recommend a product called Climatique(Highly endorsed by my woman).www.climatique.org or(888)2440229.A heads up ,their sales people are pushy,just get 1 bottle. they will try to sell you all sorts of stuff. You said you speak openly , have you told him."Do it like this , right here?" Best to ya.
2006-09-21 00:46:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are books that you can buy that can help you. It can be fun to read and practice the techniques together. Also, perhaps you can masturbate yourself while he is performing oral sex to help stimulate and condition your mind to orgasm when receiving oral pleasure. And, if you are achieving orgasm during penetration, perhaps it is not such a big deal that it is not ocurring during oral sex.
2006-09-20 23:06:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy a copy of The Sex Book and read it together, or shop Playboy for Nina Hartley's Oral DVD and view it together. If those don't work, look for a good therapist. B.
2006-09-20 23:01:34 · answer #5 · answered by Brian M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show him the little man in the boat, tell him to use his tongue around it with great gentility, and then
while he's practicing, tell him out loud how he's doing
In a little while, less than two weeks, you'll both be locked in on how to do this right.
2006-09-20 23:04:39 · answer #6 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes its hard to O just by oral stimulation. Have him try inserting fingers while licking you. It is about rhythm, If he takes it nice and slow you should be alright. Each person is different and make sure that you are already aroused. Good luck.
2006-09-20 23:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by tpurtygrl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be perfectly honest....I have been with several men and only one of them has ever made me have an "O" by giving me oral. Of course this was in my young, single, wild days. Most men don't know how to give oral. Just tell him to be gentle, and let him know what you like and what you don't.
2006-09-20 23:01:30 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have NEVER failed at giving every woman an oral orgasm. It's all about the "build-up" of it. He just can't go right down and start going at it....He needs to tease you and build major anticipation...then go slowly....not rough......seriously, it works EVERY time.
2006-09-20 23:08:32 · answer #9 · answered by hailyankees 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband is just terrible at oral sex...I've pretty much given up on it myself.
2006-09-21 01:09:35 · answer #10 · answered by cowgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with hailyankee
2006-09-21 00:09:22 · answer #11 · answered by katydid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋