What is the point of cheating?

Question

Why get married if you are going to cheat? Why not get a divorce and do what you want do? or Why not get what you want from your wife/husband?

Answer 1

I think to some people its the thrill of getting away with something. Each time they take it a little farther until there finally caught. Its almost like a game to them. Just my thoughts anyway

Answer 2

Because divorce is expensive and emotionally painful, somewhat socially unacceptable and not as fun as cheating. When people cheat, it is very exciting. And people cheat because some of their emotional needs are not being met in the marriage so some of them are met in the affair. In fact, many people have stated that it is like being on a constant high. You are using sound, rational logic but people who are in the throes of a sexual or emotional affair are anything but logical - but more in a state akin to drunkardness!

But what usually happens is that when the affair ends, the person usually becomes very depressed because he or she no longer have the excitement of cheating. Cheating is a short cut and short cuts just don't work long-term.

I think the best way to avoid cheating is to first find a partner that you are compatible with emotionally, physically, spiritually and intellectually. Make sure that both people have the same lifestyle goals and child rearing goals and know how to have fun together. Learn to accept the other person for whom he or she is at the time of the marriage. Schedule regular quality time together and be helpful toward each other. It is also important to love and like yourself and to be happy in yourself. It is very unfair to marry someone and to expect that person to make you happy. Only you are responsible for your happiness. Your goal is to meet someone who is also happy and then each person can share happiness with each other. Even under the best compatibilty scenario, marriage requires constant work, patience, respect and love. Ultimately, there should a committment to the marriage which includes never cheating, total honesty and putting the marriage first before children or extended family and a conscious and diligent effort to meet each other needs!

Good luck!

Answer 3

Are you serious?

Look people cheat because it is there in front of them, something is lacking at home, and they miss the old times when they were single. People do it because they think they won't get caught, and they will fill the void they are missing. Life isn't working off blueprints, it is dirty and messy.

People look at it like, I wont' get caught, and can go back to doing what I was doing before. I can have the best of both worlds. Getting a divorce is messy and expensive, and don't even get me started if you have kids.

People want to avoid all that, but have fun (assuming their ex isn't taking care of their end at home). I am certainly not saying it is right, but the reality of the situation is people take the easy way out, avoid conflict, and by nature want to have fun, and figure out what they want in life (and or missing).

My theory is most people would cheat if they could (i.e. aren't ugly looking), knew they could get away with it, and could live with the guilt. Most people that do it have little moral fiber, and can sleep at night. I personally couldn't do that to someone, however I sadly think I am in the minority.

Overall point is people cheat because they feel it is fun, and they can get away with it. It also beats an expensive nasty divorce.

Answer 4

There is no point, but I'll tell you there are people who will get married and cheat : 1)Just plain selfish, 2)For Benefits, or quirks to being married without real commitment, 3)To show a facade to others "that matter" and do what they want to do anyway. So it's not really up to them what happens between the two of you but what You allow, make that stand and make it quick!!

Answer 5

Ahh you sound like I did after I caught my ex-wife cheating. I have since learned it is one of these. Revenge for some imagined wrongdoing. A way to be a free individual(a secret life). The pure enjoyment of doing something wrong and getting away with it. My ex-wife tried to start an affair with me not to long after she got remarried(is that warped or what). Also if their parents cheated they were raised thinking it was normal. Most people nowdays don't even have the slightest clue what a marriage is supposed to be .

Answer 6

I'm not sure that cheating has a "point". I think sometimes it's just something that happens. Yes, I agree if someone plans to cheat & does it repeatedly there probably is a problem with their relationship. But maybe its not that they don't get what they want from their wife or husband, maybe they just found something in someone else. I guess it's really hard to understand it unless you're in the situation. Thats my best guess.

Answer 7

People who cheat have weak characters and in order to cheat they are also liars.

Things happen in a marriage....sometimes they just don't work out.....but if that happens you get a divorce before you start a new relationship.

Answer 8

I don't think anyone gets married with the Intentions of cheating...but sometimes things happen and people forgive each other or at least try too... No one is perfect.....I believe in Honesty but i don't think we should judge anyone because they made a mistake... never say NEVER because you never know IF you will end up messing up yourself somewhere down the line....

Answer 9

when u start a relationship u dont think of cheating but when u begin to lose that loving feeling physically as well as mentally it is easier to cheat than to get divorce plus it cost less. there is also the thrills that go along with it as well as having someone else interested in you as well as ur partner. why do you think swinging is so popular ? duh ! the idea of touching another body that you havent seen on the toilet as well as the individual smell of another person. why do you think you prefer not to eat the same food for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. same idea.

Answer 10

i'm not sure of the point of cheating..but sometimes when ur with a person too long they get bored n wanna try something new..its not that they dont love u or care about u it's just they wnna c what's out there. but that doesn't mean that tehy don''t love u...maybe in the long run they realize how much they love u n never do it again