i am newly wed. i just found out that i am 6 weeks pregnant. i am happy at the same time i am a bit scared. i think am not ready to be a mother. Is being scared and feeling not ready is normal? how to overcome it? i am also working so i am also worried whether can i manage at work. Any mothers out there who can help me with your advice. i would really appreciate it.
2006-09-20 15:34:34 · 9 answers · asked by unfortunate gal 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well no matter how ready you are to have a child, you are never really ready. They are all completely normal feelings, they will pass and joy will overcome you. Congrats!!
2006-09-20 15:38:28 · answer #1 · answered by flaminfortune 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is four months old and I still don't feel like I'm really ready to be a mom... So, No, honey you're not alone! It's perfectly normal to feel that way! It's a big change in your life that you can not be completely ready for no matter what you do. So you would be strange if you weren't a little apprehensive.
However, now that you are pregnant you really don't have the choice of not being mommy. So Be the best mom you can be, start now. It will help you feel better once you start to hear the baby's heart beat and you see the sonogram and you realize that you are doing a good thing! Babies are wonderful and although they take a lot of care being a good mom means loving your child! That's it! If you love your baby you WILL do everything you can to make sure he's happy, safe and comfortable and that is what really makes a good mom!
As far as you working goes... What do you do?? I worked as a hostess in a restaurant 40 hours a week til I was 8 1/2 months along. And trust me it was a great thing! The doctors told me to work as long as I could. The fact that I was active was a good thing for the baby.
See your doctor, take a list of all your concerns and talk to him about all of them. It will help! Start getting things for the little on ready now instead of later. Once you see things coming together you'll feel better. And get on-line and sign up for all the free stuff you can. I go a free breast pump, diapers, formula and even a baby bowl. Get every thing you can!
Enjoy your pregnancy and good luck to you!
2006-09-20 23:20:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is -- many women have felt that way. Did you ever babysit or were you ever a mother's helper so you feel more confident handling the baby and knowing what to expect? If this is a concern, perhaps you have friends who have babies or small children and you could spend time with them so you get a better idea (hands on) . . .
Will you have someone who is experienced to help you when the baby is born? Talk with your doctor and let her/him know of your anxiety -- I am sure they hear it frequently and would probably give you information about support groups.
As far as working goes -- only you and your husband know what your financial situation is -- discuss the worst and best scenario and find out what your options are at work. You did not mention what kind of work you do or how long you plan to work. If you work when you are farther along, some of your duties may be limited by your doctor or your employer. Best wishes!
2006-09-20 22:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by joyann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found out that I was pregnant with my first child when I was 18 and 3 months after my mother died and my step dad threw me out. And her father took the hell off!! Talk about scared!!!! It is perfectly normal. I just worked as hard as I could at everything. There was nothing else I could do. Your work should make any adaptations you may need. It's the law. Talk to your husband about this. Talk to your mother or your doctor even. Your doctor may even have resources of places to go to take classes, help finacially, all sorts of stuff. You will be ok. And as long as you love that baby with all your heart and do everything you can for him/her the baby will be ok too. I am now a very happily married Mama to 3 kids. ages 4 3 and 9 months. Good Luck Hon!!
2006-09-20 22:45:03 · answer #4 · answered by glitz_and_glitter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wanted a baby for years before I got pregnant and I still was scared at first when I found out. It's normal. Things will work out ok somehow or other.. they always do. Later on you'll feel happy and excited about the baby.
Congratulations!
2006-09-20 22:46:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's completely normal. During my pregnancy, I was very nervous that I wouldn't know what to do. After giving birth to my daughter, the nurse wheeled her into my room and I remember looking at her thinking "What am I supposed to do with her?? I can't do this!" My mom offered to come stay w/ me for the first few days to help me adjust. Well, I got cocky and said "Oh no, I can handle this". Well, after attempting to get my husband to help me one night and watching him stumble around in his sleepy state and about fall head first into the bassinet, I called my mom. Those first few weeks, my mom got a lot of 1 AM "What do I do with her???" calls. You eventually get a little more confident. My daughter's now 20 months old, and I feel like I know what I'm doing most of the time...lol. I think there will always be a little voice in your head saying "Are you sure you can do this?" Good luck and God bless!! Honestly, just follow your heart about your parenting decisions- and never hesitate to call your child's pediatrician if you have questions. Take help from family and friends when it's offered!!
2006-09-20 23:41:22 · answer #6 · answered by JustMyOpinion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is very scary. But God is in control and he would not give this gift to you if he did not think that you could handle it. That is why women have the babies not men. Also I worked up until i was 8 months. I hate to tell you but the scared will never go away you are going to be a mom the rest of your life and that means being scared. Good Luck and Congrats
2006-09-20 23:09:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your baby is a gift from God...your feelings are very normal.
What a Blessing! God Bless again & again!
2006-09-20 22:43:56 · answer #8 · answered by I love angels 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with flaminfortune
2006-09-20 22:40:33 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. Plummer 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋