my ex broke up with me when i moved to another country and we were just friends since then....he was my first love...last week he called me and told me that when u left..i loved you for 30% and u loved me for 100% but now i love u for 70% and i said i love him for like 40 -50%...and he said that he wants to make a big step in our relationship even though i asked about WHAT relationship he is talking about...and he didnt say anything, he just told me that he wanna surprise me....anyway, my question is...i really loved him and i lost my virginity to him...i thought he loved me, but not as much as i did...but now i found out that he only loved me for 30%...what should i do?
2006-09-20 15:07:32 · 21 answers · asked by /\/ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is a tough one! You must be feeling very betrayed by this man if you thought he loved you so much more than he says he did! My gut is to say that if he doesn't love you 100% and you don't love him 100%, wait for someone else. If this guy didn't have strong feelings until you were inaccessible, I wonder if he'll go back to 30% once you two are together again. . .
If he says that he wants to take your relationship to the next level, ask him to come and visit. After a week of some intense one-on-one time, you'll know if the magic is still there - & if he's the one making advances, let him jump through some hoops to prove the way he feels about you! Have fun with it!
Lastly, remember that love ebbs and flows in lasting, long term relationships. The 40-100% and 30-70% fluctuation can be entirely natural. What will carry you two thru is whether you can work as a team to rebound back into the high %'s when you notice you're feeling low %'s toward each other.
Good luck!
2006-09-20 15:42:42 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly D 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone. If he loved you for 30% then he really didn't love you. You are in a different country. You will have more loves come into your life. Yea, you lost your virginity with him, life goes on. You deserve someone who will love you 100%.
2006-09-20 22:12:08 · answer #2 · answered by PROLADY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you still in different countries?
You've got to make the choice. Do you want to start the relationship up again? Do you love him enough? Because he may just miss you and be bluffing, know that.
Guys sometimes have a habit of not knowing what they've got til it's gone, then greiving for it.
2006-09-20 22:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by janelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only 30%? Now 70%? If it was 200% then well start talking. Tell him to get the stepping. You deserve better
2006-09-20 22:19:57 · answer #4 · answered by stemo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl leave him alone..... he broke up with you remember
probally because he didnt want to wait for you with the miles between you two... they never miss their water till their well is dry.then if he cant love you 100% of which you deserve to be loved totally. i think he is giving you a line of bull . trust me, been there done that!
you deserve to be loved 100% never settle for less.
and the time you were apart he only grew to love you40% . whats that deal!
dont fall for it... he is just wanting one thing of which he thinks of you as a cheap yard sale. you can do better.
2006-09-20 22:20:02 · answer #5 · answered by juni f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sit back and relax. Take a bubble bath and go shopping.
Live your life and make HIM do the worrying. It sounds like he wants to start a real relationship with you but is planning something. So, let him plan. It's not your problem right now. He might be planning on trying to prove himself to you. I would let him.
2006-09-20 22:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by Mama R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST MOVE ON. LEAVE THE OLD CHAPTER BEHIND AND LOOK FOR A BRIGHTER ONE AHEAD.
SEEMS LIKE YOU ARE STILL HOLDING A TORCH FOR HIM, THE WAY YOU'RE DOING THE MATHS THING.
HE SHOULD'VE LOVE YOU 100% FROM THE START TILL THE END. HATE TO THINK HOW MUCH HE'LL LOVE U 20 YEARS FROM NOW.
2006-09-20 22:19:05 · answer #7 · answered by daisy770 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a fact of life hun. You're not the first, and, until the second coming, you won't be the last. Give yourself a few days to heal, learn from it, and then move on!
2006-09-20 22:11:09 · answer #8 · answered by rhino 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't care for him anymore let him go. You take the chance of all of this turning into a horrible circle.
I think the ship has sailed and time to let it go, it doesn't matter who loved who more and when.
2006-09-20 22:13:28 · answer #9 · answered by crazy_in_lov 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him go away. You need someone that loves you 100%
2006-09-20 22:10:03 · answer #10 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋