He's the biological father, is really frustrating,it really irritates me,she'll only listen is dad is around or if she hears if he's arriving.
She has a fresh mouth with me ONLY, What can i do ? Can u advice Please?
2006-09-20 15:05:44 · 10 answers · asked by latin l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think this is a problem that alot of moms have with their daughters. I went through the same thing, my girls are now 20 and 16. I have just recently decided that my problem was being a best friend instead of a parent.The best advice I can give you is to fix it now! It can get pretty horrible later. I wish that the show Nanny 911 was on air while I was raising them. One thing she says repeatedly is to come down to their level, make eye contact and in a firm voice tell them what you need from them. And most important stick to it! Had I known how to do this I think we would have a much stronger relationship now. Just stay strong and remember you are the only one that can fix this.
2006-09-20 15:22:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to set the rules.....RESPECT RESPECT RESPECT!!!! The reason your daughter gets away with it be because she is allowed to. Your husband needs to back you up when it comes to discipline. If he doesn't follow through, it will all be for nothing. You two have to work as a team or it just wont work. Also , consistency is the key. Don't allow her to play one against the other, I'm sure she has tried it. If she got away with it, she will try it again. You and her father need to come to an agreement. Soon, she will be running your lives. Lots of luck!!
2006-09-20 15:18:16 · answer #2 · answered by CTMEDS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a mom so I understand what you are talking about. Kids really crave guidance. Sometimes guidance means taking a hand to their backside and other times it means taking away things they enjoy. In this case you should tape her without her knowing. When she is acting up tape her. Then when dad is around let him hear it right in front of her. Tell them both that daddy's little angel isn't really an angel and that you are sick of it. Tell them things have got to change and explain to dad that you need his help in the matter.
2006-09-20 15:28:25 · answer #3 · answered by momof3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because if dad dosen't have to listen to mom the why should I. Or maybe nobody every listens to dad maybe I will to make him feel needed. Truthfuly though kids at that age play up on parents its his turn this month but next month will be yours. I have 4 kids and they are always trying to divide and Conquor and at first it drove us nuts. But now (after 17 years of being parents ) we are slowly learning when the kids are being disrepectfull completely ignore them. And not just the one that is being dissed but both of us. They are slowly coming around.
2006-09-20 15:19:47 · answer #4 · answered by wants to know 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The father is more the disciplinary figure and she knows dad will get angry if she dosnt do as she's told. In a way its disrespecting you. Maybe try being firmer with her and letting her know its not acceptable for her to be treating you this way. She has you wrapped around her little finger (so does my son!) hehe.
2006-09-20 15:12:09 · answer #5 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to toughen up with her. The reason she will only listen to her dad is because she fears his authority and knows he means something when he tells her. If you tell her something, you need to stick by it so she takes you seriously. I'm going through this same thing right now, it's tough to be stricter with a child you love.
2006-09-20 15:09:38 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to have more time around you....you need to take sometime to do what she likes together, you need to win her heart and create new exiting things that can make her be close to you ...like go shopping or put make up on her as you guys playing , she would enjoy things and she will see you as a great friend , at nights go to her room share things with her, hold her tell her how much you love her etc...if you get defensive with her she will be attacking you ...so try to get her on the easy way
2006-09-20 15:23:04 · answer #7 · answered by Yami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make special time with her, take her somehwere a few times and tell her all the nice things about her. She might warm up.
2006-09-20 15:11:47 · answer #8 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I listen to my dad only too because he lets me get what I want at mostly anytime. I think he lets her get away with everything and get what she wants.
2006-09-20 15:09:16 · answer #9 · answered by Mariah W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has a lot to do with respect.
2006-09-20 15:11:11 · answer #10 · answered by Veggiegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋