How does someone become happy within themselves?

Answer 1

When you realize that there is NO ONE out there who can do anything to make you happy, sad, or any other emotion.

ONLY YOU can cause feelings within yourself -- and that means that instead of constantly being unhappy in your life, look around you ...

Take a good look at what you have, where you are in your life, what people you have that are supportive of you, what your interests are, and be GRATEFUL for these blessings in your life.

Answer 2

Here is what has helped me.

I went through a terrible divorce after 20 years of marriage. My ex had slowly worn down my self-esteem by telling me how worthless, ugly, old, stupid, etc that I was. Then he felt justified to have an affair. I felt that the failure of the marriage was because of my bad characteristics. I could not even look at myself in the mirror. I felt absolutely worthless.

I had to pull myself together enough to raise my two children and hold a job, so I joined a divorce support group. I attended meetings for two years. This helped me slowly understand that my ex had played mind games on me so I would take the blame for everything that went wrong. I still did not like myself. I saw a worthless person everytime I looked in the mirror.

I started finding out about myself as a person. I discovered what music I liked, what food I wanted to eat, what clothes I liked to wear. All of those things had been determined by my ex before.

I began to make new friends who knew nothing about my ex or my past. I began to emerge as a new person. It was not an overnight process. All told, it took about 4 years before I started to look at my reflection in the mirror.

I noticed I was beginning to laugh more. I found that I was more patient with others and learned to relax and enjoy life. This was a concious decission on my part. I decided that I had stressed out about life more than most people my age, and that I was not going to let things get to me again. I decided that I would only get upset about the important things. I didn't let other minor things bother me anymore. This allowed me to laugh at the little inconveniences in life.

It has been 9 years since my divorce. I love my life and I love myself for who I am. I will not let anyone else ever try to make me feel worthless. I am much stronger and know that I can live on my own without needing a man to complete me. Now I have healthy relationships where the man and I are equal partners.

Answer 3

First you have to learn to like and then love yourself, and this is usually about your self esteem. No one can alter your SELF esteem only you. Make plans for the future, because that is where you will spend the rest of your life / set goals to attain - "Goals are Dreams with a deadline". pursue activities that you enjoy on your own, then when you are comfortable and happy within yourself, and do not feel you need someone else in your life to be whole - Life will be beautiful! and you will also make a perfect partner...

Answer 4

you will become happy within yourself when you love yourself. you cant think too much about what other people think because that will just influence you. take time to get to know yourself and who you are, if you don't like something, change it for the better, once you like the improvements or changes that you needed to make, you will be happy. you can also achieve this by doing good things for other people, even just being nice, you'll feel great

Answer 5

I struggle with happiness myself. I think what makes me happiest is making other peoples lives better. Being realistic that I can't help everyone, just making the difference in one persons life at a time makes me happy.

Answer 6

realize what a great person you are and your qualitites. then you just need to be confident and LOVE yourself. (not being conceited.) just be happy that you're you and there is no one else exactly like you.
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Answer 7

Get rid of all the negative and toxic ppl in your life.

Answer 8

avoid been unhappy within themselves

Answer 9

be true to yourself