Okay. Herees the thing. I came out of the closet about a year ago. I am pretty flamy and femmine. But people see that as just trying to prove I'm gay. Why should I try to prove it? I do talk about guys alot around girls and such but they see that as being annoying. Why am I so obsesed with being gay? I can't help it.
2006-09-20 14:31:52 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You have a new intellectual toy, is what it is. You're still trying to figure out how to act like a gay man.
What you need to learn now is how to act like yourself. Gay is only a part of that. Get a boyfriend, get some gay male friends, go to bars and join some groups. I bet you'll feel less like having to "prove it," and will just be living it.
2006-09-20 14:36:34 · answer #1 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
We all act stupid when we are young. Sometimes we try to hard to aspire to ideals and stereotypes to fit in and find our place.
Maybe you are just a 100% femmy flaming queer type of gay man, and you need new friends that will appreciate your fabulousness.
Maybe you're just not sure how to be a gay man, so you're running with the stereotypical behavior because you're not sure what else to be doing.
I say, do some more reading about gayness and gay issues, and do some more living. Meet more gay people, get out of your house, get boyfriends, and walk in this world a bit more. Be the best you that you can be at that time, and keep learning and growing. Thats all anyone can do. And if your friends don't respect you, make sure you are worthy of their respect, and if they still tell you that you're annoying, find newer, better, less bitchy friends.
2006-09-20 23:33:33 · answer #2 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, Liberace was a flamer, and most folks LOVED him. Not because he was Gay and effeminate, but because he achieved excellence in his chosen field, musical entertainment.
As long as you strive to be the best at whatever you choose to do in life, that's all anyone can really worry about.
So you're queeny, big deal. Actually, if you wanted to go the glam-camp-drag route, you might find what you're looking for from a standpoint of emotional expression.
Good luck, and don't sweat the small stuff!
2006-09-22 14:54:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't obsessed but your audience is wrong. Change your group of friends to other gay men who are as excited as you are, or who are open to all the different varieties of personality in our world.
No matter what most straight people say, they really aren't comfortable with effeminate gay men. They just don't know what to do with you, and frankly it threatens some woman who see you as competition. Get a better circle of friends.
2006-09-20 23:44:14 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anonymous,
I do that too. That is; I get annoyed at really fem flaming guys. It does look like an act. But I can't be sure, can I?
Maybe you can't help it? I don't know. I am not normally around any bosy who's like that anyway. I guess time will tell. I'll have to look at it with an open mind.
2006-09-20 21:37:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are fine; don't worry about this right now.
You aren't out to 'prove' anything. You are just reveling in your new found freedom and want to share it with everyone. You are announcing yourself and willowing out the chaff.
One day you may calm it down a bit and then again perhaps you never will.
I say thank God for flamboyant queens and long may they reign!
2006-09-21 07:47:55 · answer #6 · answered by Temple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you win the lotto, would you show off?
You just found out that you are happy with yourself and you want people to know that.
Keep being a flaming queen!
2006-09-21 01:18:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's what my mother says to me. And I told her, it's not that I'm trying to prove it, but now that everyone knows, it's just easier. I don't have to hide the fact that I like women, and I can talk about liking women and not have to pretend to be into guys.
2006-09-20 22:51:27 · answer #8 · answered by Agent Double EL 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to act differently because you are gay? The really put on "gay" tone of speaking is just dumb for starters. We don't really all talk about our sex life or our sexual preferences that much , we don't really want to hear it either.
2006-09-20 21:51:24 · answer #9 · answered by auntynoall 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You probably thought it was going to be a bigger deal than it is. So just let it be. Get on with life, and all will be good.
2006-09-20 22:34:43 · answer #10 · answered by michael941260 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋