...*if you have slighted or offended someone.....
What should you do if your apology backfires, and the person becomes angry?
2006-09-20 14:28:59 · 17 answers · asked by (◕‿◕✿) 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Apologising is essential and the only way to resolve issues.
It is the best way to show you care and that you are willing to take responsibility for your actions and not blame others.
Often the pain is raw and time is needed to heal the wounds. At least you have said sorry. Do not say sorry over and over again. It can be an opportunity for someone to unload all their problems on you. If you are not forgiven then the relationship is in jeopardy.
2006-09-20 16:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by catty blond 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is only important to apologize if you are truly sorry for doing something that has hurt someone major or slight. To me there is nothing worse than an insincere apology...I would rather the person not bother. If your apology backfires, then at least you were the bigger person and feel better about the fact you did apologize.
2006-09-20 21:46:49 · answer #2 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apologising isnt important unless you mean it.
it's an act of being regretful of how you have made someone else feel and that it wasnt intentional.
if the apology fails or backfires, the best thing to do is really just be honest about what you feel bad about doing and that it wasnt your intention. If they're angry.. acknowledge how they feel and that it's understandable, then say something honest. "i would feel the same.." or "You have a right to be angry.." something like that.
2006-09-20 21:34:00 · answer #3 · answered by senacia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it if you are not feeling sorry for what you did or said. I would just tell the person that you did not mean to offend them, but you were only telling them how you felt at the time or where and how youe emotions were flowing at the time, that's all - they'll get over it and forgive you if they are a loved one or real friend. they may never forget. Just remember that you can't make everyone in the world happy- even your won family so- just choose different words next time you want to tell this person something similiar. think about your choice of words before you speak when talking about touchy subject matters.
2006-09-20 21:34:32 · answer #4 · answered by shalirha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if that person becomes angry, that's not on you, unless you insult them all over again with your apology (I'm sorry you're a dumbass and I told you so). if your apology is genuine and they get angry all over again, at least you've put your apology through and you can now sleep at night, knowing that you've put your heart on the line and it's now up to them to calm the situation down. it's just important to apologize to begin with because it lets the person know that your intent was never to hurt them, but had you thought it through, you never would have said or done what it was that caused the hurt. if you don't apologize, that person may think you really MEANT to hurt them and are leaving it up to them to make the situation right. hope this helped!
2006-09-20 21:34:22 · answer #5 · answered by vrandolph62 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always thought that apologies to someone it is good for mental health, sometimes times passes and it is too late to apologies and it could leave a very heaviness feeling in your heart, the past we can not bring back but the present it is here and the present it is what the future holds because on your actions your building your future....Apologies even if they do not accept it ...at least you will feel the freedom of not guiltiness feeling ...good luck
2006-09-20 21:33:51 · answer #6 · answered by Yami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apologies are necesary to stabilize the situation. N yeah apologies can backfire even if u do it in the most humble way. Like they say, time heals, so give that person some time and then apologize again.
2006-09-20 21:31:23 · answer #7 · answered by WORLD CLASS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It shows that you know how to show compassion to other people. Really, you should always treat others like you want to be treated. If it is ok with you that people hurt you and then don't apologize, then I guess you get what you give. If it backfires, pick yourself up, dust off and go about your merry business. You cannot make everyone happy.
2006-09-20 21:31:29 · answer #8 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are a human and you need to care about others and not be selfish. I think saying sorry can be one of the hardest words to say in the world. Why would your apology back fire. If you are truly sorry that person should forgive you no matter what. If they do not, they will get over it in time.
2006-09-20 21:29:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being able to take other people's feelings into account is the most important thing and that means saying you're sorry. Wither it's a family member, a lover, or a stranger.
If they don't take your apology then there's not much you can do, you can't control other people.
2006-09-20 21:30:58 · answer #10 · answered by Karce 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋