We have 2 children and have lived together for 7 years but he won't ask me to marry him. He talks about and say's he want's to get married but won't ask. It's starting to really bother me & I'm wondering if maybe he does not think I'm good enough for marriage to him. Should I leave? He's a good dad what about the kids?
2006-09-20 14:21:37 · 18 answers · asked by BOMOM 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You shouldn't leave. He's probably just comfortable with your situation! Talk to him about it, that's the best thing to do. Do whatever you can to stay a family for your kids. Give him encouragment without causing an argument when you discuss getting married to him. Some guys just need a push!
2006-09-20 14:30:38 · answer #1 · answered by bcre8ive2day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, personally i was with a guy for almost seven years with no proposal we had talked about it but i felt like he was too scared to make the commitment he was cheating i know for sure but anyways i decided after that long if he couldn't make us a legal couple then i needed someone that was ready we had no children together but he was around my daughter alot he was at my house alot my problem was i lived in a small small town so i picked up and moved other-wise i knew i couldn't take that step to break away because i loved him so much and was holding on to a hope so here i am two years later dating other guys i still think of him often and it wasn't easy getting over i cried for about the first two monthes every night then it didn't help we talked on the phone occasionally i just couldn't do it finally i went from april to july without calling him then i broke down and did one evening it was my last time to talk with him i will always love him but i now realize we could have never been more than what we were and that wasn't what i was needing so i can't tell you its too long to wait but maybe try and step back and really evaluate the situation ...i wish you the best of luck by all means if you haven't asked him do it if he says no or doesn't give an answer maybe he could be a great dad in his own place by himself
2006-09-20 15:49:49 · answer #2 · answered by short_and_sweet_72101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I personally believe that you're done auditioning for the "role" of wife after 1 year. After that, either he needs to propose or have a conversation with you as to why he wont. I'm sorry to say that after 7 years, he's not as likely to pop the question. Perhaps he's fine with having a common-law wife.
You need to tell him how important a real marriage is to you. You two do have 2 kids for goodness sake! Give the guy a time line! If he isn't interested in marriage, then you need to decide what you want to do. If the relationship is otherwise great, and you don't want to leave, then you may have to settle for common-law if you want to be with him. If marriage is an important thing for you, then you need to leave. Perhaps if he thought you might leave without the commitment, then maybe he'd change his mind. The kids will be fine, trust me. In fact, you'd be teaching them an important lesson about sticking up for your beliefs.
Good Luck!
2006-09-20 14:34:55 · answer #3 · answered by MsLongBeach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you want as much as now some years yet there is not any set time table. there are a number of components to think approximately like financial stability, adulthood, existence purpose/path. Take some time, if he somewhat loves then you you extremely can wait yet another 365 days or so. on the comparable time you do no longer wait to attend toooo long 4+ years. i'm presently in a relationship a sprint over a 365 days and we could desire to get married between 2-3years of relationship.
2016-10-15 05:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If marrage is so important to you then why did you live with hime in the first place. We have been married for 19 years and waited before we even had sex. I have a friend that has been commonlaw for 19 years. They have 2 kids and when they visit her parents her mother makes still them sleep in separate rooms. He says he enjoys having the bed to himself in stead of 6 inches of it that he normaly gets. My wife has an uncle who lived with his wife for over 30 years and married her a few days before his mother died so she could go on in peace. If you want to get married then some sort of pressure will have to be put on the guy cause he is very comfortable the way things are and dosen't see the need to change. So it is up to you if you realy want it.
2006-09-20 14:36:11 · answer #5 · answered by wants to know 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NONONO!!! too late to think ab this!!! I mean u have 2 kids that mean every thing perfect don't think too much ab marry. I understand u. Most woman like to marry but u have been togther with him 7 years already and he is a good husband and dad. He love u and take care of your life I think that enought to u!!! Did he put a ring on your hand yet??? I think the ring is more important than marriage...Stop to think ab this, it can make u and him r not happy...Love him like he love u...G luck
2006-09-20 15:03:16 · answer #6 · answered by nonglnalak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is too long to wait for him to ask you to marry him. Tell him like it is, if he doesn't respect you enough to marry you then you have to respect yourself and your kids enough to walk away. I know this from experience. I waited 15 years and he never did marry me. I wasted a lot of years on a man who didn't deserve me.
2006-09-20 14:27:46 · answer #7 · answered by k s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why dont you ask him, it is the age where it is not wrong for girls to ask, maybe he is to shy to ak you, or embarrased you never know ith guys, my fionsei took years to even ask me on a date. or just keep dropping hints that you would say yes cause maybe he is scared u will say no
2006-09-20 14:25:07 · answer #8 · answered by Els M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u love him why dont u ask it is the 21st century gurls can ask to its not he old fashioned way but what the heck people do it all the time if he tells u no then obviously hes not wantin to move ur relationship to the next step
2006-09-20 14:24:29 · answer #9 · answered by CC 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG heIl yes, that's wayyyy to long! Especially since you have two kids! If he doesn't ask you in a month, you should propose to him, lol!
2006-09-20 14:23:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋