every single day he makes up bull stories about every little thing???
2006-09-20 14:20:50 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you know what I'm sorry to tell you but he will not change i know that for sure!!! been there !! even if you kids don't worry you will find someone else you deserve better!!!!
2006-09-21 02:49:37 · answer #1 · answered by alina 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If your spouse is lying to you about many things (I can't believe anyone could possibly lie about everything!), then you have someone who doesn't respect you and who lacks integrity. The integrity of your spouse is at the core of the person and has very little to do with you. Unfortunately, it is almost impossible to get someone to change unless he wants to: any attempt to change someone will probably only make matters worse. I personally don't believe in divorce but if someone is lying consistently, then it is possible that there is some behavior occurring outside of your conscious viewpoint that may have a serious effect on your life or that of your family. If this is the case, then unless he is willing to address this as a mature adult and seek professional counseling perhaps with you as part of this counseling, then you have to start thinking about your long term emotional well being and safety. Being lied to regularly creates an emotional imbalance in a relationship and can be especially trying for women since they often seek security in a marriage. Other than ending the relationship or seeking counseling, I recommend that you just politely and respectfully tell him that you are not going to entertain dishonesty anymore - exactly at the time he does it. Good luck - this is a tough one.
2006-09-20 22:33:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's lying about everything every single day then he's a compulsive liar and needs professional help. Simply telling him not to lie is NOT going to work.
2006-09-20 21:28:12 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Been there. Lying is big in my books. If he lies to you about little things how can you trust him with the big stuff? I ended up leaving my ex because of this very problem. He felt that lies were sparing me the pain of the truth when it came to his cheating. I would rather know the truth. Best of luck. Have you tried counselling?
2006-09-20 21:26:23 · answer #4 · answered by june.johnston 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he has issues. His life might not be fulfilling, so he created this delusional world to spice up his reality. Or he is afraid to tell the truth because he does not play well in a lawful socity.
Are these BS stories hurting your marriage...if so you need counseling (both).
2006-09-20 21:29:47 · answer #5 · answered by John 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whoa, i just dont know about this one. Someone who is a compulsive liar has alot of issues. See if he will go to counciling, then make up your mind from there. You just cannot build a future on a pile of lies! Good luck! Be sure to take some time out for yourself, because I am sure that this has been very stressful on you.
2006-09-20 21:35:24 · answer #6 · answered by lovnlife 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, there is little you can do about his actions. He may be a habitual liar?? He may not be. All you can really do is try to convince him to go to marital therapy with you, OR change your behavior where he is inspired to change his own. For instance, if you usually laugh it off, try making direct statements to him about it. If you usually yell and scream, try talking to him calm and rationally. I would stress very strongly that you make it very clear to him that trust is important to you and without "honesty", trust is hard to keep. If he doesn't choose to make this a "big deal", there really isn't anything you can do. Good luck!
2006-09-20 21:31:00 · answer #7 · answered by ShineOn 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is something wrong with someone who lies all the time! You can't have a healthy relationship with so many lies, even if they are stupid lies. I'd find someone else if there are no kids involved. If kids are in the picture, get him some professional help!
2006-09-20 21:33:55 · answer #8 · answered by bcre8ive2day 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lovely ur married to the hibitual liar.. and the problem is they dont even realize they are doing it, and they lie to themselves so much that they really honest to god believe in the b.s. that they are saying.. its a coping mechnisim , in some way shape or form, some do it to feel better about themselves, some do it to make their life seem more interesting then it is, some do it to keep out of trouble.. ect.. so untill u know the reasons why he's doing it.. u cant figure out how to stop it.. its like a drug.. its an addiction to coping with his life in some way shape or form, but 99.9% of the time hibitual liars totally believe what they are saying, its like talking urself into something..
2006-09-20 21:33:35 · answer #9 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you need to sit him down and tell him you are worried about his lies and he needs to be upfront. If he doesn't want to tell you something he should just tell you "I'd rather not talk about it" instead of lying. If it continues, you should probably get some help or seriously reconsider your marriage.
2006-09-20 21:23:27 · answer #10 · answered by Green thumb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sing this song to him!
HIT THE ROAD JACK , DON'T YA COME BACK NO MORE ,NO MORE, NO MORE HIT THE ROAD JACK AND DON'T COME BACK NO MORE.
I think at that point he might get the hint that you have had enough. Once a liar always a liar. He is not going to change.
2006-09-20 21:45:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋