for the same, two timing, drug addicted, ain't even cute to look at anymore girl, who treats me like someone should treat her,, why, why???????????
2006-09-20 14:01:46 · 10 answers · asked by lee f 5 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Because in an odd way, you think it is a safe bet, The path of least resistance. You've been there before, you know it, It is comforting. It has become a habit, just like a smoker who knows they should quit. you know this relationship is not healthy but you're addicted.
2006-09-20 14:22:57 · answer #1 · answered by Red Yeti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have a deep-seated need to try to 'rescue' someone?
In that case, your childhood probably holds the key to this pattern. Did your parents use guilt a lot to motivate you as a child? Do you go into those relationships thinking 'they're really good inside. If others could see them the way I do, they would see they're worth it?
If so, it would mean deep down, you have a lack of self-esteem. You don't feel you can bring something to a relationship unless you're desperately needed. So you follow a pattern of being used.
There is no simple solution. These things are usually deep-seated. But I would suggest you stay single and learn to be happy with yourself until you can sort things out for you. You may consider counseling. Introspection is definitely always a good idea - take some quiet time to yourself to reflect.
2006-09-20 21:08:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people say the daughter 'marries her father' as in, the child gravitates towards what he-she is used to. Is your mother a druggie or two timing? I don't know of course, but it could be like that. This is not a unique problem, it actually happens to tons of people and usually, they never get over it. You might be this way forever, or, you could just be looking in the wrong places. Give yourself a chance, don't think you don't deseve better (unless, of course, you do) and have the courage to ask out a goodie goodie.
2006-09-20 21:11:48 · answer #3 · answered by Sirius Black 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because your looking for the same as she! Happiness in all the wrong places. Fun in the Forbidden. Pleasure in self. But on the other and there is a part of you that desires greatly to help and you’re powerless to do so but you try anyway.
It’s not your fault. It’s the influences around you.
That influence is called Satan. He is like a roaring lion walking the earth looking for whom he may devourer.
Here is what sets your iniquity.
Adam= his way
You a descendent of Adam= your way
Satan= his way
Humans= their way
So what is the common factor here?
WAY.
To many ways to go.
Then there is God’s way
And he started everything for good because he said so.
As for me I choose His way (God’s) it started out good.
Adam’s didn’t
Eve’s didn’t
Yours didn’t
Satan’s didn’t
And most of theirs didn’t
So what is left? God’s way that is good, loving and kind, just and righteous.
Sounds like a plan to me!
2006-09-20 21:16:43 · answer #4 · answered by Michael JENKINS 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BECAUSE IT'S EASIER TO GO BACK TO THE FAMILIAR, NO MATTER HOW BAD, THAN IT IS TO TAKE A CHANCE AND FIND SOMETHING BETTER.
2006-09-20 21:09:15 · answer #5 · answered by shortstack 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Beats me. Maybe you're a sadomasochist.
2006-09-20 21:09:48 · answer #6 · answered by S.A.M. Gunner 7212 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
we all do that..I think it has something to do with the way we were brought up..we just look for ways to punish ourselves...
2006-09-20 21:15:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
because you are attracted to unhealthy people and need counseling to figure it out.
2006-09-20 21:03:28 · answer #8 · answered by stick man 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is something about her that you still are attracted to.
2006-09-20 21:03:48 · answer #9 · answered by fla_dan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't understand a word you just said.
2006-09-20 21:04:13 · answer #10 · answered by whatever 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋