a friend of mine is asking me if she should go for it or not, her feelings are all mixed up on this and i told her id see what people on yahoo would say, so here it goes.
She has an ex husband and he has a new wife. They been divorced for a long time and never got alone until all of a sudden his wife comes around to wanting to be friend with her and because she is nice and has nothing against her she agrees to be friends with her. A few month go by and her ex husbands calls her up one day and flat out asks her if she would do a 3 sum with him and his wife.
She was shocked and now shes very confused, she didnt expect this at all ( i wouldnt expect that either ) and he seems very pushy to have her there. His wife has told her many things and also said she thinks he wants 2 wifes and she asked him if he wanted her back in his life...blah blah and so on....so should she go for it or tunr away complitly? i told her to leave it alone , not to give into him.
2006-09-20 13:33:51 · 17 answers · asked by apleasure2u 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If your friend is confuse by all this, then probably she wants to be a part of it too. Im not going to be judgemental about it. But would she be prepared for the consequences if she decides too? She just have to follow her hueart. :) Good Luck
2006-09-20 13:38:32 · answer #1 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are their children involved on either side of this relationship if so.. Definately not.. cause although u would think bedroom antics would stay just there in the bedroom, things always happen down the lines and kids end up finding out about it one way or another, and isnt divorce confusing enough with out wondering how come mommy, daddy and step mommy are all sleeping together?????????
Now if there arent any kids involved in this situation.. id have to say she seriously needs to think about this seriously because unfortunately even though we are divorced and we seemingly move on its very easy for women to revert back to old emotions.. so she needs to ask herself if this is something she can handle doing with out getting reattached as he is with another woman now.. and she has to think of how shes' going to feel the next day ect.. NOWWWWWWWWWWWWWW if she is doing this to be spiteful.. because im sorry i dont care how stable of a marriage u think u may have, having the x wife especially screwing ur man.. is going to do some damage.. maybe not today or tomorrow but eventually its going to take its toll on that marriage.. its one thing to have a partner that their are NO emotional ties to.. its another to have a partner that once loved each other and the fear of something happening again or him missing ur friend, or falling back in love with ur friend is going to play on the new wifes mind.. eventually.. So if u want to damage their marriage go for it.. cause it will ultimately even if the signs dont show for awhile after.. it will..
2006-09-20 21:53:35 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why should she give him what he already threw away. On top of that he is putting her in a position to be a homewrecker. Your friend is in a quandry because deep in her heart she likes the idea of his still desiring her. There shouldn't be any communication between the spouses unless it has to do with visitation rights and even then it should only be the ex's conversing. This is a baaaaad idea all the way around and your friend should get therapy to find out why she would be willing to consider such an undignified offer.
2006-09-20 20:50:17 · answer #3 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not sure
It depends on what you, she and he are feeling. Make sure everybody involved has thought about what they are considering and why. Also, make REALLY sure nobody is gonna get really hurt.
Honestly, as a man and like most men, I dream and wish for that sort of thing. If he gets it, make sure he deserves it.
I would do some serious soul searching first, anyway. You are likely to end up the odd person out. Make sure you can handle it.
2006-09-20 20:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the x sent the new wife to set this up and she should not get involved both for her emonital well being and her phyical health people who engage in acts like that usualy do it often with multable partners.she should revel in the thought that he wants it and never let him have it.Find a nice guy and be with him.
Ps im a man
2006-09-20 21:06:14 · answer #5 · answered by yankabilly46 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask your friend why she got married? if this is something she'.s interested in she should of done it before marriage!!! ask her why would she want to be friends with his ex and why would her husband want that kinda contact with his ex? he got a divorce for a reason.......if she does this there marriage is going to fail, it will never be the same. if her husband continues to pursue this then maybe this marriage was never ment to be .
2006-09-20 21:08:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her not to do it.I feel that it will end up with her getting hurt and used and would not trust anyone for a very long time.Tell her she is better than that.Its not worth loosing her dignity.There are men out there that will love her and her only.
2006-09-20 20:54:07 · answer #7 · answered by dreamweaver021557 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell No. Not if hell froze over. What possible good could ever come from that?She should just let sleeping horndogs lie.
2006-09-20 21:29:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If my ex called and requested a 3 way with me and her new man--NO!!
2006-09-20 20:38:55 · answer #9 · answered by johnnydean86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave it alone...huge step backwards.
avoid the hurt and confusion and there wrong for even approaching her with this.
2006-09-20 20:53:15 · answer #10 · answered by mrsgilleland 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋