2006-09-20 13:23:45 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
That is really an option you have to decide on your own. You have to figure out if it's right for you.
2006-09-20 13:25:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hun! First of all that you would consider that is a great thing. I was eighteen when I was had my daughter and let me tell you how hard it has been. I have said that if I could go back and do it again, no matter how much i love her I would have put her up for adoption. You have to judge for yourself. Consider everything. Do you want ot stop being a kid? That will be over with. Do you have a lot of family support? Is the father going to be around? And even if he is how likely is it that he will stay that way? Also is this a guy you want to be stuck with for the rest of your life relationship or not? These may sound like selfish questions, they are but they aren't. If you will not be able to give this child the things I mentioned then your child will be better off with family that can raise them the way that you like them to be raised. I still cry when I think of all the things I can't give my daughter. And I spent nights crying myself to sleep because I to come up with a way to earn money to keep a roof over my head and her's. If you really want this baby and your family will help you so you can finish school and help you while you go to college so you can hav ea decent future for both of you then go for it. But these are all things that you need to consider. I would say adoption is the best thing for you and your baby at this age. But you have do what is in your heart. And don't listen to anyone else preasuring you I kept my daughter because everyone was telling me I couldn't do it and I wanted to prove them wrong. That was not the right reason. Forget what anyone else tells you, do what your heart tells you to do and your head.
2006-09-20 13:34:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a really mature decision if you don't think you can give it what it needs. It also could be the best choice for you, your baby and some other person. You would still have time to enjoy your life, your baby could grow up in a loving home with all the love, and opportunities it deserves, and some lucky person who can't be a parent on their own would have a beautiful little baby to love. I have been trying to have a baby for six years so I know the heartache of wanting a baby and not having one. I also know the hurt and anger when someone else gets pregnant without trying and then they do something stupid like abort it. You deserve a pat on the back for making such a grown up decision. I would love to have a Little baby, I'll pray for you.
2006-09-20 21:36:24 · answer #3 · answered by Lela34 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember that once it is finalized you can't change your mind. Your baby will go to a home with people who can financially afford to take care of it and who also have probably been waiting a very long time for a child they have been unable to conceive on their own. It is a huge sacrifice and a great gift. It will enable you to continue your high school and college education quicker and easier. It will also be a very difficult decision and a very emotional one. Make sure you have no regrets. Maybe you should talk to a counselor, your parents, the baby's father, his parents. You have time. Make the best decisioon you can and go on with your life - no regrets either way. You have made the decision to give life to this child so no matter what you choose from here you have already made the right decision. God Bless You and Your Baby.
2006-09-20 13:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by therealprinsess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel that you can properly raise the child yourself the best thing you could do is to give a childless couple the chance. You could always have an open adoption so you would be able to pick the couple out based on things like religion, race, economic background, or if the wife will stay home with the baby. You would also receive updates and pictures.
2006-09-20 13:35:14 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a very difficult and personal decision. Please talk it over with your parents, grandparents, teachers, doctor or anyone you can. You need to live with your decision.
Unfortunately, many people will tell you abortion or adoption are wrong purely because their religion tells them so. This is your decision, not theirs.
Personally, I feel 16 is way too young to be a parent. Wait until you complete high school (and hopefully college), are married and can financially and emotionally raise a healthy and happy child.
Just so you don't feel alone, I found these statistics for the USA.
2,795 Teenage girls will become pregnant every day.
1,295 Teen girls will give birth each day
1,106 Teenagers have abortions every day
Good Luck,
2006-09-20 13:27:37 · answer #6 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you mean u want to give your baby up for adoption?
well thats better than abortion. but you are young and probably really confused if i were u i would talk to your parents about it. Deciding wether to keep your baby or put him/her up for adoption is a big thing. maybe you could ask someone in your family to take care of the baby, that way you will still have the chance to look after him/her as they grow.
if u want to adopt a baby at 16 u are young and won't be allowed to until u are atleast 18.
good luck sweety...
please talk to someone you know and trust for an honest answer. someone close to u wil be able to help.
2006-09-20 13:29:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I became parents through the unselfish act of a birth mother who placed her child for adoption with us. Our son is a gift for which we can never be thankful enough. Please know that there are many parents waiting for the love and happiness a child brings. If you place your child for adoption you will quite literally be the answer to a couple's hopes and prayers.
Whatever you decide I wish you the best.
There are many agencies that can help you with whatever you need. I would first recommend you talk to a trusted family member. If this is not an option for one reason or another call your local Department of Child Services (or whatever it is called in your area) or Adoption Network at 1-800-ForAdopt or Catholic Charities or Lutheran Child and Family Services or Bethany or virtually any church or place of worship, I am 100% sure they can help in any way you need.
2006-09-21 04:40:43 · answer #8 · answered by Adoptive Father 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that you can't provide the kind of life for your child that it deserves then adoption is a very wise choice. One day my husband and I would like to adopt a child that we can raise together. We both love kids and are raising 3 of the 4 kids I had from a previous marriage. Thank you for even considering adoption because too many young mothers don't and then they feel trapped and take it out on their kids.
2006-09-20 13:30:07 · answer #9 · answered by Diana C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Adoption is a great idea if your not ready to take care of a baby finacially or emotionally.I'm glad to see you are giving life to this baby and are thinking what would be best for him/her.Just remember theres no turning back once you do it , its done.I really think you need to talk to a adult about this someone who can help you make the right choice but, ultimately its up to you.
2006-09-20 13:40:51 · answer #10 · answered by ang3lzfir3_99 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is very brave of you to consider this. I am sure if you contact a lawyer in your area, that specializes in adoption, he /she could be of help. There are so many couples out there trying so hard to have a baby. You really need to decide a couple of things :
1. are you able to care and provide for a new baby and finish your education?
2. do you have your family's support if you keep this baby?
3.if you decide to give him/her up, you will need to be able to face that decision with your whole heart.
4.if you give him/her up, he/she will one day know you did it out of love, not because you didn't want him/her.
Best of luck to you
God Bless
2006-09-20 13:55:54 · answer #11 · answered by schmoopie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋