At the end of my relationship with my ex for the last month he cheated on me and lied to be, I contantly asked him because i knew something was wrong he wouldnt touch me or kiss me, but got sex when he wanted it. but he was seeing someone else at the time. When he finally moved out he kepted coming over telling me he just needed his space that he loved me and we will be back together . I found out five days ago he was with someone else that whole time i always asked him and he told me there was nobody else but there was. Now he has started **** suppossly i have been crank calling his girls house which is a lie cause u cant block a prepaid boost cellphone, they filed a police report against me for harrasment and threats to commit a crime never happened. i went to the police station cause he kept calling and yelling i filed a report and a restraing order. The thing is we have a baby together and he hasnt even wanted to see her at all bought heraringbutiasked him 4 diapers anddidntgetthem
2006-09-20 12:50:52 · 17 answers · asked by mom w/2kids 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I see no cause for an abuse charge, but if there were a charge for being a dumbass then you would have so many reasons to file one that you could bury him in paperwork.
You need to just get away from him and go your own way and have no more dealings with him than you absolutely have to. I would go to court and file for child support and make sure he has to pay trough the court system so they know what is happening and if he doesn't pay then there is a good legal record of it and you have recourse.
As far as any visitation with the child, the court should set up a visitation schedule and if he doesn't follow it, tough. It's his loss, not yours.
You deserve better than what you have. Move on.
Good luck.
2006-09-20 23:04:34 · answer #1 · answered by wetsaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound young. This guy is a loser. Take a step back and look at your child. Is it a boy or girl. If it is a boy, then you are letting him see that this is the way men are supposed to treat women. If it is a girl, you are letting her see this is the way women are supposed to be treated. Do not let this relationship ruin the short time you have to watch your child grow. Find someone who wants to watch your child grow with you. He is out there but you can't find him if you are worrying about someone who obviously does not want the same things out of life you do. Stay away and insist he does the same.
2006-09-20 13:01:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is called psychological abuse. Keep the restraining order keep far away and hope that he doesn`t want a relationship with his daughter because he will try to make your life hell through her. If you have to allow contact make sure there is always a witness to anything you do with him. You can buy a little gizmo at radio shack or other such store that you can attach to the phone to tape phone calls...do it. Take control of your life. Good luck.
2006-09-20 13:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by Therapist King 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOM: am not going to call this a abuse i think the friendship has just went out the door, if he has not came to see the little girl, then put a stop so he cannt ever come around to see her, I know its hard but you'll feel 100% better if he never came back...... There are other guys out there am sure would LOVE to take his place...... GOOD LUCK.....
2006-09-20 13:03:22 · answer #4 · answered by mike_m50501 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can file a report against him for filing a false report on you.
He's a Jerk. I would take him to the bank and make him pay child support. Get a paternity test so the lying scoundrel can't deny it's his kid.
2006-09-20 13:01:40 · answer #5 · answered by BlueChimera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I can offer is to document and keep track of the harassment, and name calling etc. As for his financial obligations make sure you get fair treatment for the kids but I ask as someone who has been nailed by the system to be as fair to your ex as you can. The temptation to destroy him or at least make his life miserable will be very strong but please try to think it through with a calm mind. Please bear in mind, if the payments are fair you'll more than likely be assured that he'll comply and make them...unless he's a complete meathead in which case you'll need to do what you have to. In any event, good luck!
2006-09-20 12:59:34 · answer #6 · answered by ron k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds immature. Too bad he's the father of your child - poor little kid. But seriously, I'd forget him, hard as it to do, but he's only going to cause you more grief.
I suggest you see a lawyer, if he is the father, he needs to pay you child support.
Not sure this is abuse, he sounds likes he's manipulative and selfish and he could also be a compulsive liar.
2006-09-20 12:56:52 · answer #7 · answered by LuckyO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first get a lawyer and get child supert you will see how long the other girl stays with him after that second get full costedy of you baby he dosent even deserve to be called a dad or a men
2006-09-20 12:57:34 · answer #8 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how to label this other than a F***ed up situation. If he can't be civil about anything, cut off all ties and hit him for child support.
2006-09-20 12:57:10 · answer #9 · answered by saelskies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, quit trying to have a relationship with this guy, and hit him with a paternity suit to get some child support.
2006-09-20 13:00:08 · answer #10 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋