he says he loves me and wants to be with me. but we need to take things slow. he yells at me and says i agitate him when i ask certain ?'s. i do love him but how do i trust him again. we have a long history together but he plays mind games. and we have been apart for awhile now
2006-09-20 12:40:24 · 9 answers · asked by Tam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you WANT to be married to him? NEED to be married to him? Is your life empty without him? Unless it's yes, to all the questions, then no, you shouldn't be with him.
2006-09-20 12:46:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, the fact that you feel the need to ask the question is an answer in and of itself. But, what I think you are looking for is validation of your own feelings. Many others have already said it, but I'll say it as well. No. He should not be trusted. I'm surmising that the questions you ask that get him agitated are probably those he is going to lie about and are probably important for you to know the truth.
Best advice I can give you is leave him alone. Keep on moving on and find someone who can love and respect you.
2006-09-20 20:02:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who get defensive when asked certain questions feel guilt or try to keep you from finding them out. By doing this you will stop asking and he wont have to confront the problem.
The dumbest thing to do is to get in a relationship with a person who lied and gets defensive when you ask him questions. If he is truly remorseful he will tell the truth and answer you questions.
When he comes clean then you should look into it.
If he doesn't and you still get into a relationship with him then get ready to have a big box of tissues and chocolates for those future lonely nights.
2006-09-20 19:59:23 · answer #3 · answered by LayLay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you trust someone who has lied to you a lot, yells at you, and plays mind games?? This really is dysfunctional. You can't trust someone who has proved over and over they can't be trusted. If you think you ex can miracluously change in a way you wish him to change - he won't. Accept him as he is, lying and all - or look elsewhere.
2006-09-20 19:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy Ego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a trick question? Should you trust someone who lied a lot? Of COURSE NOT. Trust is earned and you trust him when he's earned it. Earning it, BTW, does not include getting defensive when questioned.
2006-09-20 19:50:14 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you an idiot? If not then kick him in the balls and move on to someone else. I reccomend a one-night stand to prove to yourself he is not the only guy in the world. Then get on with your life.
2006-09-20 19:54:27 · answer #6 · answered by canadastani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need to just leave him, and I mean really leave him. You know he lies and you don't trust him, you've made your own excuses to leave.
2006-09-20 19:47:55 · answer #7 · answered by 57chevy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's an insensitive jackass with no respect for you
So, the question is: "Why stay with him?"
2006-09-20 19:42:42 · answer #8 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him hes a cheater and a liar.
2006-09-20 20:47:56 · answer #9 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋